My husband is going to watch me have sex with another man on Sunday (his idea/fantasy). I've said yes. I'm super nervous about this. I need advice?
Anonymous
About six months ago my husband told me he really wanted to watch me have sex with another man. After getting over completely shocked I thought quite a bit about it and decided it was something I'd be very interested in trying out. Over the past few months we've tried some other things to see if watching me with another man is something he really wanted to do (we started out with him watch me flirt with other guys and worked up to bigger things. However, we didn't go so far as sex). However, he's consistently (and strangely) enjoyed it (and often found it arousing). To make a long story short we've already picked out the guy he's going to watch me have sex with and we're planning on doing it on Sunday. We've also laid out our rules for what is/isn't allowed (I won't go into detail, but we're basically allowed to go all the way as long as its just sexual and not emotional. There's also a few kinky things he's requested to watch us do) We've let the other guy know the rules. I haven't told my husband because I feel guilty (even though he wants me to do it) but the more I've thought about it the more I want it/excited I get about it. I've never openly admitted it, but having a non-monogamist sex life with many men has always been super appealing to me. Moreover, I find the guy I'm going to have sex with super sexually appealing (and he's 16 years younger, which also turns me on). It's actually gotten to the point where I might be a bit too excited. What if I enjoy it too much and make him super jealous? What if he doesn't like it the way he thinks he will? Could it cause problems in our relationship? I'm really excited and really nervous at the same time. Could you please give advice on how to make things go as smoothly as possible? (everyone really enjoys it and no one is hurt)
It could damage your relationship if it doesn't turn him on as much as he thinks, but then you just don't do it anymore. Your relationship won't be broken unless you continue behind his back or want to leave him.
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bamesjond0069Guru
1 y
About 90% of couples who do this with other men break up. But of course you're the exception. Smh.
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HanrejYoda
1 y
It sure is an exciting lifestyle. The first time is VERY confusing. Most people feel jeallousy regardless of what they say or how they act... Most are very turned on by it and have to weigh jeallousy against arousal. Problems usually stem from lack of trust, wich is why communication is very important. You may think that you need to hide some things as you're worried telling him could put him off or cause problems if you revealed how you really feel or if in some ways you prefer other men. It could cause problems... But secrecy DEFINATLY cause problems.
One thing that is very important for you to have some grasp of is his reasoning for wanting this. Is it just visual or is there a feeling or power dynamics he want to i stall? Does he simply find it hot to see you with others or does he long for competition? Some will even want to feel rejected and/or degraded.
When you understand his motivations you'll know how far you can take it without causing problems, indeed... You may just be able to make him even more addicted to you by being more able to excite him sexually.
I have plenty if experiance on the subject but each relationship is unique and rather than listening to strangers guessing you should talk more to your SO. Then it'll be easier to give tips as well.
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FeelingLucky
1 y
You make a great point about needing to understand why your partner even wants this to happen because it is confusing at first. for both people in the relationship.
Hanrej
1 y
@FeelingLucky Thanks. Your point about this being somthing primarily for her is great as well. Can't believe I didn't put it in. Pretty much no man would want this kind of life for an unwilling woman but would instead be turned on if she really enjoyed it so it's really a mutual win-win if she can enjoy it for her own reasons. If she can and feel like she write that she wants this it's important to make small adaptations to meet some of his preferences as well. Most likley he'll want her to enjoy herself but there's gonna be some small things that in some way will make him feel included.
JerreMaster
1 y
Just fuck him and enjoy the orgasms
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lofiiYoda
1 y
Cuckold is gross
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JennieFYoda
6 mo
Indulge his fantasy. It sounds like it's yours too.
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WaldoeGuru
1 y
if you've talked it over then you have discussed if he wants to see you have an orgasm... he probably does, but check to be sure
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Dornelldiallo13141Xper 3
1 y
your man is a cunt
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CubaPirateMaster
1 y
Tie hubby to a chair in the room your having sex and lock him in cock cage. To ensure he goes through with it and doesn't try to pleasure himself
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CarolinacowboyXper 5
1 y
If you think it's going to cause problems, then you might want to cancel them plans and talk to you husband about how you feel about it!!
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YellovvGuru
1 y
I want to ask you something, what you can do if that guy have dick bigger and thicker than your husband and can't satisfy you as before after taking that guy cock inside your pussy? How would you react or what you can do?
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Yellovv
1 y
I mean if you don't like your husband cock anymore after having sex with that guy?
tbradleyXper 3
1 y
i say leave it a fantasy it is a hot one at that i mean hope you can make it work but if you care about your husband id say not to do it but if you do hope everything works out tbh i wish i could hear the ground rules you could even dm me to explain the rules good luck
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altdbobXper 5
1 y
So, he wants to be a cuckold, does he? Well after the first time get him a chastity device to wear and only let him out AFTER you have had sex with someone else and still feel like getting more from your husband.
If you want more kinky ideas and where to take things let me know (I have a very dirty/kinky mind)
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altdbob
1 y
You will have to let me know how it goes and depending on what you tell me and his reactions as well as how it makes you feel I can/will give you some ideas for next time.
Abinav021Xper 1
1 y
Sorry to say, this is entirely your fantasy but anyway congrats, you can do some random scripts for porno that will probably work even better.
