My wife is an Indian lady, we had an arranged marriage, she never opens up to me during sex. What should I do?

Whenever we have sex, she lies there like a dead person, does nothing, doesn't say anything. Doesn't even make eye contact... I do everything...

Indian girls are mostly like this.

They are not comfortable with openly talking about sex.

She wouldn't even kiss me after we got engaged.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • How long have you been married? Part of it could be that she needs time to get to know you more and fall in love with you. I’ve said this before on here, but here’s my BEST advice to you:
    For a women to enjoy intimacy and sex, it helps a TON to feel loved, safe, and comfortable. The biggest sex organ for a woman, and I’m DEAD SERIOUS, is her MIND. So the more cared for and loved and understood I feel during the day, and over time in my relationship with my man, the WAY MORE I’m going to ENJOY SEX. I think it’s pretty common (maybe not for all) but that for most men, sex is not as emotional for them, that you can separate it from your emotions. But for us women it is ABSOLUTELY tied up with our emotions.
    Seriously to the point where, even if I was physically aroused when sex started, if I even just remember something that happened earlier that day that made me feel insecure or ugly or bad about myself, my arousal just DIES. And the opposite is true too. If I was relaxed and happy enough and felt safe etc, all by myself I could literally THINK my way to an orgasm. Any woman could.
    So my best advice is: love her during the day in non physical ways. Do kind things for her. Notice things she likes and show her that you care about her, and that with you, she is loved, understood, and safe. And I promise, that over time, she will feel closer and closer to you, and she will get more and more interested and into having sex with you. 💓
    Oh and also, make sure you are clean and smell really good 😉👍

  • I'm indian and it's not true at all🙄 talk to her make her feel comfortable she will open up to you on how she feels about sex

Most Helpful Guys

  • I am not anonymous and not trolling you.
    When you talk to her about it, what does she say?
    What is on your sexual menu? What do you do? What does she do for you?

  • I'd find a good couple's therapist and see if you can work to make things better.

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  • How much time has been past of your marriage
    Please spend time with her win her trust and make her comfortable her first.
    Than may be she open up more

  • you are in arrange marriage may be! if so, then it takes time.
    May be she is in love with someone else, ask her?
    just don't hover on her body, we need foreplay and affection then penetration.

  • Talk about it. she's your wife. You 2 are together for life. Comminication is key.

  • It’s because of the arranged marriage. The truth is she hates your fucking guts. If I was forced to marry someone I didn’t love or even like I’d just lay there too

    • We can't divorce each other either, as we will be publically shamed by the relatives. So, why doesn't she just try to adjust and love me like I do? I like her a lot...

    • You can’t make someone love you. You can’t make yourself love someone either. Shame on you and your culture for doing nothing to change it. So what if you’re shamed. You really want someone that forces you to marry someone you don’t love in your life?

    • You fucking her is rape to her. If she could kill you and get away with it she would

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  • Just Ego

  • Just wait for the right time then she will open uo to you

  • She's not into you.
    She didn't want to marry you to begin with so why would she be excited about having sex with you?