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No matter what we try or what we do, my man ALWAYS Orgasms between 30 seconds & 4 mins! I’m so tired of it. What can we do?

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  • You can try what I like to call “red light, green light”. Essentially, you can give him a handjob or blowjob, and when he feels like he might orgasm, he calls out to you and you stop all forms of stimulation. Essentially, this means stopping sexual stimulation before he reaches orgasm, waiting about 30 seconds, and then resuming stimulation again, until he feels the next wave of orgasm approaching. Right before an orgasm, you can also squeeze the head of his penis to stop an orgasm from occurring. This game is more commonly known as edging.


    Alternatively, you can pick up desensitising condoms that contain numbing agents such as Benzocaine or Lidocaine that reduce sensitivity and are designed to help a guy last longer in bed.


    Your boyfriend can try doing kegals (pelvic floor exercises) that can strengthen his PC muscles through exercise. Scientists believe that weak pelvic floor muscles may be harder for one to delay ejaculation.


    Personally for me, I’ve done all the above methods and have really helped with my stamina in bed. Let me know if you have further questions.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Sorry but you must have some dynamite down below.

    You sort of have to keep in mind that nature, life, biology, whatever wasn’t really concerned about a man “lasting.” Sex was for reproduction which required insemination. A goddamn lion could maul you to death. A snake could bite you. Maybe some other guys raid your village and kill you while you’re in the middle of some marathon sex session. Your mate escapes, but did you actually orgasm? If not, well, who knows if you get to pass on your DNA and make a baby.

    My point is biology basically compels men to orgasm. Fast. If you’ve ever seen primates have sex, or even a lot of animals, it’s over very quickly. You’re vulnerable during sex. So nature makes you cum fast.

    Overcoming it? A lot of that comes with experience honestly. Ask him if he still masturbates, and if so does he just orgasm right away also? Obviously the goal of masturbation is an orgasm, but if his body is used to being rushed to blow a load there is no way he’s going to be able to handle that dynamite you got down below. And if he feels like he’s going to orgasm, sometimes stopping briefly can help or pulling out. Eventually he’ll last longer.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Takes a little planning but if you are going to make love that evening, if you give him a BJ or HJ in the morning usually that will make him not so quick to cum that evening.

  • Try early morning sex. Sometimes if a guys been thinking about it all day by the time night comes he's already close to cumming.

    • This is good advice - I always lasted longer in the morning because by the evening I was already pent up

    • I second what @purplepoppy said. It’s true that sexual arousal builds up and guys might already be at the peak by the time night falls… LOL

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  • Cock ring.


    It reduces the sensation for men slightly.

    • I think it depends! It may delay ejaculation in some men (because it compresses the area surrounding the base of the penis) but I don’t think it reduces the sensation. It just gives men a stronger and harder erection that lasts longer.

  • Like most women, do it yourself.

  • You could try useing thic walled condoms or condoms in general if you don't use them allready. The less sensation he feels the longer he can go. Also let him stop from time to time and let him finger or oraly stimulate you in these times

  • Ask him to masturbate before y'all sex

    • Good idea

  • Any good man will focus on your orgasm before his own and that usually means more time going down.

    • He goes down on me first. But I also like to have sex and want it to be mode than 1-4 mins

    • Maybe try letting him cum from oral sex first and have sex during the second round. He’ll last longer and willl be more difficult for him to reach orgasm as quickly.

    • Going down is one of the best solutions I/we found, and she is more satisfied with that method

  • We, a prior girlfriend and I, used a Benzocaine, based lubricant, which partially desensitizes the head of the penis, and reduces the urge to 'shoot' so quick. The first time we used it, at her place, we fucked for an hour straight, and then SHE was READY to stop.
    Ideally, the sex should probably last considerably less than that, AND that was the longest session we ever had.
    You can buy it online through Amazon I believe, and the only thing I found using it with another girlfriend prior to that, was that when she went down on me it made her lips and tongue slightly 'numb', but that wore off fairly soon.

  • You know, that's not too far from the average guy. If you want longer, go in stages. Have him pull out after a minute and finger you... you can play with yourself too. Then insert for another minute. Keep doing this until you are satisfied, then let him thrust until he cums.

    If he cums somewhere in the middle, have him play with you (you can play too) until he's ready for round two.

  • Take care of you first, and then reward him

  • Have him masturbate during the day before you get together. It may be that you have to time it.

