Not attracted to husband sexually anymore?

Question

He used to be always in good shape, but it's been two years that he doesn't care about it and started gaining weight and his fat body and big belly looks really disgusting to me. I like having sex with him, but I only have sex if I'm really turned on and didn't have for a while, but if he initiates, I feel like "ewww no".
I mean, I love him and everything, but he's not attractive sexually to me anymore, I talked to him several times about it, but didn't mention attraction thing, just that it's unhealthy and he doesn't look good, bla bla.
Should I tell him straight about this, too? I feel stucked

jaybee281 · Accepted Answer

Ohhhh God it is indeed disgusting.. Now look i think you should tell him that he's getting complacent he ain't putting no effort he's taking your relationship for granted thinking that you'll be there regardless if he cares about his own personal growth or not remind him he ain't the same man you once knew he's just a middle aged crisis version of himself and that he's so repulsive at this point that he can't turn you on anymore you only have sex because you're feeling like it and if he ain't willing to put in the work he knows what will logically happen next (don't say that as a threat just tell him that how he is is logically taking the relationship towards you guys breaking up even though he can change it)..

JamesRandiDebates · Accepted Answer

Hypergamy 101. You'll be cheating soon, if not already. Then divorce rape.

Can_I_Get_a_Do-Over · Accepted Answer

—> Treat him as if he were already the person you want him to be. Don’t tell him anything negative. You can’t unsay something you’ve said. Even if he got fit, he’ll remember your words. He’ll find someone new who’s never trampled on his self-esteem. He’ll imagine her in romanticized ways, like oh she’d never do to him what you did.

You know, there might come a time in your life where you’re not the picture of health. Wouldn’t you want someone to stand by you till you got through it? Nagging a person to do this or that is NEVER a good idea.