My husband is going to watch me have sex with another man on Sunday (his idea/fantasy). I've said yes. I'm super nervous about this. I need advice?
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About six months ago my husband told me he really wanted to watch me have sex with another man. After getting over completely shocked I thought quite a bit about it and decided it was something I'd be very interested in trying out. Over the past few months we've tried some other things to see if watching me with another man is something he really wanted to do (we started out with him watch me flirt with other guys and worked up to bigger things. However, we didn't go so far as sex). However, he's consistently (and strangely) enjoyed it (and often found it arousing). To make a long story short we've already picked out the guy he's going to watch me have sex with and we're planning on doing it on Sunday. We've also laid out our rules for what is/isn't allowed (I won't go into detail, but we're basically allowed to go all the way as long as its just sexual and not emotional. There's also a few kinky things he's requested to watch us do) We've let the other guy know the rules. I haven't told my husband because I feel guilty (even though he wants me to do it) but the more I've thought about it the more I want it/excited I get about it. I've never openly admitted it, but having a non-monogamist sex life with many men has always been super appealing to me. Moreover, I find the guy I'm going to have sex with super sexually appealing (and he's 16 years younger, which also turns me on). It's actually gotten to the point where I might be a bit too excited. What if I enjoy it too much and make him super jealous? What if he doesn't like it the way he thinks he will? Could it cause problems in our relationship? I'm really excited and really nervous at the same time. Could you please give advice on how to make things go as smoothly as possible? (everyone really enjoys it and no one is hurt)
Wow. This coming Sunday. Keep us posted on what happens. The guy is only in his 20s though? That should be interesting.
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Weird how some guys have this “cuck” fantasy but they do. I never did and never will. Now if it was watching another women have sex with my girlfriend that’s a different story. But not another dude
Anyway I recommend having one last final conversation with your husband about this. Be brutally honest about all your concerns about this. Like what if you loved it and your husband regretted it (he ends up feeling depressed that he’s older and no longer sexually desirable as the younger guy). Really get it all out there because once you do this there is no undoing it.
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I love being the other guy for a couple that wants to realise their cuckold fantasies. Do I recommend it? If he’s watching no, if he’s asked you to be with someone else because he can no longer do it then yes if you must.
Rules? To the bull these are merely guidelines with large grey areas.
Here are some things to consider, when your husband inserts his dick into your pussy there is a bond you will have with him and it’s something that binds you together as husband and wife.
When you get on the same bed as the bull, first things first in his head he will be in competition with your husband whether consciously or not, he will be doing stuff on the bed to be better than your husband and the first thing that will happen when he puts his dick in you is it will damage or completely destroy that bond and bind, it will be the case that you find it difficult to accept certain flaws you put up with previously and less forgiving of his mistakes and above all you will lose all respect for him.
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What you are doing will destroy your marriage. This is still cheating. You are going to find that once you get into doing this kind of stuff it is a dark road from there on. But don't listen to me and find out for yourself.
YOU FEEL GULITY THEREFORE YOU KNOW THAT IT IS WRONG!!! If you are a Christian then you especially should know better then doing this. The point in being married is that you are going to be with just that one person forever.
I have never seen a swingers relationship that someone is truly happy. Not ever.
Your questions as follows
What if I enjoy it too much and make him super jealous? What if he doesn't like it the way he thinks he will? Could it cause problems in our relationship? YEA THOSE ARE ALL VALID POINTS!!! You have no idea what problems this could cause.
What if he has a STD? Another question what if he gets you pregnant? The child turns out to be his child... Ruh Roh... Now what? Now he wants his rights as a father to these children. Now you are in a major mess. If you use protection. What if it fails?
You are breaking your marriage. Why even be married if you're going to sleep with other men? I think that this is disgusting and super weird and you have good reason to be nervous
No I can not tell you how to make everyone enjoy it and not let anyone get hurt. In the moment you all might find this sexually pleasing. But afterwards the guilt is going to set in. The damage it will cause.
Then from here on out to cancel that guilt out you're going to have to do worse and worse things. Is this really the life you want to live?
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Ask yourself this. Who do you think this would bring a smile to the face of? Satan or Jesus...
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Anonymous
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lol U have a gay husband.
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Anonymous
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I was in the Lifestyle 10 years with my ex and have extensive experience with this topic. Pm me if you want to chat more.
