My sister's boyfriend started having sex with me?

Question

I share apartment with my older sister and last night about 2 am I woke up with my sister' boyfriend in my bedroom and in my bed on top of me and having sex with me. I kept saying no and stop but he kept in me and said just let him finish. I got to turn on the light and then he saw it was me and not my sister. He was really drunk and then said sorry and went to my sisters room. He never did anything like this before and been so nice to me. Should I say anything to my sister or just drop it. I think he was just drunk and thought he was in my sister's room.

MarianneF · Accepted Answer

So, being drunk is a good excuse to perform rape? Weinstein's lawyers will appreciate this so much!
-End of sarcastic remark-
It is WRONG in all possible ways. You must stand up for yourself, you should have stopped him right away (if that is what you wanted) by any means possible and then you should confront the passive-aggresive bastard, in front of your sister.
Now, think how are you going to prove so as you don't pass as an idiot or jealous person.

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

... And in my bed on top of me having sex with me.
You could have Screamed but you Didn't cry "Rape" and No one Tied you Down or even drugged ya.
Lock your Bedroom door, stay Clear, dear, of Him and Silence is Golden. She is Blood this guy is a Dud. xx

QueenofCups · Accepted Answer

You should tell your sister what happened and let her decide if she believes him.

AndyOh · Accepted Answer

Kind of a hard question to answer. If you do say something, your sister will be hurt and there will be a rift between your sister and you for a while. And she might dump her boyfriend.
If you don't say something, it will be a secret you will have to keep for years, especially if she marries this guy. Though it might be a good laugh decades later. Have to look at both sides of this...

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Being drunk is HIS responsibility, and any actions he takes, drunk or otherwise, are HIS responsibility. No one held a gun to his head

Yes, you should absolutely tell your sister (at the very least). He raped you because he was epicly irresponsible. If you decide not to have him arrested and charged, he should thank his lucky stars, but your sister definitely needs to know.

SirNewhallian · Answer

I would say something to your sister. Maybe he lied and knew it was you. That really wasn’t ok for him to do at all

BeeryNice · Answer

He raped you. Neither you nor your sister are safe.

Lovemycountryboy · Answer

You need to tell your sister what he did to you

hsshannah96 · Answer

This is still rape. I'd report this

NJ_Casanova · Answer

Yes, You should have said something to your sister Right away... actually should have at the minimum... kicked him out. Really should have called the cops.

dizmuhjam · Answer

That was a mistake. You shouldn't have let it drop if he continued after you turned the light on. But he saw that it was the wrong room right away and left. If this happens again, tell her. But for now I'd say you should give him a chance.

Intraluminal · Answer

Well he raped you. Admittedly he might not have meant to.

Chaz269 · Answer

You should tell your sister AND the police. You said "no" and he didn't stop, that's rape by any standard.

Rachel6677 · Answer

tell your sister

DarkFun · Answer

If you said stop and he stopped then turned the light on and realised it was you I might think it was an honest mistake. The thing that sticks in my mind is that you said stop and he didn't, and if he thought you were your sister then this could be how he treats or will treat her in the future. Even if your sister resents you or it causes issues between you, telling her could protect her from being seriously hurt, I hope you're ok 😊