Name some things a virgin should or better to know before his first time?

[Anonymous]

what things are better to do?
what things are better to avoid?
what things he can do before to make the first experience better?

[btbc92]

Save yourself for marriage. That's what you should know him better know. Sex is a marriage in marriage still about having sex. The moment you have sex and lay up with a bra that you know you're not going to get married to me, you are one for life until both of you end up passing on from this life. You end up with more problems compared if you waited. Be with somebody who you going to marry and have a future with. It's not about the first time. It's about becoming one and connected to that one person. The moment you start treating steps like a toy, others will treat you like a toy. You only got one shot. You don't want to screw this up.

[Asker]

but what if we were not compatible and had to break up or divorce? I can't divorce 5 different people throughout my life!

[btbc92]

Compatibility is not about sex. Compatibility has everything to do with being like-mindedness and being equally yoked. Compatibility is when you are technically one and the same and you are of one Accord. You don't have to break up with a person if you are with the right person unless you are in a relationship where those boundaries and those standards have been compromised or there are problems. If you don't want to divorce five different people throughout your life that's why you keep yourself. Do the actual research. Look at divorce cases, look at the causes of divorce. You come to find out that premarital sex and shacking up before marriage being one of them and it's one of the top main reasons why there are so many problems. If you save yourself for marriage, you are less likely to break up with more problems than you need to bear. A lot of people end up in abusive marriages and toxic relationships because they had sex. Because they were horny, because they love the person, instead of taking time to really understand the person. The moment you have sex, you can't turn back. Even if you end up going again, you still got to deal with the flesh. Your flesh is going to want it more than you think when you was a virgin. I have friends who didn't wait and they tell me they struggle everyday it's hard. A lot of them wish they had waited. And yes one or two that I know did get divorce. With pornography usage, abuse being one of them. If you have no choice but to break up at least you have your virginity in hand. If you don't get sexual or too emotionally involved with a person you are free to find somebody who can share those things with. If you have to divorce, at least you know the legal ins and outs of what to expect if you have to go that route.

[btbc92]

Nobody should ever have to cheat on you if you having sex regularly and you care about each other. If you don't masturbate and watch pornography you're fine. You're not going to be okay when you participate in it. And you're definitely not going to be okay if you are with somebody who does. Remember you want less baggage as possible because it gets harder as you get older and this is coming from a virgin herself. Life is a struggle enough and you will come to find out adulthood is a lot more harder than being a teenager. You don't have problems. So why cause problems and drama for yourself? The only sexual compatibility you have to concern about all of these things and I suggest you ask these questions before you think about getting involved or date a person: 1. Is that person a virgin yes or no? 2. If no, how many sexual partners have they been involved with? 3. If yes, were they masturbating or watching pornography or both? If yes to both or pornography, what would they dabbling with and how did it get themselves involved with it? Is this something that is running rapid in their household if still living with siblings or parents? 4. If this has nothing to do with their household, does this have anything to do with the kind of Associates, pears, or friends that they have? This is very important because our peers can offer influence our sexual decisions. 5. Then you should already know about asking questions about STD testing, and yes even version should get tested. As well as condoms, birth control Etc. If you're going to be dabbling into sexual activity you better be prepared to answer all questions let alone to be judged by the same.

[btbc92]

Because if you are not prepared, you are better off staying out of it. Nobody's going to give a damn about you if God forbid you and upset with an STD, if you get someone pregnant, if somebody wants to golf bit of what your kid, or get at you for child support. Nobody is going to care if somebody breaks up with you, or hurt you, remember that. Nobody's going to care if you regret your sexual decision. There's going to be plenty people they're going to make fun of you for being a virgin like I was, and then there's going to be people who going to make fun of you because you chose to have sex. There's going to be people who's going to make fun of you even worse because you got the short end of the stick. Remember it's not competition out there. If you don't have certain things, they will not respect you. In this world people Respect power. And that's not something you want to pursue just to gain in this world. If you truly have a desire for that you get married that's what it's for. But remember that once you get involving it you have responsibilities. Sex is not meant for children for reason. Even for adults who can't handle it. Just because I'm a virgin you don't see me messing around or get myself involved with a man do you? No. Because just because I'm an adult and over 18 that doesn't give me a license to do whatever I just want and not expect consequences. How do you think I was born here? Because my parents made the decision to have sex before marriage. That doesn't mean my life was easy because of those decisions. Understand that you have more freedom than those who did not keep themselves.

