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My mistakes regarding women and my future with women (1)


Outline:

  • I finally have the solution for the bad boy problem 🙂🙃😃🥳
  • Age 14-18: prostitutes
  • Age 18-28: prostitutes and 2 Tinder profiles
  • Age 28-40: prostitutes, 2 Tinder profiles and throwing money
  • Age 40+: the love of my life ❤️

For those of you who don't know my questions: many say I'm "obsessed" with the question of whether women like bad boys.

  • I finally have the solution for the bad boy problem 🙂🙃😃🥳

For the new year, I have finally managed to find a solution to the bad boy problem and therefore can finally leave this issue that has bothered me for so long and so intensively behind me. 🥳🎈🎊🎉👯


It was important to me to achieve 2 goals:

1. to find a way to never be discriminated by women for not being a bad boy.
2. to find a way to make sure that my future long-term partner does not like bad boys at all and has never been infected by the bad boy virus at any time in her life.

Why do I even care about these points?

To explain the 1. goal:
The idea that I would be rewarded for being an asshole and punished for morally correct behavior bothers me extremely. If you try to be a good person you should either be rewarded or at least treated the same as an asshole, but definitely not disadvantaged.
To explain the 2. goal:
Having nothing but hatred for bad boys myself, it would be absolutely impossible for me to be in a relationship with a woman who finds or has ever found this type of man attractive. I don't blame her for her sexual preferences - I just don't want to be her boyfriend. That's all.

Today I know that especially women who like to have one night stands are attracted to bad boys.

Do these women prefer bad boys only because they often have a higher testosterone level and are therefore manlier, more confident, better looking, more assertive etc. than the good guys?

I HAVE OFTEN HEARD THIS THEORY, BUT UNFORTUNATELY IT IS WRONG!


The "good guy" in my poll Are women who are sexually attracted to bad boys more wanting to do one-night stands / fuckboy relationships? possesses these qualities just as much and yet appears significantly less attractive to promiscuous women than the "bad boy." To answer the question: No, the reason why many women prefer bad boys unfortunately cannot be found in higher testosterone levels.


So on the one hand I have to accept that women who are interested in one night stands really prefer Bad Boys for being bad and on the other hand I have to make sure that I am not disadvantaged by this at all !!!!

I have been thinking feverishly about how I could have lived my life and how I can live the rest of my life without being disadvantaged for not being a Bad Boy.
And finally I came up with the following solution:

  • Age 14-18: prostitutes


According to my impression, women start to prefer bad boys around the age of 14. Of course a good guy can be considered to be very attractive by “one night stand women” throughout his entire life, but never as attractive as if he were a bad boy. So from this age on the Good guy is de facto disadvantaged. In order to be as attractive as a bad boy, I as a good guy have to have more attractive features than the bad boy to compensate for the fact that I am not a bad boy. The crucial question is: what opportunity would there have been at the age of 14 to avoid this disadvantage?


The solution I came up with is that I should have gone to hookers when I was 14. At that age, a boy can only think about sex and nothing else. If I had gone to hookers back then, not only would I not have been disadvantaged, I would even have had a huge advantage over any bad boy:

The typical bad boy is way too busy screwing one girl after another from his school, village, etc, so he doesn't even realize what he's missing out on: sex with the hottest women on planet earth. He thinks: "I fuck the hottest chicks around me (school, clubs, village, etc.). So why should I go to hookers? I don't need to. Only losers go to hookers."


Because of this stupid attitude, the Bad Boy never looks beyond his own nose.

It is true that the Bad Boy is probably with the hottest chick in school and that he often cheats on her with many other attractive girls, but what this underage Bad Boy does not take into account is that "the hottest chick in school" is not even close as hot as a very attractive 21 year old prostitute.


Not too far from my home there is a brothel with 57 prostitutes. Of course, not all of them are good looking there, but there are extremely attractive women. I am not exaggerating when I say that any 15 year old in my country could sleep with women who look like this:

My mistakes regarding women and my future with women (1)
My mistakes regarding women and my future with women (1)

This woman is not a prostitute but believe me, some of the women there look just as attractive.


