My husband slept with over a hundred women and it’s making me doubt him?

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I guess more than anything I’m shocked and hurt.

I met my husband 2 years ago and until the point that we got married 3 months ago we were long distance.

When we met I was a virgin and made him wait until we got married. I had asked about his number and he refused to say I asked if it was more than five and he said “I mean a little more”

well yesterday my phone was down and he gave me his old iPad for the day as I was going through it I see sex tapes hundreds of them all with different women.

without exaggerating there is over a 100 women that he made tapes with multiple times. I didn’t look at it all.

but honestly it left me very heart broken and wondering if he ever cheated knowing that half of our two years of dating we were apart.

He never intended for me to find these tapes and I don’t plan to confront him about it, it just stings and I don’t know how to even move forward.

also I just find it insane that the guy that has slept with every woman felt the need to marry the virgin like what… surely he had plenty of opportunities that would’ve made more sense.

I know that he loves me but I’m now so insecure and thinking well why me

WindAtMyBack · Accepted Answer

1) If he has that many sex tapes, you can be sure he's been with a heck of a lot more women than just the ones on the tapes.

2) He could have all kinds of diseases. I strongly suggest that you be tested and demand (not ask) that he be tested. If he refuses to be tested, then you should refuse to have any kind sex with him, or even kiss him.

3) If you have not looked through all the tapes, then go through all of them. He may also have more that aren't on the phone you saw. Look for videos of YOU, which he could have secretly been recording. There could potentially be videos of YOU out on porn sharing sites. I think there is a high possibility of this.

4) I think it's 99% certain that he was doing this while you were engaged. He's too much into it to stop during a long distance relationship. You might be able to get an idea by his age in the video how recent it was.

5) This is the easiest part of my answer. Divorce him. Even if he is serious about you, he was extremely dishonest with you about something very important. He continued to be dishonest after you were married. If you had not found this on your own, you may never have known.

6) Talk to a lawyer and protect your assets. Don't announce that you are divorcing him until everything is in place.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

there was a video on youtube years ago I watched just like this... he was a player in nyc and then when he was done, found a quality woman to marry.

Lets review some facts:

You liked him... all that past made him what he is. If he had failed and never dated anyone, would he have been attractive to you? maybe not.

he has not been open and honest with you, that is the concerning part. not to mention all that he could have exposed you to.

Not sure what to tell you other than to be open and honest with him as this is a vital issue of security. If it's a non starter, then you better solve it now than later or get out.

Nature is kinda sad and frustrating. guys that get the girls... get more girls. the 80% whom fail, don't.

If I were in your shoes, I'd probably leave. but that's easy to say.

SakuraBlossoms87 · Accepted Answer

First off do yourself the BIGGEST favour you'll ever do in your life and have a conversation with your family doctor. Get yourself tested for EVERY STD imaginable.

He likely used protection but it is FAR better to be safe rather than sorry.

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Second make sure you let someone you trust know about what you found. If not more than one person. It's difficult but it may be for your own safety - #3.

The reason why I say this is It is a bit concerning he quit his job to stay with you. I will assume you are more behind the idea of a business than douchebag here is.

It's very possible - if you're the force behind the business - he married you for your current job / income or the potential future job / income.

Sorry to say.

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Third CONFRONT him about it.

I am not sure what his personality is like - you say he's very nice, etc. - but from the sounds of it he's a fraud and a bit of a liar.

So his "nice guy" persona might be a scam... hence why I said let someone you know / trust about what you found.

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Fourth & finally decide what you want to do.

You may want to do this BEFORE you confront him so you've a solid idea on if you want to stay with him before he starts crying & begging.

EmyyWolf · Accepted Answer

I f-King can’t stand men like this. The most s—lutiest of men, choosing to marry that one in a million virigin. BECAUSE IT MAKES HIM FEEL POWERFUL DUHH!! 🤡 It’s makes him think . “  Well I’ve been with these hundreds of women” time to settle with the virgin because I deserve her  “ And let me guess. He’s probably reaching his early 30’s ain't that right? He’s probably highly attractive too. And by the way he will cheat. You’re probably naïve because of how inexperienced you are. And he’s taking full advantage of that. He will cheat, because men who have had variety like that, to then settle for just 1 woman …. It is like taking a dr—g away from an addict. It’s EXTREMELY HARD. He will cheat. He will 100% cheat. The chances of him NOT cheating are against you.  
 
 This is why slutty men deserve their own match. A slutty woman. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

RoseySarah · Answer

Omg I'm so sorry! That is so cruel for him to do!

My hubby had secrets too and they hurt if you wanna talk more I'm so happy to!

Course that hurts and you can check the dates to see but I guess you could not have been the only one for all that time together long distance!

Was he nice in bed go slow make sure you always love it?

Ever want to do a video?

When is he going to ask you to film one with him as a trophy?

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Making you doubt him? Like the WHOLE evidence, is not obvious? What more do you want? To sleep with someone else In Front of You? 🤦‍♂️

katiesmuff · Answer

If you don't mind me saying I think you are a liar and full of shit! Again either you are the stupidest dip shit on earth or as I expect just a ordinary Bridge Troll most likely having a penis.

purplepoppy · Answer

Little tip guys, when your wife asks for a list of girls you've fucked, stop naming girls when you reach her name.

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

If he slept with a 100 already, heck even 50, he won't stop with you, he won't be able to ever stop. Unless he would get some kind of Permanent gentile disease or he would get an E. D. (erect disfunction) He is marrying you probably for a reason of you being a virgin, or there is a High possibility that you are just another tape number for him. DO NOT marry him, people don't change and as I said before he won't change for you, because you won't be his wife for long, you will be just another number.

LazerBean · Answer

That's just tough. You knew he wasn't telling you everything, and you married him anyway so you're just going to have to suck it up unless he actually does cheat.

Apple1996 · Answer

Wow that is fucking disgusting. I don't get why he even married a virgin? Probably a control thing. A man whore like that never deserves to marry a virgin.

Tbh If I was in this situation I'd divorce. Wouldn't be able to see my husband the same way anymore

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

That's why you don't go snooping. So men are supposed to not care about a woman's body count but I see a lot of pink on here complaining about his. Can't have it both ways.

EmmaMary · Answer

Congratulations on winning a  Troll  of the day award.

strateguy632 · Answer

but he chose YOU over all of them.

BlackJeep · Answer

You should've known when he didn't give you a number. I don't think it ever ends well when body counts aren't close to equal

Jamie05rhs · Answer

That's your fault. You married someone without knowing who they were. That was dumb.

LiamJHayden · Answer

" until the point that we got married 3 months ago we were long distance." That was a mistake.

shades777 · Answer

Sounds like he's got experience all the ladies are looking for

JesseP1nk · Answer

I wonder where all the women went who said body count does not matter.

Surely · Answer

If this new found knowledge is going to keep eating at you. Your might as well get over it or bring it out into the open.  Then decide if your marriage to this guy was a mistake.