New boyfriend is huge and it's a bit painful during sexual intercourse. What could I do to improve my experience?

Question

So I've been going out with this guy for awhile now and recently we slept together for the first time. We were just having our sexy time when I slipped my hand into his pants and first thing I noticed was that I had no chance to properly grab his thing, like my fingers could not reach around it. I just thought 'wow... well it cannot be that big', then he took his pants off and holy fuck. I'm not a virgin so I've seen a few, but my god. I actually thought telling him that I'd rather not do it, but at the same time I was curious & in the mood. So I went for it of course.

He was very attentive to me and prepared me thoroughly (I mean, I bet he knows that he is big and so he knows to prepare his partner). And yet, when the time came, I thought he'll rip me apart. I'm telling you I was super turned on, but it kinda hurt, like he was patient and took it slowly but still.

Overall I did feel well, but I haven't really experienced pain during sex before and I'd rather not like to experience it in the future if possible. Do you have any tips on how to deal with this?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

First of all you talk to him because he needs to know how to use it he needs to be able to look into your eyes read the color of your cheeks listen to the way you breathe the way you move the way you moan and he needs to make it all about you not him he should be able to tell it within seconds if you're uncomfortable I mean that's the first thing I'm looking into her eyes as I'm slowly starting to stuff it in it has to be in slow motion he has to feel what you feel in order to make it good for you and he should be making it all about you not himself

Paul_in_Indy · Accepted Answer

Why didn’t you tell me I needed to take it slower? I would have eased off.

Seriously, though, I am not as big as this guy, but a girl once looked at me and said, “OMG, that is gonna hurt.” I don’t think I’m especially large, but I have been careful ever since. I don’t want to hurt anyone.

Guy13 · Answer

I thought women were made to spread widely so that there would be no issue. I was told “I can feel you in my stomach.” I guess you had one of those kinds of nights. Hope you are all healed up.

Berethor · Answer

If you can't handle a huge dick then maybe you should not be going out with him.

20yearsolder · Answer

Lots of foreplay, have him finger you, starting with however many fingers you're comfortable with. The hornier you get, the more fingers he puts in until the fingers in your pussy are the same size as his dick. Then he should be able to slide right in you. Use lube

FunkyMonkee · Answer

The more you do it, the less it's gonna hurt.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

A lot of it is just you getting used to having sex with a large cock. Also, more lube never hurt anyone.

genericname85 · Answer

You'll get used to it over time.

JPresidente · Answer

Use lots of lube. You could also get on top and avoid having him enter you but instead run your lips over and along the shaft until you feel sufficiently wet, then put it in but you can control how much you take inside. Or try doggy and see if that is better for taking his length.