Unfortunately, at that age I never had the idea to go to a brothel. The idea just never came into my mind 🤦‍♂️ And even if, I wouldn't have had the balls to do it. But that doesn't matter. I had a chance to escape the disadvantage at that time! It is my own fault that I have not used this opportunity!

  • Age 18-28: prostitutes and 2 Tinder profiles

As I got older, it became more and more important to me that the women I sleep with are sexually aroused. Prostitutes now and then are fine, but the sex is much better when you realize that the woman really wants you instead of knowing that it is a prostitute who is likely to not be sexually aroused.


Therefore, I would again have faced a disadvantage for not being a bad boy from about age 18 onwards! Since about this age, the bad boy would have had the advantage that his women are always sexually aroused when they have sex with him, while my prostitutes would have looked better, but would probably not been sexually aroused. This would not have bothered me much when I was 14, but when I was about 18, it would slowly have started to become disturbing. So what could I have done this time to prevent an imminent disadvantage (due to the fact that I am not a bad boy)?


I could have start going to the gym at the age of 16 and start doing martial arts etc. I could have done all kinds of things to become a high testosterone man until the age of 18 so that i could have been capable to fake the Bad Boy Image authentically.


For example, I could have made 2 Tinder profiles. In the first one I would not have pretended but would have been as I am (good guy). In the 2nd one, I would have faked the bad boy image. And that's how I could still live today. With two different personalities.

Whenever I don’t feel like faking the bad boy image I could (voluntarily !!!) accepted the disadvantage for not being a bad boy from time to time by either using my good guy Tinder profile or alternatively by going to prostitutes.

So with my way of dealing with this bad boy problem, there would (even after 18) have been the opportunity to not be disadvantaged at all for not being a bad boy, simply by faking the bad boy image. 👌

This was the past until the present. In the next mytake I will talk about my future plans

To be continued..

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  • So speaking from personal experiences, I have never liked the 'bad boy' and all my exes/guys I've talked to had something with me because they made me feel comfortable and safe, and they were very gentle with me both emotionally and physically.

    Two of my exes in particular were indeed bad boys, but put out an act that they were these really nice guys... I had to find out the hard way lol. In general, I'm quite sensitive and emotionally delicate. I could never fall for a bad boy and only see myself with a kind, faithful, loving man.

    • @alyssa11 Thanks for your opinion!

    • this screams fake try: '' i saw some red flags but chose to ignore ''

    • @AFellowWeeb? You'd be surprised how many guys convincingly act loving and sweet but end up being narcissistic and neglectful. I'm guessing you're a straight dude so you probably won't experience it

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  • That title though... Alright brb reading

    • Waw ehm alright... Nopes. You wouldn't have lost a disadvantage if you slept with hookers. You'd still be just as much a manwhore as the popular 'bad boy' from school would be, only difference being, you paid for it. So I don't really see much of a win there. Even if they're better looking, so what, they looked at the money, not you. This way of thinking isn't that of a 'good guy'. With this mindset, you're going to have a hard time finding a good woman.

    • @josyjosy It just seems like we have very different views on what makes you a "good guy“ and what not. For me, a simple rule applies: as long as I don't harm anyone with my behavior, the behavior is not morally reprehensible. If I have sex with a prostitute it doesn't affect weather I am a “Good guy”because it's a win - win situation. No one is harmed! (I'm not talking about forced prostitutes of course!!!). And as for the rest of your comment: as you correctly said the only difference between me and a Bad Boy (regarding our success with women) would be that I would have paid for it and my women would have been more attractive. So I am not disadvantaged, cause the disadvantage (having to pay) would be overcompensated by the advantage (better looking women), at least if we are talking about age 14-18. That is exactly what I want! The only important thing I would had to take into account is that if i fake the bad boy image on women (for example with a Tinder Profil) I have to make sure that I don't overlook the good girls who don't like bad boys. These are the women I like the most. But these rarely want one night stands but rather long term relationships, which is also nice, but currently not what I'm looking for. Anyway, thanks for your opinion!

    • *So I am not disadvantaged, cause the disadvantages (having to pay and the fact that most prostitutes were not sexually aroused) would be overcompensated by the advantage (better looking women), at least if we are talking about age 14-18.

