If all he did was look in, and started walking away, you're probably OK. But keep a mental note if this keeps happening or not.
Did he check on you when your door was closed? If so, did he knock first, or just let himself in?
But if you don't like it, or it makes you uncomfortable, you have every right to bring it up with him or your mom. I would try him first, and if it didn't stop then I'd say something to your mom. You don't have to be rude about it, just say "Hey Phillip (because you're 18, and it doesn't sound like he helped to raise you, he's not your step dad you can call him by his name) I don't think it's necessary for you to check on me at night. I don't do anything I shouldn't be doing, I don't sneak out, I don't sneak boys in, and it just makes me uncomfortable. OK, thanks." Unless you're doing stuff you shouldn't, and getting into trouble in which case knock it off already, act right and he won't feel the need to make sure you're in bed at night.
Key word here is 'NEW', your mum doesn't know this guy, he should not be in your house overnight with you there and sure as shit should under no circumstances should he be 'checking up on you'.
Yes you should tell your mum but more importantly you should be telling the police and a teacher at school that you trust, because unfortunately your mother cannot be relied upon to act in a responsible manner.
If you have other family, father? Grand parents? you should seek their help too.
This is absolutely 100% entirely unacceptable and an extremely dangerous warning sign of things to come, I do not consider you to be living in a safe environment.
You should be extremely concerned, this must never happen again.
Good to know there has been a positive outcome.
Don't get him in trouble unless he starts looking at you sexually and he keeps doing it.
Or starts being really nice and starts buying you things too.
I was molested by my mom's boyfriend and especially dont get caught up by all the attention from him either.
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Yes I would tell her. He has no right to be in your room.
I would tell her in front of him.
Yes! Tell her! Soon and now. And ask for a lock on your bedroom door. This is not okay for him to do.
So awesome your update! Good for you! Such a great outcome!
Of course. Talk directly to your mother
Yes! Tell her
okay.
Update: good!
can i ask how she put me in danger?
Yes that's a red flag right there
what u mean?
That thats some shadey shit and could foreshadow worst stuff
As in what?
Yes. It's not ok for him to do that and your mum not know about it.
He may be just protective of his new family, but these days that's definitely not cool
How new are we talking? Has he done anything sexual toward you before? I mean she should know if you are uncomfortable but she also maybe unwilling to listen if you don’t have a whole lot to go on. That is a hard road to go down if you two aren’t super close….
Good to hear!!!
mom said they were dating for 6 months talking for a year. and he moved in last month
Don't tell her. It's a word against one other word.
Just: Next time when you all sit at breakfast: Tell him that you appreciate that he comes to your bedroom at night to see if you are well.
Then you lean back - and watch what happens.
Risky.. very risky. Almost too risky.
@Alcoholic_Wannabe - Yes, it is ''risky''. I forgot to mention that it's perhaps reasonable to lock the bedroom door until things are more clear. To explain my reasoning: When I was a teenager, I had a big crush on my step sister. She felt uneasy, and one morning (Sunday family breakfast) asked me about it in front of everyone. Her Mom felt some kind of embarrassed; my Dad gave me a ''strange'' (and long) look. After that I was re-thinking my own... ''motivations''. That de-fused the overall situation; without confronting everyone. It is of course possible, that the guy we talk about here does indeed have dirty intentions. But in this case he will have an ''explanation'' at hand. AND: there is a slim chance that he's indeed just a nice guy (just with awkward own procedures).
This is different. The step-father will just deny it and the mother will instantly believe him.
Yes do tell her
okay. thanks
You're welcome ^^
I would absolutely do that. It is very weird.
Regarding the update, I'm glad to hear that creep is gone and you're alright
is he really a creep?
Yes. It is not okay for someone who has barely been around to "check on you". Likely he was a pedophile who was hoping to catch an inappropriate glance at you or do something inappropriate without your knowledge. You should never feel bad about outing those people because they are manipulators and abusers, they try to do wrong things and then make you feel bad from being bothered or upset by it.
Absolutely
Yes, tell mom he was wrong and sounds like a creep, don't let him touch you kick him where it counts.
tell her, and tell the school nurse/councilor. make sure to tell them exactly what happened and how you felt, but don't accuse him of doing anything he didn't
Depends, if he just checked on you to make sure you are ok, thats normal dad stuff, all good parents do that.
But if he's doing weird shit like taking your covers off or touching you inapropriately, then thats a red flag.
You can tell your mom either way though, and tbh she's probably the one who asked him to check on you. Perhaps to make sure you actually went to bed on time instead of staying up late on your electronics, or maybe it's because you sneak out at night when you're not supposed to, or perhaps they just are paranoid and want to know you're still breathing because they had a nightmare that suggested otherwise.
There are lots of reasons for it, but those were off the top of my head.
Ah ok, so he was being a creep then. Glad to hear you talked to your mom and he'a gone now. Stay safe kiddo. Hopefully the next guy your mom picks has some decency.
Yes, tell your mom
Yes and get a camera
Yes talk to your mom
Ask your mom if she did have him go to your room and check on you. If she asks why then tell her what he did. You don't want this to escalate
Regarding update, well I guess she didn't ask him to check on you
she said she very sorry she put me in danger and she be more careful with the guys she brings home.
I'm glad your mom got rid of him. He didn't try anything with you did he?
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