well, its part of a sexual experience, don't just down it without trying. You say you don't want it right? apparently he does... so... make the sacrifice. When i wrote my article on cheating and how it happens... this was one of the reasons why. Total rejection.
I can understand not wanting up your rear end, but your partner wants it... so make the sacrifice. BUT its gonna cost him. and make sure it hurts.
Find something that you LOVE to do or ALWAYS wanted to do (be sure its something he hates too..) then tell him thats the cost.
Then you go do your research, get a dildo or something and practice or whatever. You only gotta do it once right? If he wants another time, make sure it costs.
If he reneges on your demands... then there you go, nothing up the rear. but again, if he doesn't, you may have to just give it a try.
Cuz according to my article... and me... just because you say no, doesn't mean his want goes away... morons say he is disrespectful... but is he? getting blamed for wanting to try something with you? like i said, just because you say no... fine. But he came to you FIRST. So when you hear he had anal sex with Cindy whom he works with... just remember... You said NO. And he respected that. Because he didn't ask You again.
So basically what I hear is you are condoning cheating because a female had the balls to firmly say no to anal? If a girl doesn't want anal you are saying it is their fault the guy cheated? Buddy, are you sure you are okay or something because what I see is a belittling piece of shit wrapped in toilet paper. You are the type of kid who got his head shoved down a toilet in school just for being a disrespectful little ass wipe. Holy shit, I bet you fucking cheated on your girl and you are trying to make yourself feel better about it by telling yourself it was her fault. Also, fix your grammar wise ass and go back to school. Educate yourself on how to respect a woman and fix your mommy issues. While you are in school, remember, you should probably learn something because dropping out of high school obviously didn't teach you shit jack ass. <3
@VerifiedRedHead wow... the assumption is real. hey, no need to put ur whole life experiences on here boo... no one said anything about you. I was talking about a topic, please address the topic or go back to whatever life you have. smh... coming out here to tell me how my life is. It would be nice if you even got ONE right... and im the asshole. coming out here with ur inexperienced self. u ain't ready
You tell him the truth. Tell him that you know he wants it, but that it's just not something you're comfortable with, and you'd like him to stop asking, because it makes you feel bad, but isn't going to change your mind.
I love it, but it is not everyones's cup of tea! You both are not in a good position. It is something for which there is no compromise. Either way, one of you will be unsatisfied. One of you is going to have to concede, one is going to be unhappy. At worst, it could all fall apart.
Don't let him make you feel guilty for not performing specific sex acts. Sex should be an expression of love and a shared experience but so many reduce it to performing sexual favors for someone else. Just stand your ground and never do anything that you don't want to do.
It's very simple you don't take it anally! He either understands and quits asking or maybe it is time to move on and let him find someone who likes it up a dirty asshole.
Tell him. He should respect your wishes and sexual limits
Well said (sexual limits)
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Just tell him that you do not want it, if your not open to it and you dont wish to try it he should be understanding.
Its your body and your rules. Simple. If he does not like it and raises a fuss maybe he is not the right guy for you.
Tell him you definitely don't want it.
don´t make it if you don´t like it, if he cannot understand that you don´t like it, then he is no man for you, just as plain as that.
omg... really dude... really?
@Tdieseler yep, you see im not a fan of it myself, so maybe i am biased because i actually dislike it in fact.
you know, its because of shit like that that makes women just think they are like goddesses or something. Their way or the highway. The guy wants to do something with his girl... and she doesn't want to... flip that shit around, what if she wanted to do something with him, and he said fuck no. What would you say? that she is not the one for him, or would you (again) blame the fucking guy. see... this is why women think they are all that... dont fucking pander to them. Bring those cunts back to fucking reality. They are human.
You’ve voiced your stance on the matter, there’s nothing more you can do but stand your ground.
If you don't want to do anything DON'T do it
Tell him to stop fucking asking, and if you want to do it you'll tell him. If you're not giving him a definite answer he'll permanently think it's a maybe.
That being said, done right a lot of people enjoy it, but I would 100% read up some info about cleaning, prep and how to enjoy anal, and play on your own in private, only then will you decide if it's something that interests you.
Learn to want anal.
if you don't want it, don't do it.
if you have concerns but are considering it talk to him.
Clench those cheeks tight
Dumb.
You tell him you don't want to and that's that. It's your body, not his.
Never, ever do something you're not happy or comfortable with.
You just make it a deal breaker because that is too damn silly and ridiculous of a thing to build a relationship on.
Then don't do it
Maybe you get used to this as well.. ever tried it?
DON"T HAVE ANAL, That is a fetish brought to popularity by porn, if he watches porn get him to quit, he could be manifesting his fetishes into reality! Anal sex isn't meant to occur, it is dirty, and can lead to serious infection if he were to go from the anus into the vagina, also your risk for Gonorrhea goes up highly since anal sex is correlated to contracting the disease.
The Anus was designed to only have things go out of it, not up. We have nerve endings there to sense when we need to go poop, not for pleasure. Don't let him deceive you, it is not a healthy thing to be doing or a good one!
If he doesn't understand your sexual limits... then he is not a partner, he thinks he is an owner.
Tell him. If it's a deal breaker for either of you, time to go separate ways. If you both have room for compromise, you'll have to have that conversation to determine how much room you have and if it's room enough to come together.
You don’t do it
just tell him ur allergic to anal sex
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