My mom thinks I'm secretly a lesbian and its starting to get really old?

[Anonymous]

About 12 years ago (when I was just barely 20), I was confused about my sexuality because I had a slight crush on my best (female) friend. I know now that it was just admiration more than any real sexual attraction. I made the mistake of sharing my crush with my mom, and since then, she's totally clung to it and insists that I'm gay even though I've told her MANY times that I'm straight and have even dated men. She just can't accept that I'm straight. I have no problem with anyone on the LGBTQ spectrum either. I just don't identify that way. I think she's trying to be supportive and show that she'll accept me, but I'm starting to get really sick of being gaslit after I've told her so many times that I'm straight.

At this point, what can I do?

[DaveJord]

Well for most 100% heterosexual people, there's never been any confusion at any point in time, for any reason. Most heterosexual people ignore LGBTQ, is not that we are anti-anything, but we are definitely not Pro-LGBTQ and are pretty much more annoyed by all the noise and attention they generate.

But if you are heterosexual then your mother should respect that. But again, for most people of my generation, (I am 46), there was never any moments of confusion for any reason, so its hard for us to understand. But we were not raised in the same generation, as you, where there was actually pro-fractions intentionally generating confusion on purpose.

In 1980s and 1990s heterosexual good, gay bad. That was just as plain and simple as it could be. But in today's world, even though 95% of population is heterosexual, we are made to feel guilty, bad, or uncomfortable about it. We deep down we really just don't, ans want them to go away and quietly just what they want to do without trying to mainstream it.

[Anonymous]

Christian straight camp is best for you. I was a Councillor in one, it's where I met my wife. Various conversion treatments are used to help you walk on the straight and narrow path. Hours of prayer, counciling, religious study, canning, spanking, paddling, aversion therapy, Psychoanalysis, Hypnosis water boarding and marraige therapy.

[Emilyis]

so you had a crush on her, That doesn't mean you are a lesbian or bi.

[JamesDiaz11]

Just get pregnant.

[slatyb]

Don't do anything. Just stop responding. Or tell her that if she asks again you will l immediately leave. Then do it.

[es20490446e]

She means you shall hurry up to get a man.

[Wise4myage]

Try to arrange her walking in on you having sex, lol.

[Emanon25]

Don’t pay attention to that, let her think whatever she wants.

[pizzalovershouse]

Then tell her most girls look at others cuz they think I wised I had some of her figure sense girls do wonder if they look good as the ones they think look better

[KrakenAttackin]

Your mom is probably a lesbian. Doesn't matter as all women are bisexual anyway.

[Guardian45]

Get a boyfriend. My Mom was the same, until I got my first girlfriend.

[peterrezeeek]

she is stupid..

[jimmy2]

Let old dogs sleep away

[panamared1]

Give up trying to convince her, she may figure it out

[Anonymous]

She's showing classic liberal signs because they want (and often try to force) their kids to be homosexual

Solution is making a big republican gesture or you could bring a guy over for Christmas and be loud in your amorous actions or just offer her a grandchild that could also work

[Anonymous]

nothing she already has her mind made up just ignore her

[Anonymous]

How many sexual partners of each gender have you had? There is a specific reason for asking.

[Asker]

Well, my mom would know nothing about that because I don't discuss my sex life with her like some weirdo. But 4 guys, 1 girl (in college, which convinced me that I'm straight because I did not enjoy it very much).

[Opinion Owner]

So she doesn't know that you've had sex with four different men, she does know that you were attracted to one female, and. . . what is your question? Seriously, what shold she think?

[Asker]

She doesn't need to "think" anything, the point is I'm telling her I'm straight and she's choosing to completely ignore what I say and assert her own beliefs onto me.

[Opinion Owner]

Aside from your denial, you've told her about being attracted to a female but she knows nothing of your male partners. Now, you tell her nothing. I'm just saying, seeing it from her perspective, I can understand why she would be skeptical.