My moms new boyfriend came into my room during the night he said it was to check on me should I tell my mom?

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RACSKC0B · Accepted Answer

If all he did was look in, and started walking away, you're probably OK. But keep a mental note if this keeps happening or not.

Did he check on you when your door was closed? If so, did he knock first, or just let himself in?

But if you don't like it, or it makes you uncomfortable, you have every right to bring it up with him or your mom. I would try him first, and if it didn't stop then I'd say something to your mom. You don't have to be rude about it, just say "Hey Phillip (because you're 18, and it doesn't sound like he helped to raise you, he's not your step dad you can call him by his name) I don't think it's necessary for you to check on me at night. I don't do anything I shouldn't be doing, I don't sneak out, I don't sneak boys in, and it just makes me uncomfortable. OK, thanks." Unless you're doing stuff you shouldn't, and getting into trouble in which case knock it off already, act right and he won't feel the need to make sure you're in bed at night.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Key word here is 'NEW', your mum doesn't know this guy, he should not be in your house overnight with you there and sure as shit should under no circumstances should he be 'checking up on you'.

Yes you should tell your mum but more importantly you should be telling the police and a teacher at school that you trust, because unfortunately your mother cannot be relied upon to act in a responsible manner.

If you have other family, father? Grand parents? you should seek their help too.

This is absolutely 100% entirely unacceptable and an extremely dangerous warning sign of things to come, I do not consider you to be living in a safe environment.

You should be extremely concerned, this must never happen again.

GenaBaby1995 · Accepted Answer

Don't get him in trouble unless he starts looking at you sexually and he keeps doing it.

Or starts being really nice and starts buying you things too.

I was molested by my mom's boyfriend and especially dont get caught up by all the attention from him either.

Tyrael · Answer

I'd say that's worth mentioning yes

summiter · Answer

Yes I would tell her. He has no right to be in your room.

dustybiker · Answer

I would tell her in front of him.

SnowedIn · Answer

Yes! Tell her! Soon and now. And ask for a lock on your bedroom door. This is not okay for him to do.

UnknownPuppet · Answer

Of course. Talk directly to your mother

boggboss · Answer

Yes that's a red flag right there

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes! Tell her

Th3ft · Answer

How new are we talking? Has he done anything sexual toward you before? I mean she should know if you are uncomfortable but she also maybe unwilling to listen if you don’t have a whole lot to go on. That is a hard road to go down if you two aren’t super close….

DJB72 · Answer

Yes. It's not ok for him to do that and your mum not know about it. He may be just protective of his new family, but these days that's definitely not cool

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, tell mom he was wrong and sounds like a creep, don't let him touch you kick him where it counts.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Don't tell her. It's a word against one other word.

Just: Next time when you all sit at breakfast: Tell him that you appreciate that he comes to your bedroom at night to see if you are well.

Then you lean back - and watch what happens.

JustADudePlayinADude · Answer

I would absolutely do that. It is very weird.

ConspiracyTheorist · Answer

Absolutely

talka20 · Answer

Yes do tell her

KennyG72 · Answer

tell her, and tell the school nurse/councilor. make sure to tell them exactly what happened and how you felt, but don't accuse him of doing anything he didn't

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Depends, if he just checked on you to make sure you are ok, thats normal dad stuff, all good parents do that.

But if he's doing weird shit like taking your covers off or touching you inapropriately, then thats a red flag.

You can tell your mom either way though, and tbh she's probably the one who asked him to check on you. Perhaps to make sure you actually went to bed on time instead of staying up late on your electronics, or maybe it's because you sneak out at night when you're not supposed to, or perhaps they just are paranoid and want to know you're still breathing because they had a nightmare that suggested otherwise.

There are lots of reasons for it, but those were off the top of my head.

AsaKyo · Answer

Yes, tell your mom

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

Yes and get a camera

Havthrills · Answer

Yes!

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

Yes talk to your mom

Sparkie460 · Answer

Ask your mom if she did have him go to your room and check on you. If she asks why then tell her what he did. You don't want this to escalate

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes, you should tell her.

kellytheman · Answer

Well as long she wasn't flirting or coming on to you sexually he might actually checking on you to make sure your okay kinda being a father figure but if you do feel uncomfortable about it you probably be alright to tell your mom.

Keepitreal007 · Answer

Yes and tell him if he does it again you’ll chop his Dick off.

HillmanZ · Answer

Put a camera and do tell

Wise4myage · Answer

Hell yes you should tell your mother.

Degenerate · Answer

Did he knock or something?

dudeinohio · Answer

Yes! Absolutely tell her.

JenniferBiArizona · Answer

Yes. He has no reason to be in there

Shamalien · Answer

Yeah. Predators always flock to single moms cause the children are not defended by a father

DrewJohnson · Answer

Bring it up to your mom. If she did ask him to check on you maybe explain that you can't uncomfortable with that. If he wasn't supposed to be there, she'll definitely want to know that her boyfriend is going into your room.