Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
There are a lot of posts on here asking things such as:
- How many sexual partners makes you a slut?
- How do you feel about your partner’s number of sexual partners?
- What number is normal for a girl?
- Would you sleep with a whore and marry a virgin?
I just wanted to make a short myTake to talk you all through some basic maths. When you take into account all monogamous heterosexual sexual encounters then by logical deduction girls have exactly the same amount of sex as boys. This is pretty obvious but I’ll repeat it again very slowly and very clearly: when you look at every single time ever that exactly one girl and one boy have had sex with each other, all girls and all boys must have had sex exactly the same amount of times.
What this means is that thinking that boys must have had more sex than girls literally mathematically doesn’t work. If boys want more sex they are going to have to accept that girls will be having more sex too. And girls who think that they shouldn’t have much sex because boys should have more sex than girls would mean that therefore boys would be getting less sex.
How does this answer the above questions? Well it just puts things into perspective, every time a boy or girl calls the other gender a pejorative word for promiscuous (eg slut, player etc.) they are discouraging the other gender from having sex. And every time you try to stop the other gender from having sex you are making sure that your gender will also have less sex by logical deduction.
I think that most people can agree that sex in general is a wonderful thing (safe and consensual sex of course). It makes you happy, has innumerable health benefits, and well who doesn’t love sex? We should all be enjoying sex as much as we want to! So if you want more happy, fit, healthy people in the world who are having more happy, healthy sex let’s all stop shaming each other on our ‘number’ and propagating mathematically incorrect stereotypes that some numbers are better for some genders than other numbers. On average boy’s number = girl’s number so let’s just stop counting and move on.
Have a lovely day everyone :)
What Girls & Guys Said
7 24The problem these guys have with 'sluts' is not that the girls are having sex, but that they're having it with other guys. It's just bitterness and jealousy, and unsuccessful guys blaming women for enjoying themselves with other men.
what to do if nobody wants to have sex with u? i want those helth benefits and have sex but im ugly
I dont think a number matters.. you may single and sleep with 10 people and only have sex 1/4 the amount of times as a person in a relationship for that same length of time
I get laid far more often than my single friends do
So i guess it fair to sayi my vagina has far more usage than their's. But it hasn't been shared around as much
Wow. I never looked at it from this angle before hahaha I feel dumb now.
All these guys are pretty much just butthurt they aren't having enough sex then get angry at the girls who have sex? Lol... What a joke
Guys, be more like me... Love the sluts, and be one of the sluts :)
Sex in a relationship is a million times better than casual sex though.
Yeah I agree
way to rationalise your sins people. that list you posted seems about what every sexual degenerate would say to justify themselves. sex is not a wonderful thing. not generically like that. its good when its done well. under the right setting and conditions. elsewise its fornication its porneia.
I did say that sex is wonderful when it is safe and consensual. I did try and specify circumstances :)
I LOVE sinning :D
@Metlahaed yeah some people love satan and hell too. whatever floats your boat. and i dont even imply that if you knew better you'd choose something else. i've come to the conclusion thatsome people genuinely like hell more. well... good for you?
I found someone perfect for you https://youtu.be/bOpva_iit-8
The right settings and conditions are: two consensual adults, doing the necessary to prevent STD transmission and unwanted pregnancy.
Satan and hell are fairy tales, as real as Voldemort and Azkaban.
@slatyb when you meet him in the otherworld tell him that. satan's greatest success is to convince people he doesn't exist. if you dont live the true life you'll never know satan because currently you live as his friend not his enemy.
And you are sure Satan exists because you read about him in some old book, and because people have been telling you the book is true since you were 3. I need more evidence than a bunch of people repeating old stories.
@slatyb no my friend. i'm sure he exists cause i fight him daily. christianity is about real experience and taking action not theories and old stories. only when you become a friend of God you become an enemy of the devil and you see his schemes in action. i'd dare to say theology is as a hard science as mechanics or physics. there is cause and result. once you begin the christian struggle all the theological truth unfolds in your daily life.
Ignoring homosexual sex then yes the averages should be equal between all people. But considering only sexually active people then the quantity of each gender reaping the benefits of sex becomes lopsided. In men the variance for sexual activity is higher and I believe this is what people refer to when they say one gender is having more sex:
-Sexually active men have more sex on average.
In a sense they are having more sex.
(and if I recall the average number of partners among non-virgin men in their lifetimes is 8)
-There are more sexually active females.
So in another sense women are having more sex.
