My son has no sense of privacy?

[Anonymous]

I mean this physically - he comes out of the shower completely nude, not bothering to dress or even drape a towel around him - or he will lounge on the couch wearing shorts with his legs spread without underwear so his balls hang out for all to see.

I have tried pleading with him to cover up more as I don't want to see it, but he doesn't listen. We live alone, just the two of us so I have no one to back me up, and he says I'm just being prudish.

Just the other day, he did the balls-out trick when my sister and her 12 year old daughter came to visit, which is what has pushed me to the point of asking for advice. How do I get him to listen to me, and understand I don't want to see his penis or balls everyday?

[Reece12345]

Just have serious talk with him and explain that above all else this is about other people's feelings. That what he is doing is upsetting to other people and he needs to understand that. Treat other people the way that you would want them to treat you.

Just standards need to be set and I think that's a good start?

[Asker]

I have done that, he just downplays it repeatedly.

[Reece12345]

Maybe just so long as he doesn't get erections?

[Asker]

No, I have never seen anything like that (thankfully)

[sirderpsalot123]

How old is he? If he's under the age of 18, tell him if he doesn't start acting right, he can find a new place to live the day he turns 18.

I grew up in a house full of women. I would never have wanted them to see anything. That's just weirdo behavior.

[Asker]

He is 17, he turns 18 in a few months. I have insinuated this, though I will likely resort to it if he does it again.

[sirderpsalot123]

I'm sure he will come crawling back with a completely different attitude and a newfound respect for you. Just hang in there.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Why does it make you uncomfortable? If nudity makes you uncomfortable then it seems more that you are embarrassed by it. There’s no shame in the human body except the shame that we assign to it. If he’s comfortable being naked around you then you did something right in teaching him to accept his body.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Make him regret exposing himself, there’s no better punishment for a kid than for their parent to embarrass them.

[Asker]

... How though?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Snap a picture of him and post it somewhere his friends can see, or just shame him publicly online. Mention it the next time you and him are out and you're talking with a friend of his or yours. He might just see it as you nagging and worrying over nothing, but maybe you can start being more vulgar with him. I'm guessing you haven't specifically told him about the gross stuff you can see on his balls, tell him "You should get that spot checked out, it doesn't look good" next time his balls are out, and let him freak out about it. Or you could just constantly drop things on his groin whenever he's exposed. There's lots of options, think of how you would hate to be humiliated in his shoes and put it on him.

[Asker]

He's 17 so I don't think legally I could take a picture of that, not that I'd want a picture of that lying around anyway lol. Dropping things on his balls, doesn't that seem a bit far?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

He's not listening to reason, this is his idea of comfortable. I'm sure it wouldn't be an issue if he could do it in private but it's not like you have to drop an anvil on his crotch. Throw pillows, shoot nerf darts, baseballs, something to make him scared to expose himself. If he's 17, he's still prone to getting embarrassed in public out with his mom so you can still openly complain about it. I would recommend doing it on social medias you share with him. Tag him in a facebook post complaining about it and see what all of your friends and his friends say.

[boggboss]

Is it not your house lay down the law

[Asker]

... How though?

[Kaneki05]

Just get the cops that will wake him up lmao.

[tfan1]

Tell him not to do that anymore or you will take away his privileges one by one.

[HaveNoName]

That is disgraceful behavior on his part.

[Pudsmucker]

He's now living in your house and tell him the rules have changed now that you're a young man and soon to be 18. While living in my house I would like you to follow these new rules and you set the precedence you state rule that need to be followed.

[In_Trance]

How old is he?

[Asker]

He is 17, turning 18 soon.

[In_Trance]

Why did you teach him this is ok?

[Asker]

What? I didn't, that's why I'm looking for advice on how to fix it

[In_Trance]

The same way you'd fix anything else.

[Asker]

That is the most non-answer I have ever heard lol

[In_Trance]

This is the worst parenting I've ever heard

[Tellme]

Do you think he just doesn’t care?

Or do you think there’s also a sexual component to it, like, was he ever aroused while being exposed?

