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The word "older" is perception based, and changes every several years according to the age I meet. In other words, what I considered older over a decade ago, I most certainly don't consider it older now.
For example, when I was 16 years old my definition of older was anyone over 21.
Now as someone who recently turned 30, my definition of older is anyone in their late 30s and up.
Please keep in mind, I am speaking about "older men" from the perspective of when I was a teenager and as a young adult.
As far back as I can remember, I've mostly always dated older men.
I didn't sit back and carefully select who I wanted to date, things just sort of just happened that way.
Sometimes the age gap would be wide enough to where it is possible the other man could be my Father.
As a younger woman on a guy's arm,
I've heard things like....
-She's with him for his money (Well thanks, you might as well just call me a prostitute in this case).
-She's with him because she's missing a Father figure (Lets get real, not every single woman that decides to date an older man, suffers rom a severed relationship with her actual Dad).
I will acknowledge the fact that stereotypes come from keen observation. There is a fair amount of young women who do seek older men for those reasons.
The offense that's taken here is that, those reasons are applied to each and every single younger woman--older man relationship. I am here to say, that is impossible and hardly the truth. Each and every relationship has its own uniqueness and cannot be compared.
If you don't know the people involved in the relationship on a personal level, all you will do is jump to a conclusion of what you think.
Is what you think always the truth?
As much as we'd like to always believe we are right, the answer to that question is no.
I love older men because of their confidence.
I love a man that is authentic, genuine, smart, funny, and confident. I place high emphasis on someone's personal characteristics because the reality of it is, we all will age. I want the person that I choose to be with for the rest of my life to have a great personality.
I need to have the ability to relate to someone on every aspect.
I need to be able to love the personal attributes they have to bring to the table, to me that weighs heavily over the physical appeal a younger man may have over one double his age.
A great personality has the power to make someone visually attractive in my eyes, even if they are not.
Older men usually approach me in public settings when I am out. They know the worse thing that can be done, is me saying "No". Through any aspect in life, rejection is a possibility. I know, it never makes any one feel any good, but does that change that it still may happen and you should prepare yourself for it? By a certain period in their lives, older men have been through many rejections and are able to quickly move on from that situation when they are. Younger men on the other hand, may sit and dwell on the one hundred reasons of why they were possibly rejected. It is almost as if the world is over for them at that point. They lose all hope.
If a man has confidence, no matter his age, he has most certainly caught my eye!
This is why someone's birth year has never been any of my concern.
What Girls & Guys Said
9 26I mean, the money and stable career didn't hurt the geezers chances either lol
Nah i get it, girls always like older guys, and as the woman gets older so does her preference in men.
16 year olds want a college guy, college girls want to sloot,
Grads want a 30 year old guy for stability, the 30 year old female wants the 40 year old dude, and its goes on until the woman is 40 and wants young dick again.
Well, I stated here I am open to even my own age. I just responded to older men that seemed to want me because of their confidence not necessarily their age.
Yeah i get that, but trust me, girls always go after guys who can offer more (This includes confidence, maturity etc), a lot of that comes with age
Well, yes that is true (the maturity part). But what I found with older men, being more mature is only a stereotype. I've met some that was extremely childish.
circle of poon lol...
@Tdieseler Haha yes it is the circle of poon
Thank you for the insight, it was thought provoking :)
I like all women regardless of age.
I am 61 and my girlfriend is 26, she prefers older guys, not because they have confidence, she says because they take there time in bed.
Older men have bald /balding heads and grey pubes and chest hair.. still they are great?
What's wrong with grey hair?
@Blonde401 grey hair in beards /pubes /body look creepy. That's what I feel. Grey on head is another thing and ok and can be dyed
Why is it creepy? It doesn't bother me wherever it is.
@Blonde401 I am sure you haven't yet seen it that's why. I haven't seen grey pubes though but I have seen older men with grey beard, bald head and even grey arm hair in addition to weirdly thick dense grey chest /belly /shoulders hair. One man was shirtless around his young teen age daughter ewww
Haha trust me, I've seen it. I dated a guy in his 50s. I'm not about people being shirtless in public, that's gross but grey body hair doesn't bother me.
@Blonde401 O well more power to you. This man was shirtless in his garden , nnot in public though. You dates a 50 years old man? I guess old men tend to grow hair on odd places like back /shoulders/ears. Is it true? You also didn't get bothered by grey hair, if you got intimate😉 did he had grey pube?
Ah well in your own garden, that's fair enough. Yes I did, no he wasn't overly hairy but yes he was a silver fox. I don't mind it, really, whatever colour, all looks the same.
@Blonde401 silver fox? That means? He had chest hair that was fully silver?
Silver fox means he was gray all over but good lookin
@Blonde401 grey head hair and fully grey pube? O well even grey arm/leg/chest hair?
I can't say I sat there and inspected all his body hair but as far as remember he wasn't mega hairy anyway but yeah, gray.
when I married the love of my life a year ago I got flack for her being 16 but we showed them now that she is pregnant
Good take.
Do people accuse due to your sexual affinity or just randomly?
Older guys rock!
LOL. Sure it's not.
Damn, I'm older but I don't have money or confidence :(
lol get money and find confidence
@Bigclit But how?
That's for you to figure out.
@Bigclit Right, thanks for the "help"...
Well why don't you have much confidence? And if you have a stable income that's fine but if someone is with you for money you shouldn't be with them anyways
@Bigclit Mhm, then I guess... I'll have to stay alone :( Why I don't have confidence? Maybe it's genetic error, I don't know.
yeah right lol
Let's be real , not every older man has money.
lol... is this take supposed to assure men that all women are not gold diggers :P... though infact it they are...
I'm assuming its its probably a femenazi scheme of yours to make rich guys trust gold digging women so that they can destroy his life
Good take (besides the Al Sharpton photo... can't stand that guy). My current girlfriend is 14 years younger than me and she is dating me because she LIKES me. Has absolutely nothing to do with money. In fact she prefers cheap/easy going dates.
hopefully you're 32+ cause thatd be creepy if you werent
I'm 34, she's 20. And no I'm not a pedo. However I have kept asking myself "what am I doing" with this young girl. I have met over 30 women in the last 2 years ranging in age from 23 to 36. This girl is more into me, less baggage, more accommodating (cooks me meals), more easy going than all the other women I've met. I have taken some heavy criticism from close family members. But honestly, I've gotten to the point where I"m saying f$ck other people's opinions. We get along and are happy. I treat her well and she treats me well. Why change for someone else's opinion? It's not all about sex either (she's actually got a higher sex drive than me). I just enjoy hanging out.
Not saying its about sex just thought it'd be creepy if she was younger than 18 but I've dated an older guy I met him when I was 20 and we dated on and off until now. Older than you by the way and i hate to admitted to him but I love him 🙂
@Bigclit Trust me, I want to follow the law. The thing is my new young girlfriend is chinese (born and raised in china... moved to the USA 4 years ago). I'm caucasian. In her culture an older man with a younger woman isn't a big deal at all. In fact it's a sign of success for a older man to be with a younger woman. Unfortunately the western society we know live in has been twisted & warped by feminism. Fem nazis want to "instill" a sense of social shame into men who pursue younger woman. Of course I know where to draw the line (e. g. HS teacher and student... ewwww). However we are both legal adults why should either one of us care about other people's opinions?
I don't find anything wrong with older younger relationship as long as she or he is of age.
@Bigclit I like ur name, so is it true?
@pbracing33b yes it is
@Bigclit U should message me sometime then! lol A pic would even be nicer! lol
@pbracing33b no. That's very disrespectful to me and my boyfriend