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  • Glimpsing through your Mytake screams going off the rails but I assume you've been "Off the rails" for a while. 😅 Like everyone else said, you're obsessed with this idea of attractiveness that supposedly all women bow down for. You've "found" your answer so there shouldn't be another topic on this but I doubt that will be the case, you'll be back to the "bad boy" topic. Until you actually get over it you'll always come back to it. The other thing I found looking through the comments is that you're kind of an asshole when it comes to people disagreeing with you.😅 Calling people ugly and fat for disagreeing with you and for not having a profile of their face when you yourself don't either...🤚😲 It's almost like people just want to have anonymity regardless of their appearance!

    • This man needs professional help. He is delusional and narcissistic. He will most likely never get over this and be miserable for the rest of his life. He is absolutely unhinged and I'd almost say Eliot Roger-esque. I fear for the day he will snap and actually do something stupid. It is to bad that people like this can roam the earth freely..

    • @zollo
      “Glimpsing through your Mytake screams going off the rails but I assume you've been "Off the rails" for a while.”

      I have no idea what you mean with "off the rails"...

      “The other thing I found looking through the comments is that you're kind of an asshole when it comes to people disagreeing with you. Calling people ugly and fat for disagreeing with you […]”

      I want to make this clear:
      I would never insult someone just because that person has a different opinion than i have. I am thankful for different opinion. But if someone insults me, I might say something mean too. Before I made fun of her profile picture, she called me an A-hole. You can see that in her main comment.

      I think it's a pity that you twist the words in my mouth.
      I never said that all women like bad boys but that the vast majority of women who want one night stands prefer bad boys. That is what these women say themselves and you can see that here: Are women who are sexually attracted to bad boys more wanting to do one-night stands / fuckboy relationships? ↗ and if that is not enough for you cause because the sample is too small for you or the women on GaG might not be representative of the overall population, I can send you an official study. I'm providing facts, you're just rambling.
      Anyway, I have my solution so I don't have to think about this about it anymore (except for the 2nd part).

    • the second part of my myTake

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  • A prostitute would not even have sex with a 14-18 y/o because that is illegal. 🤮

    You, sir, are delusional and need to seek professional help.

    Your mistake is this obsessive behaviour.

    • This

    • @littleturtleduck It's illegal, but depending on the type of brothel, there's just a sign at the entrance, saying something like: "Condom use is mandatory and under 18s are strictly forbidden to enter!" That's it 🤣 no security guard. But I didn’t know it back then 😕 I would have thought, that it is impossible to get in being under 18. I idiot should have at least tested it. A good friend of mine told me the other day, that he slept with prostitutes when he was 15 and 16. He went in a group with his cousins who were already over 18. It was not noticed. Sure there are some prostitutes who don't do it with under 18 year olds, but there are also some who don't care 🥳💪. Maybe 14 would have been too young, but as a 15,16 year old it would not necessarily be noticed. And if one refused it, I would have just gone to the next attractive looking one and so on until one said yes 👌. In my country there are about 400,000 prostitutes. Sooner or later I would have found one willing to do it, because at the end of the day, these women also just want to earn money 🤑

    • nice side effect: in this case, i would have been the rebellious bad boy who doesn't follow rules 😂. This rule is just bullshit so i don’t mind breaking it. Maybe you should seek professional help if you think that just because something is illegal, it is not happening on this planet. Unfortunately, my obsessive behavior is required to solve the problem.

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  • "
    In order to be as attractive as a bad boy, I as a good guy have to have more attractive features than the bad boy to compensate for the fact that I am not a bad boy"... That is if you are pursuing superficial women, who only care about looks/body... If you had gone to hookers at 14 I would no longer consider you a good guy... And thus would not be attracted to you.
    This "disadvantage" you speak of is kind of ridiculous. If you're only looking to hook up with "pretty & superficial" girls, then your actual disadvantage is your capacity at self control and morality... Because now you encourage prostitution. Well, people can say whatever, I'll always discourage it because to supress emotions in order to have mindless sex will always be damaging to you core identity. The disadvantage here seems like you've given in to lust. That is a disadvantage because if you are not a "good guy" you will not attract an actual good girl. But hey maybe you can marry a hooker and be happy.. Your theory here is still not twisted as it lacks some morality.

