Sexual Relationships 
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I know to most people think I'm way too young to even think about it. I know I am. In the little time I've spent on Earth I've observed every single failed relationship around me romantic or platonic.
I'm going to be really cliche and use my parents as an example. My mother had never had a proper relationship and was told the first guy is the only guy. She didn't know about kissing sex etc. My father lied to her hid his true self. He used her so he could move to the UK. They continued to stay together. After they had my brother things went to shit he'd stay out get drunk cheat on my mum fight her pregnant or not. She was so manipulated into thinking she had to do this she brought me into the mix too. What I've learnt from that is don't rush anything. Always show your true self and if they don't like you for who you are don't change yourself. Love and respect yourself 100% before you let someone else into your life. Don't get into a relationship until your head is right and you have your shit together. I'd rather be alone than stuck in a miserable relationship. Never ever move in with someone unless you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with them. Don't have children with someone until you've lived with them for a few years and you know exactly what they're like. Discuss the topic of children extensively with your partner until you're both 100% sure. Your choice to stay with someone should be your choice and your choice alone.
What I learnt from my cousins first boyfriend is if your partner is not mentally right from the start you have every single right to leave without guilt. If they're suicidal report it send them to get help but don't get involved romantically or let them be dependent on you vice versa. I also learnt how to spot red flags. This guy would look at my cousins bare face and say ew. He'd also loudly criticise her face and weight. You should not have to accept that. This left my cousin with issues that are going to take years to fix. I also learnt that you need to be 100% secure in your image and understand that one person's opinion does not matter. My cousin is the most beautiful girl and every single person has that raw natural beauty that should always be appreciated. There are days where you feel ugly but just know every single person is beautiful in their own way even if they don't fit the current societies standards of beauty. Acne doesn't take away from your beauty it makes you human it makes you normal.
What I learnt from my cousins second "boyfriend" was that you need to be 100% independent. She was new to the school and he had been there for years. She followed him and only made friends with his friends. When they broke up she had no one and had to start from scratch. Always keep your options open. Make friends allow yourself to be you. I put boyfriend in quotes because he never formally asked her out or took her on a date. He just went around referring to my cousin as his girl. I also learnt to slow down if it's been rocky. They broke up twice clearly showing everyone that they aren't stable. Yet she gave him a blow job in the woods. They broke up 2 weeks later anyways. She felt horrible and let other people judge her for her actions. The reason they broke up for good was that they guy never wanted a relationship. Yet he was the one that referred to her as "His girl". Upon hearing this, I realised he was just saying what she wanted to hear. She let him know what her exact expectations were and what she would and wouldn't do. That heavily relied on the status of their relationship.
My cousin is currently seeing her third boyfriend and I'll be honest I thought he was chill at first and we swapped books. Over time I saw him for what he was. A manipulative bastard who is fucking with my cousins head. My cousin popped up asking about a uni course. She said bye and he said he was upset. My cousin being who she is she stayed and listened to him. He made her think his current relationship was as good as done. He sent the first picture and encouraged her. Further down the line he blames my cousin for destroying his earlier relationship and calls her a slag after hearing the rumours about her. She's had 3 boyfriends and "spoken" to probably 3 or 4 people. She never cheated and she told her current boyfriend everything. He had a rather hostile reaction. My cousin also found out he was talking to multiple people in his previous relationship. Even whilst he goes out with my cousin he speaks to his ex girlfriends and meets up with them. From this I learnt if a guy is fresh out or near the end of the relationship don't get involved. You also need to keep your eyes peeled for those red flags. I know she feels like she has to stay because they lost their virginity to each other and she doesn't want to be perceived as a slag. However when a relationship is dead it's dead let sleeping dogs lie.
What I learnt from a young age is that children can be mean. Just because you lose a friend doesn't mean much. It's not the end of the world to be alone sometimes. This applies to platonic and romantic relationships. People today think "If you are not with someone you are broken if you are not with someone you are not complete" - Daniel Sloss. Yes it's a bit strange to have part of your philosophy to come from a comedian. Nevertheless you should watch his Jigsaw set. It has broken up so many relationships because he asks the questions people are afraid to ask or know the answer to. I digress this isn't a promotion. What is so bad about being alone for a while? Even just doing a bit of shopping or walking home alone in silence sounded like hell to me. Over time I got used to it and I rather enjoy it. It's serene. I stopped thinking about what other people thought when they saw someone alone. Guess what? They couldn't give two shits if you're out with friends or not if you're seeing someone or not.
In conclusion. Just be happy with yourself. Relationships aren't the key to happiness they are just something that can make you happy. Thanks for reading this MyTake
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