Penis Not Entering Vagina , what to do?

me and and my girlfriend decided to have sex today.

We both are virgins.

My dick was hard enough and she was too wet.

But when i pushed my dick inside her.. it came out , like bending out.

Is this a problem? what should i do?
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i have 1 more question. when you spread pussy lips.. is there vagina opening. only? because from the diagrams , vagina is of small portion only... But i dont see anything like that in her
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she was also saying that she didn't wanted to do it till marriage. can this mentality.. be te reason behind this?
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  • 1. The hole isn't at the front lips😂
    2. Anyway, since she didn't want to do it and you had to convince her to, she was most likely nervous and not aroused meaning she'd be all closed up. Don't do that. If she doesn't want to, she won't enjoy it.
    3. You have to use lube when it's too tight

    • when i finger her , i just have to move my fingers straight into her pussy lips. and goes into vaginal opening i am sure. because urethral opening is not that big

  • She probably has strong vaginal muscles that as you enter. She probably gets tense and the vaginal walls sometimes close and push out your penis. Try more foreplay so she can relax. Try lots of kissing or gentle massages. Maybe take it slowly and try oral.

    • ok thanks

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  • bending out? are you sure to target the right hole? From north to south you have clito, external urethral orifice and then vagina... Do foreplay to help her to be relax and relax their muscles. Hymen can break just doing horse following the woman. it is not a wall. 10 try sounds weird.

    • it felt like going in.. so. i might be in the right hole. i just pushed her pussy lips aside and pushed my dick inside

    • Oh wait she doesn't want before marriage? ... She is clearly not in a good mind to have sex... Why did she try so? Are you sure she is ready?

  • Use one and then more fingers to dilate her vagina. Eventually it will accept your cock.

    • Trust me, she has a vagina. Her reluctance about sex before marriage has no impact on her anatomy.

    • yes i did that same thing yesterday and it worked.. i did lot of fingering with 2 fingers. Then spread her pussy lips using left hand yo see the vagina.. and using my right hand i guided my dick into her pussy. I still don't know what happend the 1st time

    • Did you have her consent to enter her? You said she wanted to wait.

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  • You just weren't going in because you don't know where the vaginal opening is. Have her guide you.

    Also have lube handy and use a condom.

  • Yes there is more than the vagina... so be careful... you should try a lot more foreplay, and get her dripping pretty good, use your fingers to pleasure her and open the vagina more... she could be like me and just have a very small vagina... does she use tampons?, if not then she may have the issue I have... I'm so small I can't use tampons, but sex is not a problem for me... learn her geography like the back of your hand, and that should prevent further issue.

    • so will you consider leaving your guy or frustrated by him if he wasn't able to penetrate you the first time you had sex

    • Of course not, but I don't know how emotionally evolved your girl is... you might have also given up too easily... for her first time, it has to be a very very very slow penetration since the vagina hasn't experienced that before... she could have even tensed up from the pain making it more difficult to penetrate... she could also have a unique hymen situation (see my profile for further detail on that, I have a detailed question about types of hymens)... sometimes there is an involuntary response where the vaginal muscles will tense to prevent penetration, but this is common with women who are not relaxed... so hours of foreplay, studying her vagina, and making her cum so much prior to sex that she is shaking is a good state to get her in first before very very very slowly penetrating her... position matters too, for her first time it will be easiest to penetrate in missionary.

    • Just saw your update... that mentality can cause the involuntary muscle response I mentioned.

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  • More foreplay and she may have been so nervous it was causing her to tense up, she needs to be relaxed. Lube would help too, but honestly if your both ready and you’ve had sufficient foreplay there really shouldn’t be any need for lube.

  • Make her more wet and use your fingers to stretch, start with one and build your way up.

    The hymen is making the vagina tighter than usual causing your penis to not enter fully.

    • not fully? its not even entering

    • Use lubrication like coconut oil. Give her oral sex. Use saliva to make it more wet. You need to take it slow. It will take many tries.

    • i dont think there is a need for lubrication. she was too wet.