[Asker]

I think he just doesn't care, I have never seen him hard as another person asked.

[Tellme]

Yeah, in that case I think he just doesn’t care.

[panamared1]

use a squirt gun on him

[Asker]

Haha

[panamared1]

everytime you see his balls squirt him, especially if others are around

[Anonymous]

Assuming this is real, and he's actually that dense, then tell him to go get an apartment.

[Asker]

he's 17, but turns 18 in a few months. I'm 👌 this close to doing that.

[Opinion Owner]

I've been on my own since I was 17. Help him pack his bags. Reality will solve your problem.

[Anonymous]

Whenever you see his balls exposed like that, give them a playful tap. He will get the picture fast and cover up!

[Asker]

You think I should smack his balls? Someone else here said I should drop things on them which seems a little dangerous but just a quick slap probably wouldn't cause any damage...

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn’t have to be super hard, just something with just force that he’ll feel it. You’re not going to do any damage and shouldn’t. Does he leave himself in a position when he’s standing that would give you an opening for a slap?

[Asker]

Not when he's standing, I thought you meant like when he was on the couch. And of course, that's why I worried about what the other person said - I don't want to hurt him in any real way

[Opinion Owner]

Is he a fairly athletic kid? If he’s bigger and stronger than you, I don’t think your slap would even have that much affect on him. I guess it depends on how much his balls are hanging out and visible

[Asker]

Oh they're visible, that's why I'm so done with seeing it lol Yeah he's pretty athletic, and is a lot taller than me

[Opinion Owner]

You might not even be strong enough for your slap to have much affect on him then. Do you think your slap is strong enough to get his attention?

[Asker]

I think so, and even if it doesn't hurt that much I bet his mom touching his balls would be a wake up call in itself 🤔

[Opinion Owner]

It will probably be most effective after he gets out of the shower and is walking around naked. It depends how good your aim is lol

[Asker]

That's definitely true, though maybe I should kick them? As you said, a slap might not do much to him and if it doesn't, I'm back at square one

[Opinion Owner]

A kick is probably too much, but a firm slap in the balls should drop him to his knees lol Have you seen him get hit there before?

[Asker]

Hmm, fair enough. No, I can't remember ever seeing him hit there

[Opinion Owner]

Is he is a cocky teen, I doubt he thinks your strong enough to take him down

[Anonymous]

I would have loved seeing a boy do that when I was 12.

[Asker]

Even your cousin, though?

[Opinion Owner]

haha well my one cousin, yes. But mostly any boy, I hadn't seen or done anything yet.

[Asker]

Fair enough I guess, though personally I don't find balls that appealing to look at lol

[Opinion Owner]

In this case I would just tell your son to knock it off.

[Gagname]

Pink Anon You’d like a guy IRL to expose his balls/dick to you? And it sounds like you “have a thing” for your guy cousin…is this because he’s handsome/sexy, or what? Also: do you think some mothers (like the question-asker) would actually like to see stuff like her son does? (I ask this because it didn’t seem to dawn on you in your conversation w the mother question-asker that she wouldn’t want to see her son’s exposed bits.)

[Anonymous]

Let him know that in 2023 that is considered sexual assault and he needs to knock it off. Mommy will warn you anyone else will lock you up and you don’t want that label

[Asker]

I have said things along those lines, his argument is that he only does it in his own home and not in public therefore its fine. He can't be convinced it seems.

[Opinion Owner]

It’s your home not his. Remind him. Your house your rules. If he wants to walk around naked then it’s time to move out. Also showing your balls to your 12 year old cousin is not cool at all. Control yourself!

[Asker]

We're in agreement, he just doesn't listen to this stuff I'm afraid.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry I wish I had a solution for you. I can imagine how awkward and infuriating this is.

[Opinion Owner]

I didn’t want to ask this in public but I’m just realizing that you are anonymous so I guess it doesn’t matter…. Where is his father? Is he in the picture? If so, is he aware of this?

[Asker]

His father left when he was 3, and we have only spoken twice since then.

[Opinion Owner]

Damn I’m sorry to hear that.