My mom won't take me to the OB/GYN!?

[Anonymous]

I'm 17 and sexually active. I know I have some kind of imbalance and I want to see a doctor but every time I ask about an appointment my mom gets angry and asks if something is "wrong" like how dare I have issues. Or she asks what IS wrong, and I don't particularly want to talk to my mother about my vagina, I want to talk to a DOCTOR, not somebody who got their R. N. thirty years ago. I really want to get checked out before I have sex again. How do I convince my mom to just take me to a feminine doctor so I can regulate myself?

[bestadviceguy]

No way around it, you need to confront your mom, sorry. She may feel being an RN counts. I guarantee I do not know how uncomfortable that will be, but by trying, you may get the right result.

I think you are a smart young woman, and hope things work out!

[AustinMan]

I'd call the doctor's office and ask them if they'll see you unaccompanied. If not, I tell your mom you're very worried about the situation but that you're not going to share the details so she can either take you or you'll find an ER to treat you.

[exoticval]

I don't understand why your mother is having issues with you wanting to go to the OBGYN. Mother's are there to help and support their daughters. Is she upset about you being sexually active in general which is why she is acting in such a way?

[Asker]

I don't know why. She knows I'm sexually active and doesn't have an issue with it, but she wouldn't take me to a fem doctor before I was sexually active either. I asked her to make me an appointment and she said she would, when she made hers. She made hers and said they didn't have an opening for me, so she gets an appointment even though she has no problems and I have one but I have to suffer? I don't get it and I don't want to be infertile...

[kittykatg]

Why not just set up the appointment yourself then drive yourself or take a taxi or ride the bus.

[Asker]

I don't have a credit card, and this state requires your parents to set up a permit before you can get a license, which she also won't do, and my town doesn't have a bus station.

[kittykatg]

Why do you need a credit card? You can pay with cash and will most likely get a discount at the doctors.

[Asker]

I don't have any money. If I want money my parents ask what for and make me do chores to earn whatever it is instead of actually paying me.

[kittykatg]

Then just tell your mom and she will take you to get something to fix it. You're making this way more difficult than it has to be.

[Hallowshannah_]

She’s a 17 year old girl. I’m 19 and I know how hard it is to have money and not having a close relationship with my parents so I can’t just “get money” from them. She’s worried and needs help, not for you to judge her. You don’t understand her situation so you don’t have the right to say “you’re making this way more difficult than it has to be” Take your ignorance somewhere else.

[rthomas43]

I wish I had some advice to give. It is ridiculous that your mom is putting you in this predicament to begin with.
Good luck.

[legalboxers]

your mom may have been an RN but time change, and her paranoia as your daughter still is there. My mom was an RN for 55 years and retired, when I'm sick she refuses to believe it, when I had to get glasses at 13 she refused to believe it, when I had a hernia at 21 she refused to believe it. Our "mothers" who are nurses refuse to believe their kids get sick