    If you wanna use random good girls for sex, as opposed to hookers, than stop lying to yourself in pretending you're a good guy. If you're gonna fake an identity, you're not a good guy either.

    Are you trolling people here or something?
    Act by this theory and there is one thing that is clear: you are not a good guy, the messed up behaviour is disgusting, I hope no decent good girl eis ever attracted to you..

    Do yourself a favour and change your ways. We're not here to digress. You have the potential to live an actual good life. Just go do some therapy, someone who might specialize in romantic relationships

    • @snowyowl Thanks for your opinion, but we just seem to have fundamentally different views on what is good and what is evil. Evil for me is for example: bodily injury or drug selling, exploitation of others, being a bank robber and so on. What do these things have in common? Someone is harmed! As long as I do not harm anyone with my behavior, it is not evil! If I go to a prostitute (of course I'm not talking about a forced prostitute!!!) I don't harm anyone! So going to a prostitute does not make me a Bad Person! Can you agree with this? So why can't I be a good guy anymore in your opinion if I go to prostitutes? “If you're only looking to hook up with "pretty & superficial" girls, then your actual disadvantage is your capacity at self control and morality” This makes me believe that you are a bitter, ugly girl that nobody wants to fuck and that's why you hate all attractive women and call them superficial just because they care about their looks. The truth is, everyone cares about looks and that's not a bad thing! There are evolutionary reasons for this! A one night stand is mostly about looks! Deal with it! And just because you are not a one night stand person it doesn’t mean that people who like it are bad or lack of morality. Gosh you live in 19th century. People who don't care about their sex partners looks only don't do it because they are ugly themselves and therefore can't afford to have pretensions. IT IS NOT MORALLY REPREHENSIBLE TO HAVE A HEALTHY SEX DRIVE! And fuck yes, I encourage prostitution! There is nothing wrong with it! I encourage it, as long as the prostitute is not forced! Sex gives you a great feeling! Why give up on it?

    • "But hey maybe you can marry a hooker and be happy" You know what? I would have absolutely no problem with this if she was willing to give up her job because unlike you, I am not morally arrogant and see these women as evil just because they live their lives in a way that I don't want for my life. Most of these women have a much better character than you! Prostitutes are not evil! They are normal people!

    • Sorry, I didn't finish reading that, but yea certainly there are fundamental differences in our ways of thinking.. However, we are both human and we are subjected to the same worldly principles and laws of nature... Sex releases chemicals in the brain, those chemicals trigger emotions, suppressing emotions creates psychological damage... So I'll stick with my suggestion for you to do therapy, or any kind of self development course... I can't help you more then that, so good luck

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  • Didn’t read past the first two paragraphs. Just hope your dream girl is a prostitute. Because if you’re always having sex with prostitutes, that’s what you’re gonna get.

    • @yads_is_back You should at least look at the 2 pictures of the woman. This is what attractive prostitutes look like. If that's what I gonna get on a daily basis, I will be the happiest man on planet earth 😊

    • Apart from the guys who get more virtuous women who are sexier and might pass their name down lol Nah, plenty of happier guys. You might be happy with prostitutes (which is sad) but guys are happier who got their maturity together and have sexy women who are actually good.

    • I mean, if you’re happy being one out of plenty on the Beta list, go for it lol

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  • It seems to me like you're only after sex and upset that women aren't giving you it voluntarily.

    • @adorablelilo Believe me or not: You misunderstood myTake. It is not at all about my personal success or failure with women. I would have also made this myTake if I were on the men's health cover. If women are particularly attracted to bad boys it doesn’t mean they aren't interested in me any more, it means that I am no longer interested in them. But thank god not all women have a thing for these guys 🙂

  • If you think your solution is to look for prostitutes, I think doesn't exists a difference between you and the image you have for women who like f*ckboys.

    • @anis09 What’s wrong with prostitutes? They are not evil people (some of them are for sure but many aren’t) I have no problem with fuckboys. My brother is a fuckboy and a very kind person. I am only talking about Bad Boys like for example criminals. To have sex with many women does not make you a bad person as long as you didn’t played with womens feelings. By the way, prostitutes is only part of the solution.

