New boyfriend cum inside me without checking?

Question

I have new boyfriend and Im 18 and he's 20. We both wanted sex and I told him I was on pill. I stayed over his place for night. He went raw and cum all inside me that night then woke me up and again in early morning. He didn't ask or anything and did it like it is expected. The sex was great and asked him later how come he didn't ask if ok and he said girls on pill are ok to have guys finish inside. Im still new to this and is this true?

michelle91 · Accepted Answer

It's just lack of communication. You need to know what's ok with you and what isn't. He assumed it was ok and safe since you said you're on the pill but that doesn't mean it's 100%. I suggest downloading a menstruation tracker app (clue is a good one) and the days you're ovulating make him pull out just to be extra safe. Learn your body and educate him so he knows in the future how all of that works. But just my suggestion you have every right to do what you want it's your body but educate yourself by doing your own research and understanding fully how your body works, it's such a game changer.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

First he needs to ask you before doing it randomly. that's a must. Unless it's something you're okay with. Guys can finish inside when on the pill but I know girls who still got pregnant that way. It's rare but it can happen

hsshannah96 · Accepted Answer

it's fine and you more than likely won't become pregnant but next time have him wear a condom maybe?

InfoBot · Accepted Answer

It might have been better if you had discussed any boundaries before you actually had sex. If you are prepared to have a guy inside you without protection then it could naturally be assumed that you don't mind him ejaculating inside you. I mean, the ejaculation is unlikely to cause pregnancy when you're on contraception and your risk of catching any STDs would be the same anyway because he was inside you without protection.

It sounds like you both made assumptions rather than agreeing rules before you started. You assumed he wouldn't cum inside you, he assumed he could.

jacquesvol · Accepted Answer

Good luck with that.

Missterio · Answer

wel girls may be... but he should have asked you and not just assumed...

Analinda1999 · Answer

it does not protect you from stds , and birth control is not 1005 effective. he does not have to ask if its ok for you to tell him it snot.

going forward, this is really the kind of stuff you should discuss before sex. to be safe. :)

Logorithim · Answer

That's something you should have talked about before having sex (actually communication in all matters sexual between partners is very important). I always advise women to ensure that their partner wears a condom unless they're in a committed relationship and trying to get pregnant (I learned this the hard way). Even if your risk of pregnancy is low you still have to worry about STDs.

markscott · Answer

He should have asked you about a condom. It's not just about pregnancy, but about sexually transmitted diseases. That should have been your choice, whether or not you wanted the extra possibility of getting an STD. Him saying he doesn't have a STD isn't enough. Condom or no, is your choice.

splext · Answer

He probably took the fact you were on the pill as it being fine. If it's not then say. It's personal preference. But he doesn't know if you don't talk to him

Metaanio · Answer

You were okay to have sex without condom, so that is expected.

E_Z_Z · Answer

you should better try and wear a condom you can do what ever you want then

Mrstory11 · Answer

Well. It takes 2 to tango. Both made that choice do it. Whether he cums with or without permiss i on. Just be ready

MiamiMadness · Answer

Why did you tell him you were on the pill?

Rachel6677 · Answer

make sure guys know your boundaries on that sort of thing before you start and no condom means no barrier so you can still get std's

sagark123 · Answer

I think that's true. Just get some advice from someone who already has been through it. But from what i have heard taking pill should be okay

taleswapper · Answer

Yes. If you had specific expectations on where you wanted him to cum, you need to say so. There are two main reasons to NOT come inside. One is fear of pregnancy; you told him you were on the pill. The other is a fetish for spunk. That, you didn't mention.