We met early and married early and then I found him psychically not attractive to me after years. I am interested in havin sex with him and I don't want to see any consultant. Is this what marriage eventually ended up with or maybe he's not my true love
Look after 25 years of marriage and 3 kids, I am sure I am not as physically beautiful as I was when we first met, honestly he doesn't have to body he once did, that''s life.
However, still make love regularly. And it is still fab! I can't imagine not making love to him, not watching him get out of the shower in the morning and thinking yeah he's still got it or not having him sneak up behind me and hold me tight.
I think there is an emotional problem you are dealing with and you should seek counselling.
Alternatively, you may be not in the right marriage and should let him go to find someone who does love him and wants to make love to him.
One thing I do know, is that unless both of you are committed to a sexless marriage only one of you will be in a sexless marriage if your marriage survives at all.
People can fall out of love. They can lose attraction for each other. Marriages can fail. It happens. You can either try to rekindle things and find that spark again or you can accept things for what they are. This is definitely not healthy. A marriage without attraction or sex is doomed to fail. It won’t be fair to either of you to stick around if that happens. Only you know if there’s a foundation to this marriage worth saving and fighting for. Do some soul searching.
The spark may have gone out, but you can still rekindle things, just have to make an effort. It's not like striking a match and hoping for the best.
Probably need to find his porn library and see what he's into and try and replicate some of it to get the rough and tumble back again.
Psychically? Wdym? There are sexless marriages, and some work well. If you want sex, then you should talk to him and figure out if you should divorce. Do you have children together? Do you want children? Can you come to a mutually acceptable arrangement?
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!And why don't you find him attractive anymore? Honestly if you think the problem is just that "maybe he isn't my true love" then the only real problem is you.
You made your bed so sleep in it.
You can still get orgasms even if he’s unattractive. Is his personality trash?
It means unhappy marriage. My wife isn’t sexually attracted to me so we don’t have sex that much and it’s sucks.
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This happens a lot... this usually when cheating starts
That sounds awful
Rent a dildo?
Happens a lot these days. Sometimes women get married just because they're in love with the idea of getting married. But then reality sets in, and they realize that "happily ever after" isn't the end of the story.
Just get a divorce. You don't love him.
Yeah, I've heard that happens a lot, and it also leads to cheating.
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