Opinions on young women using old men for sex?

[SunnyHeythere]

I think it's petty and gross

[DaveJord]

Well I am 46, so guess that leaves me looking like a pretty old fart to a 20 something women. But I do know this, I am 10 times better at sex at 46 then I was at 26.

With thst said, the idea of having a serious relationship with a 20 something is not appealing to me. But if she wanted to just use me for sex and she was honest about it, well I am all in on that.

I must assume she as a 20 something, is only doing it because she finds older guys less threatening as far purely physical relationships then guys her own age. Older men tend to approach these type of arrangements with more maturity then younger men. Maintaining a friends with benefits type relationship takes a higher level of emotional maturity then just regular dating an sex.

If you're not into random hook ups, but want a safe friends with benefits situation... they I could see why older men would be more appealing and safer to a younger women.

[SunnyHeythere]

So you let a 20 year old use you for money because you want to have sex with her? That's just petty

[DaveJord]

No I didn't say that. I said I would let her use me for sexy, not money. I don't throw money at any women no matter her age, period.

[SunnyHeythere]

Would you let her do what she wants

[DaveJord]

No where in the question did you ask or reference money. You said "using them for sex." Not taking advantage of them for money. I was a little insulted that you think I would allow that. I set higher standards for myself then that, I have never paid for sex in my life or used money to influence someone have sex... I just wanted to make that very clear.

[SunnyHeythere]

Okay sorry

[DaveJord]

Thanks, no worries. 😊

[ohsheeT]

Love to be honest with you I know some younger girls that like having sex with older guys because they're more mature they know what they want blah blah blah blah blah blah but I don't know about any girl using any guy and I guess if she's doing that then that's more power to the both of them

[Berethor]

They usually use them for money not sex, a woman using a man for sex usually sounds silly.

[SunnyHeythere]

No its not. Its common for women to use men especially boys for sex

[mrmonogamous]

Sick. The guys usually have a lot of money. The girls claim it’s love. Hahaha!

[Aerolyn]

Kinda unheard of for me.

I typically think that if a young girl is going for a older guy with any underhanded intentions then it'll be for money more than anything else.

Wanting a "sugar daddy".

Since I assume what they would think is that since the guy is older then it means there's a better chance that the guy is financially stable and whatever.

[MikeInHawaii]

Isn’t it usually the opposite?

[Reddy4it]

What age gap? My boyfriend is 17years older than me…but he’s really fit…healthy…young

[SunnyHeythere]

Good

[Paulalove98]

Difference is you're a mature 31 year old, not like a 20 or 21 year old girl whos probably immature wanting an old man for just money or sex so your age gap isn't frowned upon much.

[Reddy4it]

@Paulalove98 makes sense

[SunnyHeythere]

@Paulalove98 but it's still their decision, so their responsibility if something doesn't work out

[maximumpower]

Good for the guys.

[shanshu]

Usually he's either rich or she's got daddy issues

[Luckycharms12]

Each to their own

[Zolly99999]

I don't like being used for anything.

[driven159]

whatever turns them on

[abc--123]

I'm hoping it's still a thing when I'm older

[WhiteBoyChill]

Yet when older men use teenage boys for sex you see it as being perfectly fine

[SunnyHeythere]

What are you talking about? You are off topic

[SillyButtlerPutty]

It does soudn petty and gross

Why do they do it?

[SunnyHeythere]

Desperate

[Anonymous]

What's the difference between a 21yo woman using a 40yo man for sex, and her using a 21yo man for sex?

[Anonymous]

ok but would i ever turn down patrick dempsey for sex? nope ofc i wouldn't

[Anonymous]

It may be gross, but it's surprisingly common.

[Anonymous]

Gross to... my opinion is that no man in his right mind would like younger women, they are inexperienced and usually lack elegance and even intelligence, even in my 20's I would preffer women in at least their 27's