My religious parent thinks im waiting for marriage but im no longer a virgin because I love sex. Is it bad im lying?

[Mary087]

My dad raised me strict and harsh because he is Christian and i wasn't allowed to do really anything when i was younger let alone have a boyfriend in high school and what not. He is totally against sex before marriage even tho he did it before he was married but im 23 now i & i chose to lose my v card when i was 22 because i was ready to experience sex and i think it's an enjoyable, fun, hot activity and im embracing my sexuality more now at 23 more than anything but i do believe in safe sex and practice it. I just hope to find a partner to enjoy with someday too. I tend to feel a little bad when he mentions me being pure because im not but i don't believe a religion should stop one from what to do with their bodies. I do believe in God and praise him but I'm not a strict christian i guess :/

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Trust me I think your old enough and responsible to have sex sure dad is strict but you just go on but protect yourself from pregnancy or any sexually related diseases that could happen yes I dated a girl who caught vaginal warts caused by a virus nope we never had sex cause the most we did was foreplay and yes she is my ex but she broke up with me I didn't but see these things happen in life and no we didn't break up cause of her Illness but at one time I loved her and I know you don't want lie about saying your virgin but for sakes alive, you need to make your own decisions

[Phoenix-gb]

It's not great that you're lying, but understandable why you are given they are being worse by still imposing their strict viewpoints on you now you are a recognised adult in charge of your own life.

What you get up to is your business and your business alone though so I fall on the side that if you enjoy it, are safe about it and aren't harming anyone, do what makes you feel good.

[dustybiker]

You’re an adult. You parents job is done. You are living your own life now. Don’t create regrets you can’t live with. Other than that enjoy this crazy arse life.

[Subarugirl]

Honestly it's none of your fathers business and it's kind of weird he's so interesting in your sex life, or supposed lack of one...

[stark04]

Well, your parents have raised a good kid because you did nothing wrong yet you feels like you're betraying them which you are not by the way. It's just they've told you not to engage in sexual intercourse before marriage and you did so you just feel guilty about it. I'm sure you're a wonderful person and they're proud of you. You did nothing wrong.

[Berethor]

Yes it bad that you laying, you could had not said anything.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/AtLeastIAdmitIt

[GingerGuy]

In this case no because it's NONE of their business regardless. Your sex life is private and nobody needs to know it.

[Dargil]

At your age of 23, it is none of their business. You are not obligated to be truthful about it.

[RealMarek]

What you do sexually is a private matter. I understand where your parents are coming from in terms of their beliefs, but they don’t have a right to know. You’re an adult and will make your own decisions.

[Desconhecida]

I know omission is considered a lie but when it comes to your sex life, that's no one else's business. Especially your parent's.

[Jamie05rhs]

"He is totally against sex before marriage even tho he did it before he was married."

This is why I won't marry a woman who isn't a virgin. Because I want a wife who will be a good example for my daughters. I want someone who they will look up to and respect because she has credibility.

[crmoore]

I think it's unfortunate that lying about it is that is a reasonable response (like I wish yoi being honest about it was a simple and viable option), but no, I don't think you're wrong for doing it.

[DrewJohnson]

You don't have to tell your dad everything. The way you handle your sex life and build your relationship with God is up to you.

[IsoUser]

I grew up in an openly nudist Christian household, Growing up I had more embarrassing dripping wet erections than I can count between girls and friends of girls family members for no Absolute reason. But Once I became involved with my girlfriend and yes before marriage all my attention was on her and her alone. Some guys take advantage of this but I never did.

[Xtendable]

Its probably good they don’t know. Fly under the radar

[urpapi69]

There's no such thing as strict or lenient when it comes to Abrahmic religions.

[andylakes9]

Can you pm me?