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New boyfriend can't cum without jerking off or get aroused without flogging his member to an erect state. WTF is wrong too much porn or circumcision?

He can't cum inside me no matter how much or hard he pumps, he can't cum through anal, he can't cum no matter how long I blow him or beat him off. He can't get hard for a long while and only by playing with himself and often loses his erection. He seems to be able to cum within 2 minutes of jerking no matter what. H seems to watch a lot of porn from his browser history so maybe its something to do with that or maybe its because he's circumcised. Has anyone experienced a guy with these problems as its really killing my sex life.
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  • Here's the thing -- is it that big of a deal that he cums? I've known women who make such a big deal out of this, i. e. sex seems ruined for them if the guy doesn't cum. And to me, that's sort of weird because the prevailing stereotype is that women get most upset about guys who cum too soon. However, if I think just about the anecdotes of women I've known, it sure sounds like they tolerate a one-minute guy much more than a one-hour guy.

    Anyway, I've heard the complaint about porn (i. e. masturbation) with the claim that people who masturbate too often can't cum with an actual woman because your own hand is always going to be more responsive than any vagina could ever be. I don't know if it's true or not that masturbation really causes that but if I were to be completely honest, the only times I've had trouble finishing inside a woman is when I wasn't all that attracted to her physically.

    In the end, if you guys have fun together and a good relationship, I would say that maybe you should try to let it go because it doesn't seem that bad to me. But everyone is different so if this is a deal breaker for you, I think you might want to start considering a new boyfriend.

    • not gonna lie, girls get made when guy's can't cum because it makes them feel like they are not good enough to get them to that point. especially girls who know that their boyfriend watches porn, it makes them feel like shit that they can get off to the porn and not to them

    • @jayjay16 Well, tell me this -- in your opinion, what would annoy you more? A guy who only lasts 30 seconds because you're just too hot or a guy who can't ever cum with you? Because the social stereotype is that it's the former that's least desirable.

    • if I can get him of I'm happy, and if he gets me off in some way after, I'm good 😂

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  • he's either got mastutbators death grip which is common among young men and women these days due to porn and masturbation damaging their natural physical, phycological and emotional responses so that unless they DIY their genitals they can't perform as normal or his penis was damaged when the doctor amputated his foreskin both forms of sexual dysfunction are common today.

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  • I think he might have a porn/masturbation problem. maybe if you sit down and talk to him, get him to agree to stop watching porn, and not have sexual contact with him for a couple of days and then maybe try?

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  • So you're saying that he can get himself off within 2 minutes but you can't seem to get him off at all? That would definitely seem to suggest that he's spent too much time masturbating to porn and has been accustomed to his own method and intensity, which he is struggling to recreate during sex. it may also have become a psychological issue for him, i. e. the more he thinks about it the greater the problem becomes.

    It could also be an issue if he is masturbating on the same days as you're trying to have sex, meaning that he's already spent his sexual energy beforehand.

    The last and least pleasant issue to consider is that he might just not be attracted to you, sexually. I would place that as the last issue because there are many things to consider before you jump to that conclusion. It can't be completely ignored, however.

  • Too much porn or maybe he's just not that into you. Sorry but it could be.

  • It's probably because of the porn and masturbation. His body has learned to have sex with an image on the screen or in his mind and is now unable to get pleasure from real sex. It's not something that cannot be fixed, but the question is do you have the patience and will to work it out with him, and does he have the will to stop the habit of masturbating to porn. If that's the issue.

    It also might be just mental issue, pressure for example, if you can talk about this problem openly, it maybe even fix it, not sure. But you have to talk with him about this.

  • Seriously, if I were you I'd find a new boyfriend because what fun is it if you suck his dick and he can't or won't ejaculate in your mouth. I mean that is the whole point of sucking a guy's dick, right? I feel bad for you. I would cum in your mouth every time you wanted me too.

  • Hmm, try talking with him and asking him what he thinks? I hate to say it because this is generally not the case at all but maybe it's you or something you're doing or not doing that's just not working for him? Only he can answer this if this is the case. It very well could be because of the porn, maybe he watches so much that this is what it takes now for him to get off? I can say for myself even, masturbation feels the best as far as intensity etc. I'm not going to say no to sex, don't get me wrong but masturbation generally feels the best/most intense. If you're jerking him off, ask him if you're doing it to his liking. We don't all like it the same way, some like it soft and slow, others hard and fast, ask him to tell you. It's all about communication that is lacking a lot of the time because people are too shy or afraid or whatever to talk about it. Circumcision has likely NOTHING at all to do with it. I'm circumcised and have no issue this way whats so ever.

  • Yes, porn. Circumcision has nothing to do with it.
    Why are you wasting your time with this? NEXT!!

  • Circumcision isn't your guys problem my guy

  • Circumsicion has NOTHING to do with it.

  • Hehehe. Seems like it yes.

  • so he can last in bad
    than what is your issue :p
    srsl this might be cause by masturabtion

  • Seems chronic masturbator.. Dump him. Appoint me as your new boyfriend. 😏

  • its not problems... wow... you should enjoy sex when your guy can fuck your all the time.

  • he must be porn addicted who's addiction level is in critical condition that had make him useless in reality. I guess you really need to show the instructor because it'll be problem in relationship.

  • Has NOTHING to do with being circumcised!

  • Definitely NOT porn. Let's stop that blaming fantasy for erectile dysfunction right off the hop.
    Circumcision can "numb" the penis but it is definitely not a reason not to orgasm.
    The reason is more than likely psychological.
    He may have hang ups with you, he might even have personal issues he doesn't want to admit. But whatever it is, it isn't either of the things you mentioned.

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