Open Marriage & Open Relationship

My husband and I have been married for 17 years. We have three beautiful children in their teen at the moment. Prior to knowing my husband, I have 9 to exs which I have slept with each one. My husband was my 10th and when I was still dating my husband I also dated two other guys at the same time. They were my 11th and 12th and yes I also slept with them. Out of all, I chose to marry my husband because he knows about my past and he loves me for who I am. Eight years into our marriage, my husband started to have health issues that affecting his sexual performance. He can no longer satisfied me in bed. We have discussed and he understood that I am not happy and not being satisfied. We have consulted with our doctor and have implemented their recommendations, but nothing seem to work. Ten years into our marriage, I cheated on my husband with other men some of them were my exes. My husband found out and again he forgave me. I love my husband and kids, and I want our family to be together, but I also want to be satisfied and happy something that my husband can no longer do for me. Now I want an open marriage/relationship for me to be satisfied and be happy. I still don’t know to approach my husband. Should I ask my husband for an open marriage/relationship?

Open Marriage/Open Relationship
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Most Helpful Girls

  • thats a hella good husband. you are one frickin lucky woman. remember that there are more important things in life though than you being satisfied and sex. like, for example, your husbands health, and your kids. they seem like amazing people for being okay with all this. all you want though is sex. i mean imagine how your teenagers will feel when they find out that their 40 year old mom has to have sex with other men, cuz their dad can satisfy her.

    but its your life so do whatever, but PLEASE PUT YOUR HUSBANDS HEALTH FIRST!!!

    • I love sex more than anything.

    • more than your husband? and kids?

    • Yes more than them

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  • If he knows you and loves you for who you are, then he knows your love for cock will never go away it's probably one of the things he loves most about you. My hubby is the same he just hates when I treat him like a moron, because I feel so terrible about something I did that I won't admit it when we both know I'm full of shit. The second we start having sex tho it comes spilling out

Most Helpful Guys

  • You should ask him for a divorce and accept no alimony, no division of assets, no child support, and no child custody outside of supervised visitation. If you want to be a slut and get back on the cock carousel you can do so ALONE. Dragging your husband and kids into this sort of degenerate lifestyle makes you a piece of shit!

    • I don’t want a divorce. I just want an open marriage.

    • Meaning you still want your husband's protection and provisioning but still want to be able to fuck other dudes. I literally cannot think of any punishment that would be too cruel for for the likes of you.

    • I am already getting it behind closed door. I just want him to be opened to the idea.

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  • You can't be serious... You don't actually love your husband if you feel the need to have other men involved... I don't understand why women feel the need to attempt to defend their apparent need to cheat without taking any responsibility... Just get a fucking divorce

    • It is not cheating if he agrees to it.

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  • not an excuse, buy a dildo. you committed to marriage. period.

    • I have toys.

  • Interesting question... thanks for posting this.

    Let me summarize... you have physical needs that your husband isn't satisfying, yet you love him and want to keep your marriage for the sake of your kids. Your proposed solution is to have sex with other men, with your husband's approval.

    Your having sex with men you know (your exes) that your husband knows about will be tough on him. May I suggest a less stressful solution. Have occasional sex with a male escort selected by your husband. Other than that, masturbate with your husband present, with him helping out with toys and dirty talk.

    If things were reversed (wife doesn't satisfy husband), as happens in several marriages, the husband would frequent a prostitute, and that kind of situation has been going on for centuries.

  • sexless marriages suck.. there is no good options, im in this exact same situation, do I divorce her and put my kids through that? or do I cheat? I dont want a divorce so I opted to cheat.

  • You should ask, but be prepared for him not to agree or want to leave.

  • “In sickness and in health, unless one person isn’t satisfied.” Oh wait that’s not how it goes…

  • You’re either crazy or a troll 🧌

  • You can't keep your side guys quiet?

  • Your husband is an idiot for staying with you…it doesn’t matter if you are being sexually satisfied or not that’s no justification to cheat.

  • Wow that's a really tough situation and must be very difficult to navigate. You've got courage for not asking it anon.

    Have you talked to him at all about any of this before? You really think just for the kids sake that an open marriage is the right idea?

    • We had discussed it multiple times on different occasion. Yes, I prefer to stay together for the kids if an open marriage is an option.

    • Oh ok, maybe I didn't catch that. What are his thoughts? Care to dm?

  • Just stop thinking with your vagina and get a divorce. Your husband's feelings obviously didn't matter to you when you cheated and it seems they still don't now. You should have never got married if you can't stop being a slut.

  • It is not my thing. I can’t be married in this kind of situation but I can divorce and I can date her and we do friends with benefits type. Also she has to help me to find a girl.

  • Yes you should. It's way better than cheating and since you've already done that we can safely assume it's important enough that you can't live without it.

    He should apprieciate your honesty regardless of weather he accepts the proposal or not since it gives him at the very least the oppostunity to decide if the relationship is important enough to save or if he should just break up with you.

    If the issue is medical I doubt an open marriage brings him any benefits wich essentially means he's giving you alone a free pass and most likely he will object to that. If he can't be physically stimulated maybe he can be mentally stimulated and if that's the case there are some sexual games not revolving around penetration you can try with your husband when you've had your needs met elsewhere.

  • I'm not reading any of this. You are a degenerate and you deserve all of your pain.

  • Just make him cuckold

  • You are the one who should have booked an appointment for yourself! Not him!

  • You shouldn't ask to your husband because if he doesn't accept it you still gonna do it if you need sex for sure but why not trying some kind of toys and forepley to make your husband happy too, maybe he want to lick and finger you as well?

  • So lucky to have tasted so may men, what a nice culture, religion and society

    • Every man is different.

    • Yes, no doubt, but some cares moral and cultural values also

  • I read that you said you love sex more than your husband.. AND YOUR KIDS? You are just a bad human being, bordering on evil, definitely a complete self centered narcissistic person that I hope dies alone. Start an only fans or better yet come here to Las Vegas and stroll Fremont st every night and fuck every degenerate for money like the prostitute you are. You do not deserve your family. It’s okay to love sex but more than your kids? That’s where I lost any respect for you.. I would say I hope things work out but only for your husband and kids, you on the other hand can go to hell and get fucked by a demon for eternity.. but you’d probably like that huh? 😂

  • You actually come off as being immature and selfish. What you should do is respect his wishes if he doesn't agree with this lifestyle... let him move on. Don't try to force him to see things your way! Show a little respect and decency!

  • So you're looking for advice on how to ask your husband if you can cheat on him?