My Journey to Not Using Porn to Masturbate

Apope16 Editor

My Journey to Not Using Porn to Masturbate

It has now been about a month of not watching porn despite watching porn each day for the past 10 years or so. I have noticed some changes since doing so.

It Was Hard to Adjust

I had this fantasy that it wouldn't be a big deal to adjust to masturbating without porn. I was wrong. it was a huge adjustment. For the first few days I could not even bring myself to orgasm. It was like I was re-wiring my brain. I was moving from arousal based on sight to arousal that was completely different.

Positives and Negatives

My worry moving forward is that my orgasms are so tied to my emotional being that if I am upset or facing heart break I may not orgasm. The benefit to porn is that it makes it easier to orgasm without deeper emotional thought. You can get that high feeling and separate your emotional stress from the pleasure of the experience. Did my desire for sex change based on the style of orgasm? No. My style of sex did not change and my level of desire did not change. The only thing that changed was how I experience my orgasm.

Moving to a Female Orgasm

I jokingly have described my switch as going from a man orgasm to a female one. When I orgasm'd for the first time without porn it took over an hour. It was hard. The experience was no longer visual but an emotional one based on positive feelings and thoughts for my new partner. I was orgasming with my eyes closed and remembering intimacy with her. It was no longer focused on the nuts and bolts of body parts. Instead, it was almost spiritual in how inward the orgasm was. Over time, I no longer needed an hour to orgasm. Now I orgasm within 15 minutes or less. Just like porn, I can have the desire to orgasm over and over again too. Rather than having to edge myself to feel intense orgasms (like I do in porn), when I orgasm now, it is intense and all encompassing. All at once. Is this how female orgasms feel?

In the end, it did not change my sex drive, sex style, or treatment of women.

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Most Helpful Guys

lordskull69 Xper 4
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Congratulations. Now look up tantrum in google and it is totally achievable. I came 4 times back to back the o ty her night and only had ejaculation. A man can have multiple orgasms. I just recently learned it and it is great.
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- lordskull69
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  Dam spell. check. Tantric
- Apope16
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  I know about tantric sex. I practically it regularly. I thought everyone new about it?
- genericname85
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  you don't need tantra for this xD just dedication. i just tried it out for shits and giggles what happens if i don't stop fucking when i cum. it works suprisingly easily. it does need some focus and dedication though. it's not "easy". just easier than i thought.
zagor Master
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It sure would free up a lot of time for more productive pursuits...
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Dongtai Yoda
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It won’t grow back.
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Hermes-Paris Xper 7
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Huh... try and wanker-spank while reading the federal tax code. not the same... We wish you well in your journey.
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exitseven Master
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I never use porn. I tried it before and it was a distraction.
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hi_it_is_me123 Yoda
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Pornhub delete 90% of his content becauseitwas not verified or so on. Soithink this will help you better
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genericname85 Master
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wtf? i can not use porn and cum easily. i mean it's a bit harder than with porn but not that hard xD what`s the big deal?
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Iknowbestgirls Xper 5
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That's interesting to know. I've been trying to stop watching porn too but I've only managed to make it 7 days.
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OfDeath Master
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robertKugler Xper 5
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Ya jerking off to family guy switching it up definitely the way to go
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malik_yashvardhan Xper 3
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Wow. So inspiring.
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mariamarquez13 Xper 1
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Do guys really use lotion to masturbate?
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- aieeazumui
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  Few do most don't. Why ask this?
- mariamarquez13
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  Cause my brother always steals my lotion
- aieeazumui
  +1 y
  Oh No. Is he cut?
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- mariamarquez13
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  I don't know?
- aieeazumui
  +1 y
  Seriously? No iddea at all?
- mariamarquez13
  +1 y
  Why would I know aboht my brother penis
- aieeazumui
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  You would know what's the trend in your family and in your culture... hence you can guess how your brother is
- mariamarquez13
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  Uncut?
- aieeazumui
  +1 y
  Ok... Generally uncut males don't need to use moisturizer while masturbation
- mariamarquez13
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  So his cut? Maybe? I don't know
- aieeazumui
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  Maybe... I mean even some uncut males use moisturizer. Or maybe he uses moisturizer on his body as in his legs and arms after shower?
- mariamarquez13
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  No cause he takes it in the morning.
- aieeazumui
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  So, it's shower time in the morning. Isn't it
- mariamarquez13
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  No he showers at night
- aieeazumui
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  Lol Ok I don't know then Why don't you buy him one bottle!
- mariamarquez13
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  Cause I only get 10 $ ans the lotion cost 8
- aieeazumui
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  Then it's better to share it!
- mariamarquez13
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  No its mine
- ChefPapiChulo
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  @aieeazumui someone needs to lock you up and throw away the key.
- mariamarquez13
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  What?
- michael1469
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  Sure we use lotion, soft hands make a hard dick.
- ChefPapiChulo
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  @michael1469 something is wrong with you.
- michael1469
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  Well, yoy would rather have a woman with hands that feel like brail
- Apope16
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  No. I dont. The only exception is if it is after 3 orgasms on a day. This prevents chaffing
- Yourman89
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  🤣🤣 tell your parents to buy him some
Anonymous
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So do you still masturbate or not
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- michael1469
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  Yes sometimes ya just gotta
- Apope16
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  Absolutely. I just masturbate to memories of past sex with the girl I am seeing
- Juxtapose
  +1 y
  You have to masturbate as a man, it's not a choice.

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