Our first kiss went really well I thought but I’m worried he didn’t like it. How can I tell?

[Anonymous]

This is my first time talking to someone new in about 7 years. So I was extremely nervous. We went away for a night together and slept in the same bed. We started to cuddle and he kissed my neck. So I turned over and we started kissing. This was the very first time we had kissed. Basically we made out a lot and he started French kissing me which I liked. The kissing felt passionate and he was a total gentleman but he didn’t try to have sex with me which I wanted to. We fooled around a little but that was it. We also had some drinks that night and he wasn’t exactly at his “full potential” if you know what I mean. Could it be he wasn’t turned on by me or I wasn’t a good kisser? Maybe the alcohol? I don't know I’m just a little worried about it.

[JPresidente]

Men can have trouble getting hard after drinking a lot. It's happened to me. Totally normal. The type of kissing you described suggests he is totally into you and probably has feelings in addition to wanting to sleep with you. I wouldn't read too much into the problems you had later. You'll know more as things progress.

[Guy13]

Alcohol and a sense of being overwhelmed by you. Little bit of both…

[Asker]

He did tell me he was nervous 🤔

[Guy13]

He’s super happy but unsure ( 🥃 ) but good until stage fright set in. I can’t imagine there being any issue this Thursday etc

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Guy13]

👍👍

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he was nervous and afraid he wouldn’t be able to perform because of the alcohol (which can happen) and didn’t push things further. If the kissing was passionate, then he’s into you. I wouldn’t worry. Just let the sex happen when it happens. Some people need a little time to be comfortable taking that step.

[BarryLiverstone]

If he couldn’t get hard that’s not a good sign. Sounds like you enjoyed the kissing but does he want to see you again?

[Asker]

Yes and he reaches out to me on a daily basis.

[BarryLiverstone]

If he’s doing that it’s likely he will want to kiss you again. Why do you worry he didn’t like it?

[Asker]

Basically because he couldn’t get hard. He initiated the kissing and the fooling around and asked if it was okay which I said yes. He told me he was nervous and i said we didn’t have to do anything. We still made out for awhile and eventually just continues to cuddle. He did mention earlier in the evening it had been 2 years since he’s had sex. So I don't know if it was that or me.

[BarryLiverstone]

You mentioned there was alcohol. Was he still drunk. If you have never seen him hard since you started talking it could be his level of attraction towards you. But sounds like if he was nervous he was in his own head

[Asker]

We are a little bit long distance so that was the very first time we actually saw each other in person. We each had several drinks.

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh didn’t know that’s the first time you saw each other. Hmm, that could be an issue tbh