[btbc92]

It may be hard because you're younger and you will go through it. Matters is that you overcome it and you can overcome it. Even in young adulthood, as a man you have it way harder than me as a woman. But it's not impossible. But if you cannot contain, get married first and then if you wish to explore that, that is something between you and your wife and nobody else. Because I remember as a teenager you are still underneath your parents rules and other adults have to be responsible for you. If you don't want to cause problems and issues for other people, please wait. It's a sin for a big reason. Because it's been taken out of context, people abuse sex, and use it for the wrong reasons. People get hurt, children are born when others don't want them, and somebody can get deathly ill or sick. That's what happened to my late Mom. Because at one choice, she didn't clear of the virus and it turn to cancer. People say you don't hurt or affect anyone with your choices. My mom is not here because of that one choice. I'm still mourning her death to this very day. Again you have more freedom.

[btbc92]

Marriage should also allow you to be free. Don't put yourself in bondage. Marriage only fails when you go in it in false pretenses and you don't understand what is required of you. Not just who you're with. You don't want to have sex, especially outside of marriage, and you're not prepared to do anything to keep it how to keep a person happy sexually and meeting those expectations. People get scared, stressed, and feel unloved because they don't know what else to do and many people don't talk about it but they definitely feel it and they definitely try to express it. I understand the moment you have sex you lose Part of Yourself. If you're not prepared for that, don't do it. Because you got to remember this and live with that decision. That's what makes it beautiful and scary. It's beautiful when you understand what it is. It's scary when you don't know what you're doing and you can't turn back from it. You have to weigh to balance and decide if it's a risk you're willing to take. As a teenager especially, you are at a greater disadvantage compared to if you would wait and be on your own. Not in your parents house, not when you don't have a stable job, a good education, a place of your own, and where you are prepared if it comes to it to be able to take care of not only yourself, but who you create a family with. You don't want to do that and you are not stable. Remember that others are not you and you are not other people. They can tell you that you're the one that's missing out, but if you get in trouble they're not going to have your back. And very few ever will. But you still are the one and only person who has to deal with it because it's your life. And nobody can live your life for you except for you.

[btbc92]

Lusting after the person* Being born again*

[Asker]

now I understand your point also, I'm sorry for what happened to your mother and thank you for all your guides I will read these when I feel exhausted and empty it will give me some confidence to go on, on my journey with more power. again thanks a lot

[btbc92]

It's not about power. It's about being informed. When you are truly informed, then that's when you have the ability to do what you have to do. And you already have the confidence, you just need reassurance. Keep walking straight and you will find your wife. You're very welcome, be safe and stay in prayer.

[Anonymous]

You're going to be nervous, that's a given, but the more relaxed you are and the more comfortable you are with her, the better it will go for you. And with that nervousness/anxiety, and excitement, you might orgasm quickly, but if that happens, don't beat yourself up over it (and hopefully her reaction won't make you feel badly for it). The sex doesn't have to stop there! Keep going and go for round 2. While you recoup, there's lots you can do, make out, oral, etc until you're hard and ready again. And you'll likely last much longer. And by then, she'll probably be good and excited, so it'll be a win win.

[Birdlegs]

Honestly bro most people’s first time sucked it’s usually awkward and funny. Just wrap it up and pull out and figure the rest out through experience.

[Asker]

true but there are definitely some things that can make it better or things that I shouldn't do those are what I'm looking for

[Anonymous]

Go slow at first