Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
So, you've been seeing this guy or girl for awhile, and still haven't went into "dating" territory. Neither of you want to settle down yet and you're both getting something out of your sexual arrangement. Everything is going great, right--you're keeping things under control, you rarely actually go on dates, you get to feel sexy a few times a month! What's the problem? Scared to fall in love; don't worry!
1. Don't treat them like a sex object--when not in the bedroom (unless they like that kind of sexting etc.)!
2. Get takeout food (We like Chinese, Mexican and Italian)!
3. Go out with them once in awhile (take them to the club/a restaurant; rarely but surely)!
4. When you do have sex, make it amazing! Please them, and let them please you. Push your limits if you're into that kinky stuff--but still respect your hard limits!
5. Remember to get in shape for both them AND you, so you feel confident about yourself!
6. Keep the feelings at bay--see other people or at least allow yourself to fantasize about someone other than them.
7. Understand that they probably don't "love" you, BUT they're quite possessive over you because they've at LEAST created a physical attachment.
8. Have normal conversations (but not on very emotional topics) --but NOT if you ONLY want them to be a "fuck buddy" let them know you only want to contact them when you're going to see each other/fuck etc. (Don't make them think you WANT to be friends too!)
9. Be able to be upfront to your Friend-with-Benefits and don't ASSUME you're always on the same page if their actions start to change immensely. You know what I mean--you start out as "dating" but turns into fucking at their house eating pizza...no makeup, nothing sexy about that.
10. Use the 4 agreements in your arrangement; "Be impeccable with your word. Don't take anything personally. Don't make assumptions. Always do your best."
BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY; HAVE FUN! Try to see if the "barely works out arrangement" can work for at least a little while!
--Going on a year with my Friend-With-Benefits! Why; We follow these rules!
What Girls & Guys Said
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Pretty much what I’m doing but she would want more if I did but she is half my age
I was initially worried about falling for my friends with benefits, but this fear has subsided completely over the past few months. We have a great relationship overall, based on friendship. He and I hang out on a weekly basis, usually a day or two. There is no expectation that we'll have sex every time we meet, but we do pretty often. I care a lot about him and he's shown that he cares for me as well, even going out of his way to pick me up over an hour away at 1AM when I needed to get away from my home situation last night. It works for us, but I know that I couldn't easily have this kind of relationship with someone else. We definitely follow these rules!
My friends with benefits cut things off last week. I think she sensed I was starting to look for more (didn’t start that way). Sucks though
How long did it last? Do you think he'd be okay with it never really progressing, as long as I am? He's not the type to settle down... just wondering...
Just 2 months. Deep down I want something solid. But women get scared when guys come out and say this from the get go