  • I am not sure how your relationship with him is that can be a deciding factor or what his health condition is , does he drink alcohol? Does he smoke? Is he under a lot of stress? If so , it sounds like he might be suffering from erectile Disfunction and premature ejaculation , Have you tried Viagra or Generic Viagra like Hims? It’s sadly a common thing for men especially with all the shit they inject in our food supply , I know you are frustrated but the best thing you can do is support him and get him help to resolve this issue if that seems like the case , if not then maybe he isn’t the right guy for you , he could just be having sex with you only thinking of himself and not caring if he pleases you or not , again it depends on your relationship with him , when a guy really loves a girl he will do his best to make sure she has an orgasm before he does , he gets turned on knowing he rocked her world , if he seems like he doesn’t care after he finishes before you then you are best to dump his ass and find a guy that can rock your world , but again don’t just assume the worst , he might be suffering from ED and Premature ejaculation

  • Slow down. Extend the foreplay, and have moments where he's not moving inside you.

  • If one of you gets snipped, you can just keep going during and after he orgasms instead of stopping. Otherwise ask him to fingerbang you before sex, or switch to 69ing so it doesn't matter who cums first.

  • I’m genuinely sorry that the two of you are experiencing this. This has crushed my own confidence with women and I believe had contributed to many of my relationships ending where they may have had some longevity if I didn’t always have this problem. I wish I could offer some advice - I haven’t managed to solve this and I’ve had partners who varied in their understanding about this. My last girlfriend essentially ended up refusing sex full stop. It shattered her confidence and mine and ended up turning sex into something stressful not to mention the mutual frustration. I can’t offer any help - I’ve tried cock rings, numbing cream, counting backwards in 3s from 5,000 during sex, sex in the dark (I came quicker when I could see her body), wanking before sex… I’ve tried everything and with negligible effect. I feel like a downer here, but I just wanted to express my sympathy for both of you and ask that if you DO ever find a solution, please please share it as I don’t even try and have sex any more

    • I just want to add that he is lucky that you want to solve this-some women don’t-they just get angry and use it as an excuse/reason to refuse sex full stop. I sincerely hope that you find a solution and if you do, please share it because I think this is more common a problem than people ever admit

    • My man it sounds like you you need to get your ass on Cialis or viagra , it sounds like you are suffering from Erectile Disfunction and premature ejaculation , It’s sadly a common thing for men , I experienced it as well and let me tell you it’s curable , you won’t have to take cialis or viagra forever but trust me you won’t complain , Most people are scared to take it and most girls don’t want their men to take it because they think the pills just make his dick hard for the hell of it and that isn’t true what so ever , the only way they work is by him being turned on , all it does his help the blood flow rush to the penis more once he is turned on , ED can occur in every male at any age , all it is is a blockage inside him that is slowing down the blood flow , this occurs mainly from the foods we eat with all the shit these companies our injecting in our food supply is fucking us up , Viagra is by far the best pill for men and for his girl , once you get that blood flowing from Cialis or Viagra you won’t have to take it anymore , Her job is to not be lacking on sex , the more sex she gives the better your penis will be , find a girl that loves to fuck and your penis will be cured

    • @Finchie40 Thanks mate. I’ve always been scared to try viagra or cialis because frankly I didn’t want more erections than I already get but I’ve never heard of it as a cure for PE before and now I’m interested. Gonna look into this definitely - thanks for recommending

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  • get him to train edging on his own time xD... also maybe get some toys involved and have him play with you before he gets any.

  • Foreplay on you first then you. Let him try brief entry then switch to oral. If you have to, get on top, allow brief entry then take his D and bend it slightly forward to push the cum back down. Rinse repeat.

  • Try lube that desensitizes

  • Quit dating 16 year olds.

    Seriously though, he should work on you before penetration so you can enjoy it also. And perhaps try some mental ways of deferring orgasm, though that can be difficult in the heat of the moment. I used to try picturing garbage piles or other unappealing images in order to last longer.

    • Lol I’m 32 he is almost 32. We been together for 5 years

  • Tell him to slow down. Also, the second time should last longer.

  • Line up a few other men on your roster and find a few with staying power.

  • Well foreplay has never let me down. Also I've heard quite a lot that rubbing one out before trying anything makes the next orgasm harder to achieve.

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