My nephew has foot fetish?

[Anonymous]

My nephew had to stay with us for a week and played with my two daughters all the time. My daughters would go to their rooms with him whenever they had the chance and play with him for hours. I became suspicious that they were playing too much, and one evening, when I watched them secretly from the terrace of the house, I noticed that he was kissing my daughters' feet. My daughters later confessed that they made him kiss their feet for hours during the day and even lick their slippers. He is only eight years old. Should I tell his mother? Or should I just ignore it?

[Hannahm67]

My 13 year old nephew has a foot fetish. I found out when I was babysitting him at my apartment for two weeks while his parents were on a business trip out of the country. I stepped out to pick up dinner so was gone for like 15 mins. When I came back I caught him in my room with the closet open and one of my pairs of Ugg boots with his nose stuck inside it and a clear erection bulging through is pajama pants. He had his AirPods in so didn't hear me come in. Honestly, I am amazed that he didn't throw up from smelling my Uggs, I never wear socks with them and my feet sweat like a pig from all that hot fur inside lol.

Anyways I pretended to buy his lame excuse. but as someone who grew up in a sexually repressive house with no one, I could talk through my urges with. I after dinner sat him down and had a long talk telling him that I knew what he was really doing and that it is perfectly normal. I told him that he can smell my shoes when he feels the urge and gave him some of my dirty socks so that he had something to not make a mess when he finishes.

[Asker]

How did he react when you talk with him?

[IM_SAM2]

Never happened with me.. But some guys asked for my feet picture

[Siren777]

Speak to his parents but be cautious as at the end of the day that's their kid and they will end up blaming you for allowing your daughters to do that to him. I mean they're only kids but parents tend not understand when you speak of their kids , they take everything as a personal attack. Next time speak to all the kids in the room and let them know it's not allowed.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Get all of them together and be strict with them not lightly
and tell them all that there will be trouble if you call the cops
with little kids, you need to do something to scare them also
tell his mother this is not acceptable in your house this is a
serious matter for sure and this could lead to other serious things
I knew this girl was age 18 and had a mind of a 6-7-year-old
she had a learning disability and her dad was dating this woman
who was not this girl's mother and this woman had a son was
taking this girl to a basement or garage and she was giving him
blowjobs so this was sick for any man to take advantage of a
a girl who was like a step-sister and the girl was disabled it was sad.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for Most Helpful Guy :)

[IMuser]

Just try peacefully talking to them, like i saw you once licking her feet... Their brain is still developing and they are too young to know about sex (i masturbated for the first time when I was 14)

They think it's a game and it would be good for all of you to talk peacefully without judgement

[Asker]

Thanks for advice

[Flower7]

It sounds like your daughters were the ones telling him to do those things. It doesn’t sound like he’s at fault.

[Sour-rose]

Probably not. That's your daugther's wish, not his. So talk to her if it gets too bad?

[summiter]

I think his mother should know about it.

[pixie215]

how is it "his" fetish if they are making him do it? he is 8 how old are they?

[Asker]

Their wanting to have fun is not considered fetish. But kissing feet is a 'fetish'. He could object to that. They are 9 and 11 years

[pixie215]

he is 8 and impressionable when two others are asking or telling him to do it, why dont you pull your daughters aside ask them not to do it then sese what happens? you are an adult you see it as a fetish- he is a little kid he doesn't have a clue what he is actually doing especially being told to do so

[Asker]

Yes you are right. But what confuses me is, which boy, even a little kid, wants to kiss girls' disgusting feet without objection, even if he's told to do that?

[pixie215]

its kinda like when kids dare others to eat dirt or lick paste, kids do odd things because they are followers and well again impressionable.

[RawIronhide]

Lol omg, typical. Why are you blaming the boy and equipping him with adult qualities when your daughters are the ones telling him to do it? You're definitely being biased and unfairly distributing blame on a child.

[Asker]

My girls aren't guilty of wanting to have fun. Wanting to have fun and kissing feet are two different things.

[RawIronhide]

None of them are guilty, they're kids! your daughters are playing with asserting control over boys and your nephew is playing at being obedient with the opposite gender like kids do. He doesn't have a foot fetish.

