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Older Women: Why I Find Them to Be Sexier And Better Partners

Older Women: Why I Find Them to Be Sexier And Better Partners
I am a guy who likes older women, yes. In about their late 30s and 40s. Never actually dated one but would if I had the right circumstances. I don't exactly DISLIKE younger women, but I'm certainly not as fond of them as I used to be. I find that I can actually connect with older women more, especially with conversation. It's much easier to talk to an older woman than a younger one. One of the curious things I've experienced is how a lot of females say they want a guy they "can have a conversation with," yet I notice that many of them get quiet and almost shy like school kids during a conversation, they will look at you like a little kid and hardly say anything, or some of them will think you're a nerd and then say they want "a guy who can make them laugh! Lol. It's like their level of discussion is not as high as yours, so that's when you become a nerd and they'd rather have a good laugh, lol. But I haven't had this experience with too many older women. There's little connection I can have with women my own age or younger, they often don't have a lot to offer me in intellect and personality, and honestly? I tend to feel like I've outgrown many of the thoughts, feelings, and attitudes that they usually have. They seem stuck in an adolescent still-finding-myself, fear-of-the-future, no-confidence-in-myself mode while I've long been done with all that.

Older Women: Why I Find Them to Be Sexier And Better Partners

And physically I've seen a lot of good looking middle-aged women, yeah. There is something about some 40+ year-olds' bodies that do hold a pretty intense sex appeal, they can still look good at that age. I know for me, women in that age range with large breasts is very sexy. Sure, most younger women have great, sexually attractive figures, but as I get older the idea of having sex with one appeals to me less and less, because I guess it's the intellect and personality thing. Sex with a younger woman seems like having sex with a green banana.

But I do have to say that one of the things I DON'T particularly care for with older women is how some think you don't know anything because you're younger. They will think you were born yesterday, don't know anything about vaginas or what a clitoris is or what a female orgasm is, or that their overall life experience and understanding is far superior to yours -__- Definitely NOT what I appreciate, since I am an unusual person who has come to learn and experience many things in my life that many older adults still have not learned.

I think for a lot of us younger guys, we love older women because they generally tend to be more loose and relaxed than women our own ages, more mature of course, and they've already outgrown all the hangups with men and usually are at a place where they appreciate men for men. And they tend to be comfortable with sex by then, and know what they like and want. And of course the confidence in a lot of older women is extremely appealing. I can find myself coming to near climax from just looking at a hot older woman! But with younger women I usually need to fantasize about something naughty with them in order to REALLY feel sexual about them.

I think there tends to be a difference too in younger women claiming they like older men. It seems to me that a lot of them really only feel that way cuz they're frustrated with guys their own age at the moment, or because some guy they dated didn't give them what they wanted or wasn't what she expected. I think some girls genuinely do like older guys, but most I think only feel that way as a momentary thing based on a lack of maturity and emotional development in their own selves, and an unwillingness to respect and understand guys.
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  • Not going to lie, I had a huge thing myself for Puma's, and Cougars back in the day.

    My whole experience started when I was 19, and a gorgeous girl in her 30s. I was in college, and she was a professor (yes, I now cliche). I worked for the college, and she was a new teacher who knew very little about computers. To which I ended up helping her setup her classroom equipment; as I did many other teachers, and we ended up talking a lot while I worked. Well, one thing lead to another, and I signed up for one her classes. Which after our final, and our last day of class. She gave me my final (A+), and put her number on a piece of paper that was stapled to the final.
    A couple of days went by, and I ended up calling her to ask if she'd like to grab dinner. That Friday, she invited me to her house to eat. We ate, chatted, drank some wine, and had an extremely educational course over the anatomy of the human body, and human sexuality.

    That whole scenario sparked a desire inside of me for an older woman, and I proceeded to find quite a few along the way. Never having a complaint about a single one. I began to learn that older women just have their lives in order, and just like to skip the bull@hit, and get right down to the finer works of what they want (mainly sex).
    Over the years, I've met some incredible women who I still have thoughts about on occasion, but since I'm now married to girl around my own age. I'll of course never go back, but I enjoyed the many times I spent with those women. The dinners, intellectual conversations, romantic nuance, and the knowledge of sexual maneuvers that won me my wife (kidding, but seriously... just damn Pumas/cougars are talented!).
    All in all, I recommend younger guys to try an older woman. Of course; treat them with respect as even though they often times just want sex. They are eloquent, and fruitful women that seriously know their stuff, but are ready to pounce. Once they know that you're a safe prey that's will to obey their commands (in a good way). Also, why pass up a woman offering to buy you a beer. Instead of it being the other way around?

    • Bravo! Well said? Great story!!!

    • What if she's old and still a shitty lay? I have had sex several times with a single partner and I still haven't gotten any better

    • @Heyyakkk Eh, from my experience. I've yet to sleep with an older woman, and have them not be a decent lay, but I may just have been lucky in my findings of the desire of older women. Most sexual techniques come from a long term relationship, and trying new things to spice things up in the bedroom. Sleeping with a new person brings excitement just from having sex for the first time, but most couples become bored with the same repetitious sexual acts, and mix it up. Therefore exploring new ways to please one another, and over time becoming a better lover. That's just my experience though.

