Okay Ladies and Gentlemen, casual sex? Yes/no?

[cdaniels0330]

Casual sex isn't for everyone. Let's hear why or why not?

[Anonymous]

Sure, but casual sex does not mean that there are no rules.

Sex is perfectly natural and instinctive and healthy, though that expresses itself, for evolutionary reasons, differently in men than in women. For men, his instinct is to have sex with as many women as possible. To, in evolutionary terms, outcompete other males by spreading his sperm - and thus his DNA - as far as possible.

For women, by contrast, - and again, this is in general - because the female could only carry one child at a time and then, after giving birth, would have to feed and care for that baby, she was looking for a male with healthy sperm who could sire healthy babies. Men who would then, after she gave birth, could find food and shelter for mom and baby and ward off predators and other males.

So for men, casual sex tends to be that - more casual. Where for women, casual sex tends to involve, in general, a more emotional connection. However, where a man and a woman "match up" - that is where the attraction is mutual, that they should want to give in to their biological instincts is perfectly understandable and there is no reason why they should not.

For my part, I have had 6 pregnancies with four women. The first, when I was 19, ended in a miscarriage. The second - the ONLY one I regret - ended in an abortion that I was strongly opposed to and did not want my partner to get.

The third was 14 years ago. It was a one night stand and I got the woman pregnant. We did not know each other beyond the day/night we met, and she opted not to tell me that I got her pregnant until our son turned 12. Then she decided that as he was on the verge of becoming a teenager that he should know his dad.

Long story short, she tracked me down, told me I had a son, and after testing confirmed that her son was my son, we have developed a close relationship. My only regret being all the years I missed with him. However, he is a great kid, I love him with all my heart, and I spend as much time with him as I can.

Overlapping this is the woman I have lived with for over a decade. We have three children together - the first two, boys, were unplanned pregnancies. The third, more or less planned pregnancy is my little princess. Their mom and I have talked about marriage but there is just something about the idea of an expensive ring, a big ceremony and a permission slip from the state that turns us off. (By the way, my girlfriend has been amazing in accepting my oldest son and his half siblings adore him.)

Long story short to all of this, casual sex does not mean that it is sex with no responsibility. I tended not to use birth control unless the woman I was with was either using it or asked that I use "protection." My attitude being that if I made a baby I would be there for the baby and his/her mom.

However, I wanted sex to be that natural, instinctive and "animal" experience and birth control was not consistent with that. So in my mind, if I want sex then I had best be ready to take the consequences of sex.

To be sure, sex with a woman you have a relationship with and love has a different and in some sense more "bonding" connection. However, in general, the male need for sex - men who get regular sex tend to be healthier, happier and live longer - is real and if a woman has a mutual instinct she wants to satisfy, then there is no reason not to have sex. So in that sense, "casual" sex is good.

[RobT312]

Been there when I was young, but it’s a temporary thing…I wouldn’t want that forever.
im much happier with 1 person

[SueShe]

Do you mean if we want to get STD/STI with a 100% certainty or not?

This is a very difficult question to answer because the choice is not so obvious.

One one hand, you have this guy that hopes to inseminate a woman with his sperm and have a few pathetic spasms and muscular contractions after about 2-3 minutes of copulation while on the other hand, the same fornication will result in transmitting a herpes virus, a chlamydia or perhaps AIDS to the poor victim.

That is really a tough choice to make, considering that there are basically only disadvantages for the victim.

I have made up my decision and give you a loud NO.

Happy Easter.

[Irunya41]

If the chance was there I would be happy to take, it's too much conforming to society and not focused on fun when I used to be against

[DonkeyDan]

Absolutely yes.

[Nata2496]

No. I think sex should be in marriage only.

[Avicenna]

Not interested

[Dargil]

I do not prefer casual sex. I want to have feelings for anyone I cum into.

[TX651]

Yes i'd go for it.

[Anonymous]

I might try soon

[Anonymous]

Not me, I'm not into casual sex with whores.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. Never ever.