    • *didn't play

    • I'm saying that in the same way, you are judging women who like bad boys you are behaving in a hormonal way, and only look at sex. Do you think a woman with morality gonna want a relationship with someone who pays for sex? And I'm not talking about venereal diseases and human trafficking that is involved in many cases of prostitution. If you want a couple who share moral attitudes and values you have to be the first one who does that in your own life.

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  • You are OBSSESED with this bad boy thing. If you weren't you wouldn't waste your time thinking and writing about this subject.
    I truly hope you don't spend another year asking a lot of questions about this. I didn't like the fact you mentioned prostitutes.

    • @menina I don't have to waste a single second with it anymore because I finally have my solution 👌. Thanks for your opinion.

    • FINALLY!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Like I've said, just move on a live your life. Forget about this. You're welcome.

    • *and

  • I don't know why people invite me to answer these type of stuff
    like, yeah, you could have any women in the world, and the prettiest ones ig, "hookers" or whatever but why would you do that? why not just find someone you can be attached to and who you love and they love you, whyyy would you have to go for these types of things. why is having as much sex the best shape of validation? no wonder girls like me exist if this is the way we're viewed. like, if you see girls just as something to fuck, if you see them as nothing but something to flex on to your friends cuz like oh wow u fucked a pretty girl but what's the point

    sex without love is an empty inbox.

    • Thanks for your opinion. I believe that all people want love one day. But there are people who during their young years just want to fuck. I think there is nothing wrong with a woman who wants sex without love and a man who wants sex without love having sex together. they are not harming anyone. And fyi: no it's not about bragging infront of friends. I mean some people definitely do but for me it's simply about the feeling of sex.

  • Oh my god. You should marry such a prostitute. Bad boys would then be nothing compared to you

    • @hangry22 If you read my second part (as soon as I publish it) you will be surprised what I think about your idea 😀

    • @hangry22 But this much up front: prostitutes are not bad people. Of course some of them are but by far not all. Why not marry one 🤷‍♂️

    • Yes. Then you can change your family name and call Mr Tony AIDS or Mr Tony HPV And then your gift cards could be, Merry Christmas from the STD family👨‍👩‍👧‍👧 Get rich fast alright those mothafuckers are incurable. Pheww

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  • seems like you’ve ran into a lot of shitty people. Or your expectations are off the charts. If you keep thinking that it’s all you’re going to see unfortunately.
    good luck.

    • @mindyoureyes Thanks for your opinion!

  • So, you're basically making yourself into a manslut, good luck. I prefer men with less experience since their pair-bonding is not destroyed and that they would love me much better.

    • @modelun242 Most men (and by the way also some women) can distinguish between pair-bonding relationship and a purely sexual relationship. Therefore my pair-bonding will never be destroyed. Also the last point in my outline is: “the love of my life ❤️“ for a reason.

    • Sex is an intimate act that should be shared with someone special. That's why people with more partners have a higher chance of divorce. Plus, you're comparing your "love of your life" to your previous partners, and possibly making her insecure.

    • @modelun242 “Sex is an intimate act that should be shared with someone special.” That’s your opinion. My opinion is: Sex is an intimate act that should be shared with someone special, but if you don’t have someone special, instead of not sharing it at all, you should rather share this intimate act with hot chicks. And no, I won’t compare my “love of my life” with any other girl I had sex before her. But even if I did, she would always win cause I will love her. No need for her to be insecure.

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  • Ok... this is sad

    • @cherokeehp It has never felt this good to write a post for gag.

    • Good for you, but this entire post is sad

    • @cherokeehp Thanks for your opinion, but for what reason do you think it is sad?

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  • You seriously have to write a whole essay on this? None of it made any sense

    • @proteus912 what about it does not make sense?

    • Everything

    • @proteus912 Good reasoning. Thank you for your well reasoned explanation and opinion.

