My Wife is using dildos behind my back?

Ok so my wife has always denied that she masturbates in any way. She has always acted as if its just so weird. Recently we have been having a lot of sexual conflict my drive is huge her is nothing. According to her sex doesn't do anything for her. So recently when she didn't know I was watching I saw her getting in to the toys and stuffing dildos in her pussy. Ladies please tell me what this means.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I think most of these answers have missed the issue in a normal situation husband and wife would just introduce toys into there lovemaking to solve any underlying inadequacy. The real issue here is why the wife felt the need to hide these things. I have to guess at simple embarrassement. I would expect for whatever reason she feels mastrabation is wrong which has lead to her playing in secret and the lies.
    I think the solution here is to say you saw accidently but you found it wildly exciting and would love to watch. Over time you will be able to introduce your own sex life with the toys and satisfy both your needs.

  • You need to try something other than missionary she's a woman she needs excitement passion or play lots of it can you treat her the way you did when you first got with her when she was please you need to show her you love her you need to show her how sexy you think she is and if need be when you guys start falling around get the dildos out yourself use them on her as your playing with her give her a little more spice

Most Helpful Girls

  • I'd hate to say this but you're not giving her enough pleasure. Set your ego aside to avoid a heated argument and confront her about her lack of enthusiasm for sex with you and her "bonding" with dildos. No need to point out her denials about masturbation as you already know she lies to you. Ask her what needs to be improved.

  • It means you really need to have an open discussion with her, yes its going to be uncomfortable but you need to ask things like what does that dildo do that i can't.. or here pretend im the dildo.. communication is 100% key here because if she has told you she doesn't get nothing from sex then you are not pleasing her..

  • Talk to her about how you can spice things up in bed. Give her head or something.. I don't know just you need to satisfy her. OR she could not be attracted to you sexually. BE HAPPY ITS DILDOS HIDING AND NOT OTHER MEN Get her dildo one day and use it on her and see if that works

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  • You need to be talking to her with an open mind. You're obviously not Satisfying her and for some reason probably your ego she can't communicate it with you or you haven't been listening.

  • Probably means you 2 have a lot to talk about bro

  • It means she's lying to you about something that is important to your relationship. The most important thing is that your needs are not being met. Maybe she has different needs that she feels you are not meeting. Have you considered marriage counseling? It sounds like there's a whole lot of communication that is not happening.

  • Means you need to buy a huge dildo.

  • Ur one need enlargement...

  • Means you're not satisfying her in the bedroom.

    When was the last time she came during sex with you?

  • Means u have bigger relationship issues than sex.
    Communication for starters..

  • Well. Thank god she is not getting another person to get her off. So stop and think about it. She wanted you to catch her. She did it when you where clearly at home. You 2 need to stop arguing and start listerning and asking questions (communicating). It's clear to me that the issue is not feeling cherished, appreciated or valued. Fix it quickly bro. You are the man find a way to work it out or demand couples counseling if the damage is severe. You 2 have bigger issues than sex. Trust me.💯. Hope this help.👍🏽

    • I agree with this whole statement. Good advice!

    • Thank you!

  • Means she is having other problems with you and irs manifesting itself as a lack of sexual desire for you. Talk to her you have to figure out what it is she is having an issue with could be anything really... women aren't really known for their honest open communicating skills.

  • It means she's uncomfortable with her sexuality, and not getting satisfied by what y'all are doing. Start trying to spice things up. Maybe give her bottom a smack to see how she responds, pull her hair a little while kissing, etc. Maybe she wants taboo things, but her raising, religion, or something makes her feel guilty about it, and you're part of that guilt.

  • At least it not other dicks bro

  • First of she lied to you
    Second idnt think you are filling
    Her pipes the way you should

  • She probably isn't satisfied by normal cock ask her if she needs help maybe you should do more mouth things to her suck her cunt look for that gspot brudduh

  • Try something crazy but safe yet daring at the same time

  • Well almost every woman masturbates, that's not the weird part. The part that confuses me is why your relationship isn't honest enough for her to admit that? You should have an actual conversation about this, but don't make her feel bad, it's natural!

  • Maybe that you’re not satisfying her?
    Who knows, ask her.