(average number of partners among non-virgins is 3)
If the desired outcome is to have the highest number of people reaching the minimum level of sexual activity to feel satisfied and reap the health benefits then you're going to have to convince women to somehow diversify their choice in partner. We might be naturally inclined to accuse men of not being good enough as well, but it's always been that way, you won't be able to convince women to diversify and the *majority* of men can never meet such a high standard, not to mention is a lot to ask just to reach a minimum level of sexual satisfaction. Hence the whole "opting out" thing.
You are correct, if you only take into account populations of sexually active men and women then the averages can be skewed. I was not doing that in my myTake. I was simply showing the relationship between number of sexual partners for both genders averaging out equally over the entire population :)
Well, no offense *but* I don't think the numerical relationship you pointed out has any bearing; it's not very useful. If at the end of the day we care about people's well-being then talking into account who is and isn't sexually active is relevant data. Also, as a consequence of this discussion you're pointing out to most guys that the average girl has more sex than they do and (arguably) reminding them that they aren't getting as much sex as they'd like... and that if they aren't they're also missing out on all these health benefits, not to mention having emotional/sexual satisfaction in their lives. Depressing.
I'm sorry you didn't like my article. I didn't mean to upset men who don't have sex. I meant to point out the flaw in thinking that one gender should have a higher average number of sexual partners than the other gender. Sorry if it got misinterpreted as bullying men who are virgins or as a statement that everone has equal amounts of sex. I know they don't and I'm sorry that men are virgins. That's not really a problem anyone can solve though.
ha ha... prostitutes are a solution for nice/shy/ugly guys.
Yeah I never understood why other people thought that women have less or more partners than men. It makes literally no sense. It takes two people to tango. I mean not taking into account homosexuality it takes a guy to fuck a girl. So that guy has also been with one partner just like she has. It makes no sense as to why it wouldn't be equal lol. I hate to throw around the word stupidity but really though lol.
Sorry bro, please see my comment, I think you the one that needs a lesson in how the world works.
actually that isn't true, if one man has sex with two women that means two women have had sex to one man so the ratio is off. It presupposes that there is no overlap. In fact we have antrhopological/genetic evidence that the majority of our ancestors where in fact female for this very reason (one man impregnating multiple women) 80% of women reproduced as opposed to 40% of men.
@hellionthesage Your maths is correct if and only if you are looking at a population of 1 man to 2 women. In reality the population is much more equal so it is not possible for the averages to be that different. Do you understand the maths?
No, if the populations are identicle that does not in any way determine the identicle behavior. As I linked to on my post shows. Many men having few partners does not affect the partners women have since one man having sex with many women will still cause all those women to have an additional partner that all the other men whould not have. This is a very basic concept. You are presupposing that each person has one partner and one partner only with no cross over. That is illogical and inaccurate as I pointed out the majority of our ancestors where female because 80% of them reproduced as opposed to only 40% of the male population reproduced which if you understand math even in an uneven system it leaves more then half the men not reproducing and more then double the women ergo your undrestanding of the math is flawed.
@hellionthesage I'm not saying it determines behaviour. Just that the average across the whole population would have to be equal.
But thats obvious, women are not going to have sex with a man who isn't part of the male population (an impossibility) so what would be the point of brining it up? We know the averages are going to be the same its impossible for them not to be so I really do not see the relevance. I presume you where saying it with some kind of intent in mind and not just to spout some random rather obvious fact. Thats why as I said before I have no argument against what you said but rather how you are applying it ie why your saying it. It very much seems like your suggesting that since the averages are the same every one will have the same number of sexual partners which again is most definitley not the case.
@hellionthesage Nah I was really having a rant because believe it or not some (scarily stupid) people believe that the average number for one gender to be different to the other gender. I mean you see it all the time "What's the average number of sexual partners for a girl at 19?" or "Is it normal for a guy to have only slept with 1 girl when my girlfriend has slept with 2?" and this was basically a YES you are normal. You can't not be normal. There is no difference between the average for guys and for girls. I was trying to chill people out. Sadly a load of men took that as meaning you "you guys need to stop wingeing because everyone has the same amount of sex" which is so far from what i was saying. I think some people on here felt targeted.
I think that is due to the misuse (or vague use) of the term average, they are reffering to the mode which is the number that occurs most frequently in a set not the mean which is what we generally attibute to average (all the numbers add together then divided). So it think that is where the issue arose in that. You where reffering to the mean they where refering to averages in the form of the mode so that is why you are having this issue, using to different definitions.