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flaboi850Xper 1
1 y
My advice is enjoy yourself. Do what you always do. You gonna make him nut anyway. So lay back make him eat your pussyband enjoy yourself
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Anonymous
1 y
So how did your husband watching you have sex with another man go, and how are things now with your husband & that other guy?
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Anonymous
1 y
First I'll say I don't have experience with this to give "advice", but regardless this is definitely a risk. All those questions are possibilities and could very well happen. You should talk to him about those possibilities and "what if's" with him before you do it. Hopefully it will be as fun and exciting for you both as you want it to be, but it's possible it won't be. I'd talk to your husband about that possibility and how you'll handle it if it does happen. Don't wait for it to happen first.
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Opinion Owner
1 y
Sometimes the fantasy is hotter than the reality.
Anonymous
1 y
Dr Phil did a thing on this. Might look for it. Basically he said its never good. I tend to agree and have no further advice that would be any better.
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Anonymous
1 y
Well, keep us posted as to how it worked out. Maybe with an "update" to this thread. I have no experience with this so I don't really have much of an opinion.
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It could damage your relationship if it doesn't turn him on as much as he thinks, but then you just don't do it anymore. Your relationship won't be broken unless you continue behind his back or want to leave him.
About 90% of couples who do this with other men break up. But of course you're the exception. Smh.
It sure is an exciting lifestyle. The first time is VERY confusing. Most people feel jeallousy regardless of what they say or how they act... Most are very turned on by it and have to weigh jeallousy against arousal. Problems usually stem from lack of trust, wich is why communication is very important. You may think that you need to hide some things as you're worried telling him could put him off or cause problems if you revealed how you really feel or if in some ways you prefer other men. It could cause problems... But secrecy DEFINATLY cause problems.
One thing that is very important for you to have some grasp of is his reasoning for wanting this. Is it just visual or is there a feeling or power dynamics he want to i stall? Does he simply find it hot to see you with others or does he long for competition? Some will even want to feel rejected and/or degraded.
When you understand his motivations you'll know how far you can take it without causing problems, indeed... You may just be able to make him even more addicted to you by being more able to excite him sexually.
I have plenty if experiance on the subject but each relationship is unique and rather than listening to strangers guessing you should talk more to your SO. Then it'll be easier to give tips as well.
You make a great point about needing to understand why your partner even wants this to happen because it is confusing at first. for both people in the relationship.
@FeelingLucky Thanks. Your point about this being somthing primarily for her is great as well. Can't believe I didn't put it in. Pretty much no man would want this kind of life for an unwilling woman but would instead be turned on if she really enjoyed it so it's really a mutual win-win if she can enjoy it for her own reasons. If she can and feel like she write that she wants this it's important to make small adaptations to meet some of his preferences as well. Most likley he'll want her to enjoy herself but there's gonna be some small things that in some way will make him feel included.
Just fuck him and enjoy the orgasms
Cuckold is gross
Indulge his fantasy. It sounds like it's yours too.
if you've talked it over then you have discussed if he wants to see you have an orgasm... he probably does, but check to be sure
your man is a cunt
Tie hubby to a chair in the room your having sex and lock him in cock cage. To ensure he goes through with it and doesn't try to pleasure himself
If you think it's going to cause problems, then you might want to cancel them plans and talk to you husband about how you feel about it!!
I want to ask you something, what you can do if that guy have dick bigger and thicker than your husband and can't satisfy you as before after taking that guy cock inside your pussy? How would you react or what you can do?
I mean if you don't like your husband cock anymore after having sex with that guy?
i say leave it a fantasy it is a hot one at that i mean hope you can make it work but if you care about your husband id say not to do it but if you do hope everything works out tbh i wish i could hear the ground rules you could even dm me to explain the rules good luck
So, he wants to be a cuckold, does he? Well after the first time get him a chastity device to wear and only let him out AFTER you have had sex with someone else and still feel like getting more from your husband.
If you want more kinky ideas and where to take things let me know (I have a very dirty/kinky mind)
You will have to let me know how it goes and depending on what you tell me and his reactions as well as how it makes you feel I can/will give you some ideas for next time.
Sorry to say, this is entirely your fantasy but anyway congrats, you can do some random scripts for porno that will probably work even better.
My advice is enjoy yourself. Do what you always do. You gonna make him nut anyway. So lay back make him eat your pussyband enjoy yourself
So how did your husband watching you have sex with another man go, and how are things now with your husband & that other guy?
First I'll say I don't have experience with this to give "advice", but regardless this is definitely a risk. All those questions are possibilities and could very well happen. You should talk to him about those possibilities and "what if's" with him before you do it. Hopefully it will be as fun and exciting for you both as you want it to be, but it's possible it won't be. I'd talk to your husband about that possibility and how you'll handle it if it does happen. Don't wait for it to happen first.
Sometimes the fantasy is hotter than the reality.
Dr Phil did a thing on this. Might look for it. Basically he said its never good. I tend to agree and have no further advice that would be any better.
Well, keep us posted as to how it worked out. Maybe with an "update" to this thread. I have no experience with this so I don't really have much of an opinion.