OK, friends with benefits?

what is your take on friends with benefits?

it would be good to hear what you understand it to mean,

as I think diferant age groups it has different meanings

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  • I've had friends with benefits that were friends and that weren't friends. With the one exception, we knew we were getting together because of a sexual attraction for each other and having great sex. When something changed, we'd just move on.

    The ones that weren't friends was when I was in my early twenties, they were in their late thirties and their forties. They were mostly previous hookups or friends of a friends with benefits. Most were divorced women that lived for their careers. They didn't have time for a relationship, they only wanted sex. There was very little chatting except talking dirty. None of us ever developed feeling for the other so there were no complications.

    I had only a few friends that became friends with benefits. One was bi. She had a female partner but occasionally wanted a real penis instead of a dildo. The others lived in the apartment complex or were friends in hobby clubs. They were part of a group that hung around together, partied, and went to various events. When we hooked up one was recently divorced and had a high sex drive. The others were between boyfriends and after mutual flirting we ended up in bed frequently. I guess I might have been a rebound boyfriend. Only one tried to develop a relationship by being her date for social functions. At one she met a guy she really liked and spent considerable time talk to him. Fortunately, they started dating.

Most Helpful Guy

  • It never works out in the long run , someone’s going to catch feelings the other is going to be left in a guilty situation. If your in a friends with benefits either you or your partner are playing games with others , and if this isn’t the case it’s immaturity and they don’t want to publicly announce their affection and feel embarrassed to be with you.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I have a few and I enjoy it. We were genuine friends before opening to friends with benefits, which started with sexting.

    I'm looking to try more of that, especially with other women as I lack experience there and sorely missed out on the slut days of youth because I grew up a repressed Catholic.

    • I do like how you put it "slut days of youth" good words.

  • I've had one before and it didn't work out. In my case, I was the one who caught feelings and he wasn't interested in anything serious. That one really hurt, so I ended things. But yeah, it's fine if you can keep feelings out of it but that's really hard to do.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I've had a few. They can work well if everyone is on the same page and emotionally mature.

    • Yes, good sex is hard to find on both sides.

  • I’ve had a couple, been able to do it with out feelings but I can see how it doesn’t always work out that way. I think the biggest part is boundaries and conversations that are intimate are likely to create feelings.

  • I've done it many times, it never really works, I feel like someone always gets hurt.

  • Think it's very wrong

  • Well it never used to exist before the movie so it's a fake thing everyone does now. Just having sex and no other obligations of boyfriend and girlfriend.

    • well I was doing it 50 years back now