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  • "older... In about their late 30s and 40s"

    ::buries head in hands::

    ::sob::

    ::sob::

    ::SNORT::

    ::sob sob sob::

    • I know, being 39 now I know I'm in the "old" category. Oh well , at least we know we are still attractive to some young male studs.

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  • I'm entirely different. I'm most attracted to younger women. Though, I can totally agree that most younger women are pretty brain-dead. It's sorta cognitive dissonance. But, besides, most older women are not interested in dating younger, so I'm positive that it would be more difficult to date a 35 year old woman who is looking to settle down, than a 22 year old woman who is figuring out what she wants in life. The reason you've probably never dated one, is because most of them aren't interested in dating younger. I think you would be hard pressed to find a 25 year old woman who would date a 21 year old man. Or a 23 year old man.

    But. I believe you're incorrect. Women are generally naturally drawn to older men, because older men have proven that they have the skills and traits and resources necessary to survive. The only difference, I believe, is based on experience. If a woman has had some experience in her life that overshadows that instinct, then it changes. But, it's a base instinct, 20,000 years old. In other words, it's an instinctual desire. 20,000 years ago, it was really important for a woman to get a self-sufficient, resilient, capable, resourceful man. And older people usually have those traits. Women often say they like older men more because of "experience". Whereas, men mostly desire younger women, because men have no restrictions on their reproductive method, and also because younger women are more fertile.

    • I think most younger women are taught to want older men as a social norm, and because they're fed up with young guys out of their own lack of development and insecurity. Often times younger women complain about wanting mature men, when they're often less mature than guys in their own age group. And, yeah, I do tend to think guys are actually more mature than females. We don't want drama and games and bologna in a relationship, so we seek older women because they tend to already have outgrown all that. For a lot of young women, having an older man is just a novelty for them. There are actually many relationships involving younger men with older women, we've just taught ourselves not to really notice or think about them. I haven't dated an older woman because I haven't had the opportunity, but many I've known are definitely open to it.

    • I don't know. It's difficult to speak in generalities, I guess.

  • I use to only like younger guys, three to four years younger than me. I felt like I was innocent and naive, and I didn't want to be looked down upon or taken advantage of by older guys. I settled with a guy a few days younger than me, if that counts.

    • Lol.

  • Different strokes for different folks.

  • It's a great time to be a cougar♡ Fantastic take, thanks for the appreciation ☆

  • I could see this and it actually makes a lot of sense. Super spot on post. Sometimes I feel bad for guys around my age because girls are so f*cking dense sometimes. I'm 24 (young obviously) and get hit on by younger guys because they find me more mature, smarter and relatable. I don't think it's just for women in their 30s/40s. Good post ✌🏼️

    • Awwwww, that's so sweet, lol.

  • Yes, there is something very sexy about a confident older woman. My girlfriend at present is 63 years old and she rocks my world!

  • Wisdom that goes back to Benjamin Franklin:

    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a22679-the-cougar-phenomenon-is-not-new-benjamin-franklin

  • I am finding that men want either the twenty somethings or the forty somethings. I might need to do some fence sitting for a few years.

  • I've found that in the last few years since I began dating younger men, I've found myself being a lot happier in those relationships, even when they didn't last, than in relationships with guys my age or older. The past year has been one of the happiest in my life in large part because of the (younger) man in my life.

  • Maybe you are reminded of your mother... Not totally, but hints of their character. It's not a bad thing and would make sense.

    • Yeah, I've heard that said before too. It is interesting.

  • Older women tend to be desperate for marriage or relationships. as their Britt and 'power' is fading. I definently agree they put out more often and that they don't play mind games. Good take.

    • as their beauty and 'power' are* Had to make corrections lol

  • Well, you and all the guys keep thinking that way so when I get that age I'll be dating young guys

    • Lol!

  • Well, I've never had a relationship with someone younger than me xD
    I find that amusing

  • I'm old 24 but I don't find guys younger than me attractive at all.. not cute.. Not manly

  • I loved this... great take.

  • To each their own... you can like your older women. Just don't go putting down young women in the process.

    • So it's acceptable for a younger woman to talk about why she doesn't like guys her age, but wrong vice versa. Typical.

    • Of course not. It's wrong regardless. I personally don't see the hype. I like guys my age. I don't like it when women do it and I don't like it when men do it.

  • I date younger guys but never treat them like they don't know anything. In fact I can't tell they are much younger than me to be honest...

  • Great take! I hope I'm beautiful in my 40s.

    I might write a take on why I'm now with a younger man after having been a panther cub for a while!

  • I wish all of society saw the value of older women beyond sexual experience. Nice take.

    • Society in general values youth. I've been called an old bag at 25, so there's that for ya.😛

    • 😕well that's just plain rude @maskedsamity

    • @maskedsanity

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  • Whats if the woman still looks younger than you

    • Doesn't matter. That's a win because she still possesses the traits of an older woman through experience, characterstics and developed traits. Looks young and pretty, yet conducts herself excellently. Win win.

    • @qoolipbite have you been with old people before

    • That would be very hot.

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