Painful penetration and need to pee?

I was a virgin not a long time ago and we haven't done it many times but it hurts when he goes in. We do foreplay and I feel like I'm wet enough. Also when it does work, I get this intense urge to pee so it gets uncomfortable because I clearly don't wanna pee while we're doing it, help please!
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  • Maybe you are not relaxing enough so your vaginal muscles are tense. It took myself quite some time to get used to penetration, I actually ended up dealing with it alone by practising with a dildo, but I also did not find a gentle and patient guy to figure it out with.
    About feeling like you need to pee, that is pretty common I think. The sensations down in that area is new to you so you might relate it to something you know, like peeing.. it just takes time to get used to. Take it slow and focus more on the things you really enjoy, maybe massages and oral sex is more for you for now :)

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  • Stimulate your clit, take your time and rub it, don't think of anything just feel your pussy and you need to be relaxed when he's penetrating and when you feel like you need to pee try to push a little and just let go... maybe you squirt

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  • During intercourse , the man can sometimes have his penis reach the urethra of the woman. the urethra is like a long tube from the vagina to the bladder. if it is stimulated during intercourse , then the woman will have a feeling of needing to pee , plus the possibility of a heightened degree of orgasm... bonus !

  • First, pee really good before. Then push past the feeling and see what happens.

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  • Try a couple of things... first pee before sex also even though you think you are wet try using some lube like KY or Easyglide it really helps and it feels way better for both of you. How often are you two having sex? Make sure he does not start jackhammering away as soon as he enters you... just be still for a bit after he is inside you so your body gets use to a penis in it.

  • Pretty normal. Do you pee before you start?

  • If he is IN your vagina, he is going north of your cervix and impacting your bladder in the "anterior fornix". Reverse Cowgirl and Doggy should help with that, sending him to the much more roomy "posterior fornix".

  • Maybe pee right before. Even if you don't feel like you need to, some will come out.

  • Maybe you can squirt and when you are about to squirt it might feel like going to pee. As for painful, have you tried external lube?


  • Are you sure it's pee, maybe it's squirt..؟؟؟
    I think both feel the same way.

  • Just tell him you need to pee and go do it.

  • You should feel relax doesn't matter if you Pee, just you concantrate to take pleasure from that moment...

  • I guess it takes more experience