Open or not, it's still a relationship. You should be his focus when you're together. That's disrespecting the relationship. You have every right to be angry. I'm in an open relationship with my girlfriend (more a cuckquean relationship tbh, she's not fucking any other guys, but she likes seeing me fuck other women) and despite the number of other women I fuck, she's my girlfriend. She's my centre of attention when were together and she's the one I'm in love with.
He was selfish and self-centered - of course you're upset. He needs to show you some respect - just because you're in an open relationship doesn't mean he can get away with not respecting you. If you arranged to see him to fuck, then that's a commitment that he should have taken seriously.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!This to me, is a great example of why the entire concept of "an open relationship" is ridiculous. It's a denial of human nature.
I don't know what else to really say except: I feel bad for you. I urge you to reconsider whether an "open relationship" is really what you truly want? :)
(before you get angry at that... I refer you back to your own question)
Different type of relationship work for different people. Closed relationships also face many problems especially in the infidelity. Open relationships, just like closed ones have boundaries and rules. My problem here is the feeling of disrespect, not jealousy.
Sure... but 'disrespect' in this case is clearly based on (quite natural) jealousy. While your right that closed relationships face many problems. It's exactly what those "boundaries and rules" are clear and mutually agreed upon. Now, I'm not going to pretend to have a thorough understanding of an open relationship and all its norms, boundaries and rules... but it seems to me... that those rules are simply not nearly so well defined, and mutually agreed on. If they were... then what your boyfriend did would either be pretty clearly right (according to the 'rules' of your relationship) or clearly wrong. So in a closed relationship... you have some recourse to a mutually agreed-upon commitment to NOT 'disrespect' the other person... IN ANY SITUATION... because there are 'rules' governing appropriate behaviour within the relationship. Your case illustrates that a lack of OVERALL rules (that aren't situation-dependent) can lead to jealousy, or as you prefer to look at it: as disrespect. You're right though, different types of relationships work for different people. I genuinely wish you all the best in yours.
Why are you in an open relationship if you have feelings of jealousy? (Not being critical as I experience jealousy and I would never do an open relationship.)
It's not jealousy, it's disrespect. I would not ask him if I could fuck someone if I haven't fucked him yet. I Know it's hard to understand, but it's the respect.
You have the right to be pissed. He isn't in a relationship with that girl. He is in a relationship with you weather it's open or not. You should have the respect. He should have been with you before anyone else. Especially since you guys haven't linked up in awhile.
Thank you 🙏🙏yes, it's the respect 💜
Why should you get mad, it's an open relationship after all
No one thought about a 3sum?
I was cool with a full on orgy man.. but #1 thing is I haven't seen you in a while I wanted to be fucked first... it's disrespectful not to.
You're a KEEPER! Hang in there. You'll find someone that's PERFECT!
I fixed your title for you:
"Open relationship = problem"
Closed relationships also have problems, a d typically around infidelity. My problem was the disrespect, not the fucking someone else part
So, what was disrespectful exactly? I thought the whole point of open relationship is that you ask each other for permission to bring in third parties. Isn't that what he did?
Yes you ask permission but it is disrespect to ask before wehave even hooked-up and it's been more than a month since we last hooked up and we're eachothers main. Had we already hooked up which is why I was there for I would have been cool with ANYTHING... I'm about 98% sure if I did the same he'd be pissed. He even asked me earlier that night not to see this guy that's been interested in me
No. 😂😂
That's a normal response, what's not normal or healthy is your "open" relationship. It's sick and now you're hurting because of it.
It's not "wrong" to be mad, but you shouldn't be. This kind of shit is what you're agreeing to when you get into open relationships.
That is the misconception of open relationship. There are boundaries and rules just like a closed one, only different
And did you establish that you were a priority over other women at the time you opened your relationship?
No, and now this will be a new one, I just wanted to see if others would have considered the act disrespectful
Open relationship, you shouldn't be upset. He should be taking care of you as well though before or after.
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