Partner wants to be tied to the bed during sex?

My sexual partner voiced out that one of his
fantasies is getting tied to the bed and being
dominated.

I haven't done anything like this before. How do I
navigate it? How can I make it enjoyable for the
both of us? Any tips
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Most Helpful Girls

  • 1. Talk to him about the fantasy. What does he like? What does he want done? What does he not want done?

    2. Pick a safe word. For example, I've used mango before. If he says it, stop immediately. You're his dom, not a tormentor. You're to help guide him through the fantasy.

    3. Get some good cuffs, like some velcro bed cuffs, bandage bed bars or plain handcuffs that are preferably a bit softer to not chafe the wrists and ankles

    4. Invest in a blind fold if he's comfortable with that

  • Is he looking for a vanilla dominant or a more bdsm dominant?

    • I think vanilla

    • Well since it's vanilla it can be a romantic and sensual kink. To enhance the experience you can blindfold him so he feels everything without watching. First Tie him up dressed then before you blind fold him (can be with panties (if used make sure they are fresh and not completely worn all day) touch his chest with one finger while you lean over him like teasing all the way down to his area without touching it directly just tease. If he is wearing an briefs or boxers take both of your hands again stroke his chest down this time kissing his chest too all the way down to his boxers then slowly use your hands on his sides and teeth to pull his boxers down teasing then move your hands to his back to help get his boxers off while doing this move your hands down his ass all the way down to lift his legs while still holding his boxers in your teeth and gliding them off his legs staring straight at him hungrily. Once removed take your hands up his ankles towards his legs reach his the penises head. Tease his head by slapping gently your lips to the head and then without warning fully take it. Do not give him to much head cause he will be to worked him just enough to relieve him a bit. After this lift your self sensually and dominantly by looking into his eyes with confidence. Start removing your bottom clothes (keeping your underwear or cloth for when you blindfold him) teasing him and then climb towards him kissing his stomach to his chest the kissing him before parting his lips bite his bottom lip and lift yourself and remove the top part of your clothing sensually. Now you can blindfold him. Continue reading in comment section below 👇

    • Second part continued... From here you can kiss his neck nipping at his ears, neck, chest while caressing his body with your hands, you can do two things from here go to his ear an whisper in his ear that you want him to taste your forbidden fruit until you come. and then place it on his face telling him to make you come. Or you can rub your area on his to get you going and wet while you kiss him and his body and moan. Once ready and wet go to his ear and tell him I love you or if you haven't said that yet say I want you then bite his neck and suck or french kiss his neck. Move your body down and adjust to cow girl that man. Once you begin to straddle him remove the blindfold so he can watch and you can look into each other's eyes. The rest I leave to you. Hope this helps give you ideas. ❤️

Most Helpful Guys

  • this is one of my fantasies to so I don't know. being dominated and tied to the bed during sex. I also want have sex with an older women. I want have a 3 way with a red head and a blondie. I kind want dress up like a school boy. I don't know what wrong with me.

  • Well you start by foreplay and slowly tie each of his hands, then you have freedom to tease him and do whatever, get imaginative and have some fun, like kissing him in arrousal spots and so on

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  • Keep the communication open, have a "safe" word that if said means stop everything right away. Maybe start with just his hands or feet before you try both. How is your sex life with him otherwise?

  • Well, if you are comfortable doing it and their comfortable then do it not something I want but not judging on my part.

  • It's worth it, can open more sex play over time. Soft cuffs or bondage bar, and I always like having the comfortable eye mask for them.

  • Talk about it first and see what he actually wants and what you’re willing to do. Once that’s finalized it’s game on!!

  • Make sure he's truly into it and get a lot of detail on it before you act.

    Establish safe zones/words before you start and honor them.

  • hey what you do in your private time, if your thing. you don't need to be sharing it with us

    since when did gag, become pornhub

  • Do some research together then let the games commence. Enjoy yourselves I'm sure it will be fun.