New Boyfriend only wants bare and to bust inside me--is this normal?

Im 19 and have a new boyfriend whos 22 and been going out for about a month. He is the sweetest guy. He is the first boyfriend that I had that told me he always hated condoms and never uses them. He said the other girls he been with were ok with it. He likes to cum inside me almost all the time. We have sex about 3-4 times week.

We hit it off and all is going good so far but my friends say this is not normal and he is taking advantage of me so I don't know. I am on pill so not worried but what do others think?
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  • Ofcourse most people prefer without the condom but he's a new boyfriend so I don't care how sweet you are until you can show me that you're clean and trustworthy you're not getting the specialty of no condom. I absolutely HATE when someone complains about condoms especially in a new relationship like okay should be appreciative that you're getting sex in the first place. I could care less if I was on the pill, its the fact that his attitude says a lot more than the actual situation.

  • If he hates condoms he's probably had unprotected sex with several women, which means he could be carrying any number of stds. You should have asked him to get tested before you agreed to have unprotected sex with him. I would definitely get tested if I were you.

  • Not really, I was in the same position. Condoms are just annoying especially for spontaneous situations, but in a monogamous relationship in which we’ve both been tested I would prefer to just be on birth control.

    • That is what I am thinking but my friends are like saying that he is just talking and using me

  • He isn’t taking advantage his just letting himself enjoy it more and he feels ok to since your on the pill , I wouldn’t be offended or anything it’s nice he wants to feel you properly

    • Thats how I took it but my friends are like he is just using me so that is why I was confused

    • No sounds like your friends are just jealous or they lack experience so they don’t understand your situation 💖

Most Helpful Guys

  • If you’re on the pill what’s the problem? Why even use the pill if you’re just gonna wear condoms. I don’t know. Sex with condoms to me is pointless. It’s part of why I haven’t bothered to date anyone for a while. I only had sex without condoms and now I’m back on the dating scene I don’t want to even bother with sex. Condoms are horrible lol.

    • Ya thats what my boyfriend thinks

  • Get his driver's license number, let him know abortion is out of the question and child protective services will ensure you get prenatal care and 18 years of child support... then you can decide together.

    • Not worried about that but thanks

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  • Like you just started going out, not using condoms seems kinda soon. Did he at least offer to do a std test?
    The pill occasional fails, usually due to human error, so I prefer a back up plan.

    • I know what you mean

  • Even if you're on birth control, you can get STDs if you don't use condoms. But assuming you're both clean/tested, I see no problem with not using condoms, especially if the relationship is exclusive, committed, and likely long term. This would only be a problem if you're opposed to it and he isn't respecting your opinions, but that doesn't seem to be the case!

  • The risk is the thrill

  • Most guys feel that way, so yeah, it's normal. But if you feel uncomfortable doing that, don't do it

    • That is what I was thinking

  • I hope that you at least made him get tested before you let him go in raw. Especially if he freely admits that he never bothers with protection.

    If you want condoms, you have every right to insist that he wears them. Everyone is on their best behaviour within the first month (if they have any brains). You only know this guy at his best so far and he's already giving off signs of recklessness and selfishness. Tread carefully.

  • The pill doesn't stop aids

  • Its not that's he's taking advantage of you he just likes what he likes

  • Is not normal, and he know it, he is taking adventage of you

  • Taking advantage...

  • Make him wrap it up.

  • You might want to have him get tested first.

  • Pills r not good...

  • As long as your on the pill. But I do agree he shouldn't be cumming in you all the time. The pill can fail or you might skip a day or two. It's just a little risky

    • yeah u should get a birth control or u might get knocked up

    • Ya he pulls out sometimes but most time I guess its inside

    • get a birth control and probably a HIV test first

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  • The boyfriend I liked most always pulled out. He said he thought it was respectful. I never had to ask him to do it, he just did. I really appreciated that. We went bare after we were exclusive and both got STD tests, but I was on birth control.

  • Uh, ya, no, You play with fire, you will get burned, eventually. Don't underestimate the power of fire