[RawIronhide]

You're bad at supervising children.

[Asker]

You mean to say that they are asserting control to the opposite sex by getting make their feet kissed, and also he is being obedient to girls by kissing their feet? Kind of gender power game? You may be right, I don't know.

[RawIronhide]

Well if the kids not 12-14 he's not even sexual. Buys definitely don't develop fetishes untill they're older. Either way it's not fair to the kid for his aunt to be completely against him. I may have been to harsh on you but it's totally unfair of you to assume he's being deviant especially if it's a group interaction. Sure tell his perents but don't act like you don't play a part in the whole ordeal either.

[Asker]

No. I'm not completely against him. I can even say that I am a little bit happy because he was a living toy for my beautiful daughters, entertained them and made them laugh out loud.

[RawIronhide]

That's good, I'm sorry, growing up as a boy I've definitely run into similar situations where adults didn't give me the benefit of the doubt. Some were outright nasty towards me at unwarranted times, there's no worse feeling for a kid especially if it's his family or friends.

[Asker]

Can you open dm for me. i want to ask some questions

[RawIronhide]

Sure I added you.

[IM_SAM2]

If your daughter made him kiss their feet, he maybe normal and don't have foot fetish.

Your daughter might be dominant or like if boy kiss her feet

[Iron_Man]

Talk him out of it

[Wise4myage]

Tell his mother, lmao.

[Kelly6]

Tell his mother

[Nightmoon88]

Nothing wrong with that everyone has fetishes

[Anonymous]

Reminds me of my childhood

[Anonymous]

Tell your daughters to stop doing that, and that's it. Don't say shit to the parents. Nothing good will come from that.

[Anonymous]

If your daughters made him kiss their feet it doesn't sound like he has a foot fetish.

[Asker]

My daughters say they do this for fun and to make fun of him. But he could object to that.

[Opinion Owner]

He could object or might be too shy to say something. When I was kid of about 5 a couple of the older neighborhood girls played doctor with me including examining my private parts in detail. Being younger than them I didn't realize I had a choice.

[Anonymous]

The definition of “fetish” is a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular body part, object, etc.. With that given I think it may be a stretch to diagnose and accuse your 8 year old nephew of fetishizing your children’s feet. Especially when you mention that your kid confessed to making him kiss her feet for hours, and lick their slippers, and not him forcing or prodding them to let him do anything. With that being said, I would definitely speak with his parents about the behavior but I’d also sit my kids down and explain that their behavior is also not acceptable.

[Asker]

My daughters say they do this for fun and to make fun of him. I talked with them it's not acceptable.

[Opinion Owner]

I get it, kids tend to get curious and explore stuff that seems innocent to them but as adults we know the action isn’t ok. I think that was the case here, with nothing sexual or anything sinister behind it. Aside from informing your nephews mom, I would just keep an eye on the situation. If the foot worshiping happens again then there’s a problem, but hopefully it doesn’t come to that.

[Asker]

I'm trying to think like you. but the fact that he kissed my girls' feet without even a single objection every day for a week confuses me.

[Opinion Owner]

I hear you for sure. But I think you’re putting a lot more emphasis on what he did as opposed to what your daughters requested. I’m one to look at situations from all perspectives, and from his, what if he feels obligated? You’re not there to hear what exactly is being said to coerce him into the feet stuff.. what if they’re being mean or pushy about it? Boys grow up being told to be nice to girls, and often times I think it leads to them being taken advantage of, especially as a child and not wanting to get in trouble. As you are displaying, boys typically get a lot of the blame when something is wrong while girls get slaps on the wrists and it’s just not very fair. It’s not your job to protect him but when he’s in your care, someone has to. I have a 24 year old cousin who struggles with the oddest fear of Barbie dolls because as a kid, we were babysat by my grandma and the girls would torment him by breaking the dolls and putting parts down his shirt, pants, walking the broken legs up his legs and just creating that irrational fear. He internalized something that was clearly traumatic for him, but at the time it was supposed to be innocent. He never told anyone until he went to therapy because he was so ashamed and embarrassed. If that’s how he is about something as small as dolls, how will what your nephew is going through affect him in the future?