My Husband just told me he isn't satisfied?

[VesatileMarie]

So I woke up today , and I've been having this feeling so I asked him a series of questions when he woke up: " are you cheating, am I pretty etc.. then Are you satisfied? and it took forever to get a response to this one but eventually, coated by so many words, he says no. Now we've only been married since May and right now I'm just processing, What do I do? How do I fix it?
The reasons:
Our sex life is "the same" as in im never down for pornstar sh*t
I dont make anything easier for him.
and until recently I would actually call us "Happily Married"

[WadeDanielSmith2]

Well looks like you married a closet homosexual who wants to fuck you up the ass instead of the pussy.

My cousin married a closet homosexual and caught him cheating with another man, beware "ladies" if your man is more interested in fucking your asshole than your pussy, it's because he is a closet homosexual, AND you have grounds to divorce himi and will win the case, because if he's supposedly straight, he deceived you about his sexual orientation. My cousin won her case and sued her ex-husband for a sexual assault, because the judge ruled that by deceiving her about his sexual orientation he was guilty of a sexual assault. She won the case. It took her three tries, but now she's married to a straight guy and has a son. Her first two husbands were closet homosexuals she met at church of all places, who couldn't fuck her in the pussy..

[VesatileMarie]

you know whats funny? I have REPEATEDLY sat him down and asked and he calls me crazy everytime. at this point id what to think

[Craycrayhay]

This is gonna sound like generalised crap but it's true!!! Women of course want sexual satisfaction, but there priority are usually other things (affection and love) sadly for a man if he's sexually happy then everything els in his life would normally fall in to place. You may have to concentrate more on his sexual satisfaction in the same way that many men spend a lot of time keeping there wives happy in areas of life that matter to them. Just think this way! A 5 min bj out of the blue or a quick outfit change into somthing sexy will I guarantee make him a happy fella.

[VesatileMarie]

I've actually given this thought since I know he likes that? but i really have to get myself mentally ready for BJs, I never did them before him and honestly I always drink when I know im gonna do it, its just something thats a little out of my comfort zone

[Craycrayhay]

Is he normally clean? U don't have to swallow or anything. Take your top off play with him against your chest, kiss it, lick it and b4 u know it u will have a chest dripping with juice lol

[VesatileMarie]

Yes actually lol i was surprised, but ugh okay noted, more spicy things

[sheikalana]

What do you mean by I don't make anything easier for him?

[VesatileMarie]

Thats what he said, " I have enough to deal with then i have to come home and do whatever you didn't do"

[sheikalana]

Like what? Clean the house? Cook dinner? Do the laundry? Wash the dishes?

[VesatileMarie]

lol actually none of the above, i do all those except i dont cook on weekends (which we agreed in the beginning) but i think he means like stuff with work ( I work for his dad) and a lot of the time his dad goes to him for things instead of me for some reason.

[sheikalana]

Then I don't understand why is he blaming you for that.

[Arjunaguy]

Looks like he wasn't ready for marriage and is having second thoughts now

[Yellovv]

You are married nearly just 3 months, you need to heat up for each other, try new things, long foreplay, different positions etc...

[VesatileMarie]

I thought about that but I dont know how to get out of my comfort zone any more than I've already have, just some things I not ready for...

[Yellovv]

Maybe you are shy about it, just give him what he want..

[Anonymous]

Welcome to marriage. You have to work your way through this and you will. You have started down the right path of communication which by the way is hard for a guy so it will take a while. He is also still processing as I think it takes longer for a guy to understand his own feelings. Anyway, this is not abnormal. My wife was crying by week three of marriage. We are on decade three now and all is well.

[VesatileMarie]

Im actually glad to hear this, its been really rocky lately and I don't know neither of us knows what to do.

[Opinion Owner]

Sex is probably an issue in many marriages. It’s one of the most common along with finances. He needs to understand that porn isn’t what goes on in the vast majority of marriages. It’s just like the movies or TV shows, it’s not real life but entertaining. Even in the posts on here that becomes obvious. I did try some positions from porn like reverse cowgirl and liked it. That’s tame though. Do I get excited by others stuff, yes. Do I try it no... I don’t try James Bond stuff either like jumping out of a plane without a parachute to catch up to someone else and take their parachute... it’s fun but not real. Most kinks from what I have read Andre not that fun when people actually do them. He may have a sexual interest that you don’t know about. I am not sure you want to delve into that. You could though get him off more often. Sex for a guy doesn’t have to be elaborate, just a few minutes of hand or mouth. Walk in his shower, soap him up and get him off which might be fun. For the other issue, find out examples of what he means that you don’t make it easier for him.

[Opinion Owner]

Kinks are not the fun*. It was a type, Andre? No idea where that came from with spellcheck.

[VesatileMarie]

I mean i keep getting that answer so maybe that is all it will take, more effort on my part , I really have been trying with this marriage thing (even when he wanted anal) but shit im not a living doll!

[Opinion Owner]

We did anal when dating a couple of times. She didn’t like it and it was just okay for me but not so great. That though was when it was not done by many people, today it is more common I think and he may feel left out.

[Opinion Owner]

Just a thought, you may want to find out what turns you in that you haven’t tried and see if he likes that.

[VesatileMarie]

Interesting cause I never thought about that, i will!