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Anonymous
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Your marriage won't last forever - good luck!
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Anonymous
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Get ready to lose your marriage.
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Anonymous
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Damn, how old are u? I love women around ypur age... U women are so hot
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I'm 43
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Omg... Would u text or follow me if i went visible please?
Anonymous
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Just get naked.
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Hubby better hope this guy doesn't have a bigger dick than his.
Anonymous
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So what he is saying is that he doesn’t see you as a partner but more of a fuck device he likes to get off on some how. Because a guy who loves a woman would never share her or want to share her.
But as a female you will 100% start to get emotionally attached to this new male and it will slowly erode your relationship.
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Cuckolding may be his fantasy; but some fantasies should remain that way. My guess is that if you go through with this you will be divorced by the end of the year. So I recommend that you don't do this. Especially if he has any jealousy within him.
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7 50Wow. This coming Sunday. Keep us posted on what happens. The guy is only in his 20s though? That should be interesting.
Weird how some guys have this “cuck” fantasy but they do. I never did and never will. Now if it was watching another women have sex with my girlfriend that’s a different story. But not another dude
Anyway I recommend having one last final conversation with your husband about this. Be brutally honest about all your concerns about this. Like what if you loved it and your husband regretted it (he ends up feeling depressed that he’s older and no longer sexually desirable as the younger guy). Really get it all out there because once you do this there is no undoing it.
I love being the other guy for a couple that wants to realise their cuckold fantasies. Do I recommend it? If he’s watching no, if he’s asked you to be with someone else because he can no longer do it then yes if you must.
Rules? To the bull these are merely guidelines with large grey areas.
Here are some things to consider, when your husband inserts his dick into your pussy there is a bond you will have with him and it’s something that binds you together as husband and wife.
When you get on the same bed as the bull, first things first in his head he will be in competition with your husband whether consciously or not, he will be doing stuff on the bed to be better than your husband and the first thing that will happen when he puts his dick in you is it will damage or completely destroy that bond and bind, it will be the case that you find it difficult to accept certain flaws you put up with previously and less forgiving of his mistakes and above all you will lose all respect for him.
What you are doing will destroy your marriage. This is still cheating. You are going to find that once you get into doing this kind of stuff it is a dark road from there on. But don't listen to me and find out for yourself.
YOU FEEL GULITY THEREFORE YOU KNOW THAT IT IS WRONG!!! If you are a Christian then you especially should know better then doing this. The point in being married is that you are going to be with just that one person forever.
I have never seen a swingers relationship that someone is truly happy. Not ever.
Your questions as follows
What if I enjoy it too much and make him super jealous? What if he doesn't like it the way he thinks he will? Could it cause problems in our relationship? YEA THOSE ARE ALL VALID POINTS!!! You have no idea what problems this could cause.
What if he has a STD? Another question what if he gets you pregnant? The child turns out to be his child... Ruh Roh... Now what? Now he wants his rights as a father to these children. Now you are in a major mess. If you use protection. What if it fails?
You are breaking your marriage. Why even be married if you're going to sleep with other men? I think that this is disgusting and super weird and you have good reason to be nervous
No I can not tell you how to make everyone enjoy it and not let anyone get hurt. In the moment you all might find this sexually pleasing. But afterwards the guilt is going to set in. The damage it will cause.
Then from here on out to cancel that guilt out you're going to have to do worse and worse things. Is this really the life you want to live?
Ask yourself this. Who do you think this would bring a smile to the face of? Satan or Jesus...
lol U have a gay husband.
I was in the Lifestyle 10 years with my ex and have extensive experience with this topic. Pm me if you want to chat more.
Your marriage won't last forever - good luck!
Get ready to lose your marriage.
Damn, how old are u?
I love women around ypur age... U women are so hot
I'm 43
Omg... Would u text or follow me if i went visible please?
Just get naked.
Hubby better hope this guy doesn't have a bigger dick than his.
So what he is saying is that he doesn’t see you as a partner but more of a fuck device he likes to get off on some how.
Because a guy who loves a woman would never share her or want to share her.
But as a female you will 100% start to get emotionally attached to this new male and it will slowly erode your relationship.
Cuckolding may be his fantasy; but some fantasies should remain that way. My guess is that if you go through with this you will be divorced by the end of the year. So I recommend that you don't do this. Especially if he has any jealousy within him.