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  • This can be a problem for virgins, when I was a virgin I couldn't find mine either to masturbate, no matter how tiny I could never enter myself, I guess it's anxiety and also you not knowing where to put what. Just relax, both of you and she should guide you to where she feels her hole and both of you just take your time.

    • Oh my gosh I have this problem. . . Can't even put a tampon in. How did you fix it? I'm so worried when a guy tries to have sex with me he won't be able to enter and it terrifies me because I would be so embarrassed :/

    • @lalalalovely1 I learned to relax, actually one day a guy I was having sex with long after I lost my virginity still had issues with me, and told me I was too tense, he told me it was in my head which was partly true but I had another medical problem which was sorted out soon after. For most people it's just not being relaxed and also not being confident enough. Sex is honestly, it's trust and it's connection, if there's none of that then it makes it so much harder. I am a cam girl now and relaxing to get something there is way easier regardless of how small my vagina is so don't listen to people saying it's an issue of being too tight, sometime I hurt so much because I am not aroused but I just grease it up and block that out, you learn as you age to relax faster and get it going. I wouldn't recommend using a tampon as a virgin though, just use a pad.

    • Oh sorry I meant lube it up, do not use oil or lotion on your vagina, it could cause irritation, infections and break condoms, use lube or your saliva. As for me saliva always gets it going and I am fine there after.

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  • Spend more time on foreplay and start with inserting a finger and work on getting her comfortable with two/three fingers before trying your penis again

  • Even tho she was wet use a lubricant as it's more slippery. Make sure you play with her clit to relax her while slowly putting in one finger at a time. With that said if she wants to wait till marriage you should respect that by not making her do what she doesn't want.

  • Maybe her vagina is just really tight like mine and its hard to enter at it and if she is nervous is gonna be even harder. Just start by fingering her, one finger should go in pretty easy is she is wet, the second maybe will hurt a little.

    For the penis is hard for me too when a guy is trying to enter, evertime its hurt a little for me so just need a little of patience, thanks godnees everyguy has been kind and gentle. Is just like that for me.

    • but in your case penis enters.. but my case.. penis entered only one time little bit

  • You need to enter her slowly, not just ram it in. smh

    • i was doing it slowly.. but it kept coming out

    • Just try doing short and gentle thrusts.

    • how can i thrust if it doesn't go in 😣

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  • You... tried to put your dick in just the vagina lips? Not the actual opening?
    Omfg I’m wheezing.

  • She's probably tensing up cause she's anxious. She needs to be relaxed, you probably should use lube, and guide your penis in with your thumb at the tip.

  • I guess, both of you were a bit nervous. Relax, laugh it off and try again some time later. Be gentle - porn is NOT real. The rest comes by itself. Each individual has an own optimal...''procedure''.

  • I think that the consensus is more foreplay. Oh my! That makes everything feel better.

  • More foreplay makes it more relaxed, and you can always have her guide you in. That'll make it easier for the inexperienced.

  • bending out?,?

    • If she has an obgyn he could say if she's normal. She might have an extra solid hymen.

    • No big problem.

    • bending out means like whenever i pushed my dick inside her , it bounced back

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  • I think u maybe were just too nervous and it went a bit flaccid from those nerves

  • Sounds like a position issue to me.

  • your problem is your with the wrong girl
    if your dick did that , its very clear that your dick rejected her pussy

  • I've heard that lube really comes in handy for the first time of having sex. Even if she's wet, it may not be enough surprisingly. Or you it could be you aren't "pushing" hard enough (ik it sounds pretty rough).

  • Its just her hymen. Some women need much force in order to break past it. Try using your fingers to get past it and then stick it in like you did.

    • hymen? so hymen can cause dick to slip off? we tried like 10 times but it kept coming out , maybe once it entered a little bit when she felt little pain and moved back which caused the dick to come out

    • Yes. This is normal. She has to go through the pain. The close she is to orgasm the easier the process is.

    • This is a misconception about how the hymen works. Most women do not have the kind of hymen that covers the vaginal opening. Most women have a lunar hymen, which doesn't need to be torn or anything - it's stretchy and it just moves out of the way.

      https://youtu.be/fBQnQTkhsq4

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