My husband wants me to get a side guy... why?

[Anonymous]

So there is 30 years between my husband and I. Recently, he's been having problems performing. I've been patient with the situation we haven't had sex since October (which sucks cause my sex drive is through the roof) we've talked the situation over before and I brought up all the possible options that I know of to help. Well instead of trying any of those things today he tells me to go find a side dick... why would he do that?

[abc3643]

Because he loves you and regrets his ED.

Meanwhile, I have to ask...

Are you in one of those states where you marry your sister or parent or something because I see that you are "Anonymous ( >>>>>>>>>>> 25 - 29 <<<<<<<<<<<<<) and yet you wrote:

" So there is 30 years between my husband and I. "

OK, so that tells me that you must've been in the womb with your husband or had him _IN_ your womb.

Can you explain this discrepancy in the timeline or did you just... well... lie to us?

[Asker]

Nope just fell in love with someone years older than me. To be honest he is 5 years older than both my parents.

[abc3643]

So... he's... 90?

[Asker]

No he's 55

[abc3643]

OOOOOOOOOO... There's a 30-year AGE DIFFERENCE... Not 30 years of knowing each other. Young lady, you need to be clear about these things. When people say "blah blah blah between us blah blah blah" that usually means shared or added together. So for instance, my wife and I have been married almost 19 years. She was married for 22 years before me and 1 or 2 years to her first husband. So, we'd say "We have over 60 years of marital experience between us." Understand? My wife is 5.5 years older than me so I'd simply say that although I could say "The age gap between my wife and me is 5.5 years with her being older."

[Asker]

Its really more like 28 years and some change

[Asker]

My apologies for the miss understanding

[Asker]

*misunderstanding

[Red_Arrow]

He probably really wants you to be happy, and the things you talked about might not be easy for him. It sounds like he is giving you sexual pleasure the best way he knows how to.
Sounds like a good idea. But he will need reassurance about your love for him. So be open about it, and maybe even have the guy meet your husband.

[elizamichale1]

Well maybe he is into some serious trouble honey
And there's nothing wrong in what he suggested tbh

[SoSavageSoCal]

He knows you have needs and desires that have to be fulfilled and he feels tremendous pressure to take care of those things for you but if he knows he can't then that pressure will become too much. His head is driving him crazy he feels a lot of shame.. Is he asking to watch or be there when you get this side piece?

[elizamichale1]

@SoSavageSoCal that explains it in an even better way

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Because he feels so on top of the world and in control of his life when he's around you... He needs something to take him down a peg. Just so he doesn't get too confident with himself.

Smart guy

[Avicenna]

That's pathetic. I guess ge hopes you don't want a divorce.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Because he's a cuck.

[NewZion]

Maybe he's into it.

[Thatsamazing]

Because he has no idea what he's doing.

[Iron_Man]

That's just insane who does that? Its like crapping all over the relationship. Totally disrespectful. There's so many things that you can do to fix sexual problems

[AmeerX]

He is giving you control. Be thankful for that.

[Tunasub]

I think that he wants you to satisfy your desires and be happy doing that while at the same time still have the love that you have for one another and show that love in other ways. He's given concent to keep you from possibly doing it secretively. This way it's an open relationship more or less. Just don't be disrespectful while doing it...🤷🏾‍♂️

[mefirst2000]

He is wanting to suck a dick

[Twalli]

Because he wants you to satisfy your sexual urges that he can't. He thinks it's best with a real person.

[SHREYASH007]

omg... one more victim of sugardaddy... seriously 30 years

[Asker]

Well 28years actually and trust me he's no sugar daddy. Everything we have we worked hard for together. Been together 6 years he's just a great guy. Never needed money bad enough to marry for it. I'd rather be broke.

[In_Trance]

ask him why

[nudeNhorny]

he wants you happy and satisfied and he can't give you that, good husband

[Crimsonstorm]

Because he is old and wise and knows you have physical needs as well

[bassinguy76]

Sorry to hear that. Sounds like he's giving you the okay to face fun I guess.

[Anonymous]

I guess your sex drive is way too much for him apparently so he wants to take some of the burden off of him by you getting someone on the side but I guess he is not like me and probably the same age as me because my drive is still high in my 50s