Open Relationship?

[Anonymous]

My husband and me are in an open marriage. Our job schedules don't line up very well and my sex drive is much higher than his and so we don't have sex/intimacy very often and I'm the kind of gal that needs that. So we opened the marriage. I really just want him but I also want to have some experiences. I've already been with 2 men and after I feel absolutely awful because its not him and that's all I really want is him. He doesn't realize that I need the intimacy that happens when we have sex, I've explained it to him but he still thinks we should be open even though he doesn't have time to be with other girls. I still get cuddles and everything but there's something when we have sex that I need, it's like recharging my battery. I don't get that with other men. I don't know what to do, honestly I'm not sure what advice I'm looking for. Help?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're in a difficult situation and are struggling to balance your desire for intimacy with your desire to be with your husband. Here are a few suggestions that may help:

1. Keep communicating: It's important to keep talking to your husband about how you're feeling and what you need in order to feel fulfilled in the relationship. Be honest and clear about your feelings and try to listen to his perspective as well. It's possible that he may be willing to make more time for intimacy if he understands how important it is to you.

2. Reevaluate the open relationship: If you're feeling guilty or unhappy after being with other men, it may be worth reconsidering whether the open relationship is working for you. Talk to your husband about how you're feeling and whether the arrangement is still meeting your needs. It's possible that you may need to adjust the terms of the open relationship or even close it altogether if it's causing more harm than good.

3. Seek professional help: If you're feeling stuck or uncertain about what to do, it may be helpful to seek the advice of a therapist or counselor. They can help you work through your feelings and develop strategies for managing the challenges of an open relationship.

It's important to prioritize your emotional and physical well-being in any relationship. Don't be afraid to speak up for yourself and advocate for your needs, even if it means making difficult decisions or having uncomfortable conversations.

[PenkWing]

Why does this sound like ChatGPT wrote this? 🤣

[Nikki1989]

@PenkWing Because it did.

[PenkWing]

@Nikki1989 curious what the mods think about this. The answer might be good but this community is based on humans who willingly share their own opinions and experiences.

[EricSummer]

Stop this nonsense with the "open relationship" and again have sex only with each other. You are describing that you prefer sex with your partner and that it does not feel right with others. You should not be ashamed that your feelings are not as open-minded as your views in this. It's perfectly normal to feel that way, and it would be the same for me. Multiple sex partners are not everyone's cup of tea.
Try to make a bit more time for each other, even if it's inconvenient for your jobs. Otherwise, I think nimble fingers and toys can provide some relief and other men are not needed.

[teamvic]

Hmmm well, I mean all you can do is keep talking to him about it, if he keeps saying the same thing and doesn't try then we'll shit i don't know how you plan on being happy in that relationship unless you find someone else you like and probably eventually falling for

[MementoMori777]

I know the advice that you need, you are lusting for no reason, you are in love with one guy, so the sex with him is special and you find a better rush from it, you won't find it from anyone else because that different feeling comes from your emotions towards him, my best advice would be stop looking for it in others, close your relationship and have this special relation only with him, you'll see how much better things will get.

[Dargil]

If you have no children, get a divorce and live a single life and have a "friend with benefits". Your marriage is bankrupt and will end at some point anyway.

[Asker]

How is it bankrupt?

[Dargil]

It is an an open marriage. That's why.

[Asker]

He'll probably pass away before we divorce tbh, he's not healthy

[Nightmoon83]

I have been where you are I’m not in an open relationship but my wife does fuck other men while I watch

[Anonymous]

Somethings wrong with him. I wonder if he's actually attracted to you. Have you been married long?

[Asker]

He says he is, since October of last year

[Asker]

Been together for almost 4yrs