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  • Do you know why girls don’t like you? I have the -actual- solution for you, it is right here in your thread. All you need. Print this thread, give it to a psychologist and ask them to explain what is wrong with how you respond to criticism and how you don’t listen at all to girls your age. You are like a brick wall, that is immune to facts and reasoning. Tons of girls are literally telling you what you need to do to succeed better, what THEY WANT IN A MAN. And you are completely deaf and oblivious still. THIS is the reason you can’t get a date. It is funny you call yourself “nice” when 100% of us consider you an a-hole. It is also funny how you think that girls like a-holes. We don’t, then you would have been popular.

    • @vewrie “Do you know why girls don’t like you?” No I don’t cause I am hot 🥵 as hell 🔥 and girls only can think about Sex when they see me. Ok listen: you really seem to be a rude person that hates me for whatever reason. I don't like this kind of discussions where only insults are made. You are welcome to tell me your opinion, but if you continue to just insult me, I will block you. But instead you could just stop being rude and I promise you I will also stop telling you that I assume you are ugly because you don’t show your face in your Profil pic. Deal?

    • @vewrie You just don't get that this myTake has nothing to do with my personal success or failure with women. I would also have made this myTake if I were on the men's health cover. If women are particularly attracted to bad boys it doesn’t mean they aren't interested in me any more, it means that I am no longer interested in them! (At least not for a long-term relationship)

    • @Tonytoutouni123 She is not rude at all, she is blunt with you. And you just have proven her point. You don't take feedback or criticism. She is not insulting you, she is telling you what kind of image you make for yourself with the behaviour you are showing.

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  • You should adjust your priorities but good luck to you.

    • @ellie-v Thanks for your opinion.

  • ... So instead of becoming a "bad boy" You decided to become a fuck boy?

    • He honestly just a sad boy now lol

    • @danaeadam5 Yes indeed. To make it clear: I have in generell nothing against fuckboys. Most of my friends are fuckboys. I don’t see why it should be morally reprehensible. As long as I don’t harm anyone, I can do what ever I want. I am by no means less of a good guy because of that 👌 since I am not playing with feelings or something like that.

  • I am so confused what the fuck is your outline. What does it mean?

    • @lovelyhoneybones It means: What should I have done differently regarding women and what should I do in the future: "At the age of 14-18, I should have gone to prostitutes." "At the age of 18-28 I should have made 2 Tinder profiles and gone to prostitutes". The 3rd point you can forget. I would do that differently today. "At the age of 40+ I will find the love of my life 🙂"

    • You don't think 12-14 is too young to be having sex, especially from prostitutes?

    • @lovelyhoneybones I never said 12 to 14. I said 14 to 18! 12 would probably be too young, because a 12 year old might not know well enough about STDs and the risk of pregnancy, etc. and therefore would maybe try to convince the prostitute to make stupid things that he would regret for the rest of his life. And to answer your question: I think if I want to have sex as a 15 year old, it's totally ok. I mean, why not? It is something completely different when an adult person is talking an underage person into having sex. This is child abuse and must be harshly punished! But since I as a 15 year old would have been the one going to her (the prostitute) and ask her for sex and not the other way around I don't find it bad at all. If you are honest, there is also no logical justification for it being forbidden. I am a fan of freedom and the idea that people should be free to do what makes them happy, as long as they don't harm anyone else. Society just has some strange ideas about what is morally reprehensible and what not.

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  • None of this is even remotely true but ok

    • @gwenhwyfar What’s incorrect?

  • Kinda goes to prove that men don’t mature till they’re well into their old age.

    • @ninjazzed Too bad. You did not understand my myTake

    • I did understand it, you were right. Men chase hookers until they get old. Then wanna settle down.

    • @ninjazzed You did not understand anything.

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  • Listen douche , if this is your attitude regarding women and calling them prostitutes for no justified reason then I can tell that you will never ever attract a high quality woman and most likely will never have a long term relationship.

    You can’t have a successful long term relationship with women If you can’t respect women.

    • @nelly83 Umm, did you even read the myTake? 😅 If so, you have completely misunderstood something. I do not call women prostitutes!!! I call prostitutes prostitutes 😀 Makes me scared that 3 other women like your comment. Seems like either they don’t read my myTake or my English is really that bad.

    • Definitely.

    • @nelly83 Prostitute is not an insult! It is a profession! And I never called women prostitutes 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️ Please quote me next time before you claim such bullshit about me!

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