My man Steve Harvey says men & women cannot be friends, your thoughts?

I love this topic, just because it is so evidently true, yet, on paper, some people still want to believe otherwise.

https://youtu.be/RLqK0DTevxA

The thing is, 99.9% of men think this way.

Women might not, but men do, and if men are saying otherwise then they are LYING.

Men are only “friends” to women because the women have made it seem like that at first.

It’s ALWAYS an advantage for a man to have attractive female “friends” because that gives them MORE SUPPLY of attractive females.

So, if the man cannot bed with the woman that he’s “friends” with, maybe that she can introduce women who WILL bed with him.

But, make no mistake about it. If a man gets offered to have sex w/ the woman he’s “friends” with then he WILL have sex with her.

Better, yet, if the woman asked this simple question, nearly all her male “friends” will say “yes.”

Woman: “If I wanted to date you, would you be okay with that?”
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Many women cannot believe this, because they are most definitely oblivious to how men are. It’s not magic. It’s just science. Women, think from THEIR perspective and their women minds. Men, some, will say they can be friends and give examples of female “friends” of theirs, but if offered a chance, reasonably speaking, to date and/or have sex with their “friends.” I’ve seen it, I’ve heard it, etc. More times than not. Way more.
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  • It has always been an age old topic, and I do think it's probably true 70% of the time. However I actually do have a very close female friend who is super attractive and she often tells me about other guys trying to get with her. We really connect on a lot of things and we go places, do things, have deep conversations, but I am not attracted to her for a relationship or even sex.

    As a person and a friend, she is great. But as a romantic partner she does not appeal to me in that way because her values for attraction and a relationship are not my values. Physically she's fine (a little slim for me) but I have no sexual attraction to her because her personality does not generate that nearly enough for me. If she's the hottest thing on the planet but her personality lacks something that will set me ablaze, it's just difficult for me to want to sleep with her.

    I'm probably rare with my case, but a man and a woman being just friends does exist.

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  • This is also the dude with his "own islam" that like embraces a bunch of ideas from other religions and cultures that have nothing to do with his so called "Religion"? lol

    Steve Harvey is not a brilliant man. he was a funny guy from the street that made some Hollywood types laugh so they gave him work. That's what he is, a funny man. You dont take him serious. Please, Dear God don't take him seriously...
    I have some female friends and associates and they were the only ones to get me out of Chronic depression. Not my bros, not drugs and alcohol, or therapy, women! Feminine energy is awesome actually. Its amazing! Guys trying to resist that are resisting their own biology and what makes them happy.

    • Female “friends” No You had good human beings help you out of your chronic depression. I don’t think you mean “friends” as something strictly platonic. Based on probability and the nature of men, I doubt what you’re saying is true.

    • Platonic: Not romantic. Yes i can confirm. Some of these same women I have zero sexual attraction to. Others I have some towards. I've always kept it in check. And by the way yes i can separate them like that because some of these girls I would NOT be compatible with romantically but we certainly click as friends. "Based on probability and the nature of men, I doubt what you’re saying is true." all's im gonna say is walk in my shoes before jumping to conclusions. Some of us can relate to women in that we suffered similar traumas in life. Not all of us had the same upbringings. lets leave it at that, shall we? and... there is serious irony between your username and my profile avatar and cover pic. Just saying if you know so much about that you should have a broader horizon then most on such things

    • Nah, I don’t believe you. Sorry sport. I’ve seen this fail too many times already in real life, it’s ridiculous. You’ve even said you have feelings for some of your friends but you keep it in check…. then that’s not platonic motherfucker lmao. This is my point. Whether you keep it in check or not, if you even have thoughts or feelings about this person in this way, it’s not platonic…. What is so wrong with saying it’s not platonic? Nothing.

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  • I'm sexually attracted to most of my male friends and yet we choose to keep it platonic. It's not that we couldn't have sex at any time, we just prefer to hang out as friends because that's what we are. Yes, we actually communicate about these things openly like adults instead of politely assuming to understand each other.

    • Well, then, it’s not platonic… lmao If you choose to not have sex, whatever, that’s all on you. The fact that you have these types of feelings, means 100% it is not platonic in actuality. It’s some sort of “pseudo friendship” like I mentioned to another user on here.

    • It's love and care for another person. Why divide it so black and white? Following his logic, can't lesbians have female friends, gays have male friends and bisexuals have any friends?

    • Can’t speak for anyone other than heterosexual men & women, which dominate the planet. So, bisexual, transsexual, etc. Can’t help you there, out of my knowledge. Developing relationships with human beings is fine and very important The CHARACTER of these relationships is what I’m having an issue with. People label things incorrectly many a times. Why use “friends” when you can use something like “a guy that wants to fuck me, but I don’t feel like it at the moment, so let’s pretend to be something else.” Again, I’ve seen these “friendships” fail soooo many times. Again, this usually works poorly in REAL LIFE But excellent on PAPER

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  • One of my very best friends from childhood that was killed by a drunk driver was a guy... So yes, I do believe men and women can be "just friends"... Or in my day, anyways... These days some guys seem to try to turn friendship into friends with benefits

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  • I agree, they can only be platonic friends if there is no sexual attraction, or there is some social construct preventing you from dating, such as they are the SO of a friend. Otherwise, if you are sexually attracted to someone, and enjoy hanging out with them as a friend, that is effectively a relationship. So no it's not possible to be just friends with someone of the opposite sex if you are sexually attracted to each other and otherwise have nothing preventing you from dating.

  • fuck steve harvey, he's dumb and sexist. he has no fucking clue what he's talking about and is just trying to justify the fact that he's cheated on his wife so many times

  • Almost all of my friends are women. Would I have sex with them, if permitted and my fiancé gave the okay? Of course. My female friends are all very attractive people. Does that mean we can't just be friends? Of course not. I have several friends, who are female, that I have not had anything other than friendly conversations with. And I have several others that I have flirted with, playfully, but nothing more. Then there are the friends that we've seen each other naked. It really depends on how comfortable the friend is with those kinds of interactions.

  • I think that if you believe this, then it is true for you, and perhaps you can't understand how it could be different for any other guy, but. . . I met a girl on an online site, and I felt no atraction to her whatsoever. I told her that and she asked to meet and see if we could just be friends. We spent time together as friends, I never felt attracted to her, nothing roantic happened, and it was just friendship.

  • Oh god not this bollox again.

    it’s so much spunk dribble.

    if you believe this, then your friends will try and fuck your wife and girlfriend 24/7

    you live next to a married couple for 10 years and are friends with both, you will try to fuck his wife?

    My mate is Gay, I better stop him being with us as he will want our cute little asses on is cabinet.

    fucking brain dead people that believe this shit.

  • It is rare. I would say men and women can be acquaintance, but not best best friends. It becomes increasingly difficult if one or both are in a relationship.

  • Not true. I’m living proof.
    I grew up with all boys as best friends. Still friends with them. They all married, had kids and bought their own white-picket-fences, and walk-in closets. The world is still turning.

    • “Friends” in this case is such a weird word to use for men who, perhaps at one point, thought about a relationship with you or at least thought about you in a sexual manner. Perhaps still do. Men do this, even when in relationships. Very much think about other women. So, “friends” is not the term I would use to describe this relationship. I actually don’t think there is such a word to denote this. The best I can come up with is “pseudo friendship”

    • Leaps and bounds you took on this one. You clearly don’t understand people of either gender as well as you go around proclaiming to. Good luck to you though.

  • Of course. He's old. He has old fashioned ideas. Just because someone else agrees with it doesn't make it true.

    • Well, that’s true. BUT Him being old, gives him experiences and wisdom above those that are younger. Think about, Steve Harvey, he’s no spry chicken but he’s famous. How many women has he boned, “befriended,” and/or met throughout his life? Probably more than YOU will ever meet or befriend in your life. This gives him a unique position and perspective on “friendships” with women. He’s also someone who has written books and has been looked at as a dating expert. So, Steve Harvey Or One emo gurl? I’ll take Steve Harvey’s word lmao

    • "gives him experiences and wisdom above those that are younger" No older and wiser is an old wives tale made to make younger people feel dumb, generally younger people are actually more experienced in modern times and smarter. Exactly he's famous. Women want to be "friends" with him because he has money and fame. When his reputation is in the toilet 99% of his so called friends bounce. If he's sexually attracted to all of his woman friends then that's a him issue. It's possible to be friends with someone and not be sexually attracted to them. Sorry you've not experienced that.

    • You as a woman think differently on this topic. Men do What’s your issue? Let me answer that for ya You cannot think from a man’s perspective.

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  • this is way more accurate...

    --you and your man Steve... are INCAPABLE of having female friends--

    that's all it is... nothing else

  • Yeah I used to like Steve Harvey, these days he's just a dumb ass ignorant asshat, most of his opinions are just that, his opinions and not based on any kind of logic. Yeah there are plenty of make fenaik relationships that are not platonic, but there are actually plenty of them that are. I have zero sexual feelings towards many of my female friends and they zero towards me, there are others where we do have sexual tension. You can't tar all relationships with the same brush.

  • Normally I don't really get along that great with guys all my best friends except for one or two have always been female.
    Although I never judge a person by their gender I do find that I tend to take the woman's side in most arguments probably because I always hung out with the girls instead of the guys

  • Who gives a fuck what Steve Harvey says. He’s not an authority on anything.

  • I don't.. understand the logic. You could either say people can't actually be friends but I don't see how sex exactly correlates with that.

  • I disagree with Steve Harvey. A lot of times one person or the other will catch feelings but not always.

    • Yayy!

  • Mm yes the man who says men cheat because "there are so many women out there willing to cheat with them". The man who basically encourages rape culture because once a man is into you "you cannot stop a guy... We don't care what you do" yes we definitely should be taking advice from this guy.

  • Yeah 99% of men do that
    But I have one female that we been friends since the age of 10. And we are still close good friends to this day

  • They can be friends, I have younger female friends because of them being family friends or friends of family friends

    My exes are still friends but that comes down to amicable splits rather than the issues long distance would bring to a relationship

  • I think it's horseshit.

    If you're a man, the odds of me being attracted is 0% so thats automatic friendzone.
    If you're a woman, the odds of me being attracted is 5% so friendzone chance is high.

    Five percent... Now I like having friends, so what you are effectively saying is guy's can't be picky? What a load of bs that is.

    • In fact thus far, every female I have in my life I'm just friends with. None of them appeal to me as a potential girlfriend.

  • I think it'd be more accurate to say men and women will NEVER be on the same plane. I mean think of it like this. I can be friends with someone who speaks a different language (this is an analogy for woman). We can still communicate otherwise and I can know her for a longtime, love, maybe even marry her. But we'll always be divided by the fact that we don't speak the same we langusge.
    Get it?

  • Steve Harvey don't know nothing about men & women being friends.

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