People who have Waited, is waiting until marriage worth it?

[Literalbillionaire17]

I’m asking the question bc I decided a while ago that I want to wait until marriage to have sex, I even got myself a purity ring howeverrrrr, it’s not easy waiting. There’s been a bunch of instances where I have had the opportunity to have sex and as much as I wanted to I ultimately turned it down bc of my beliefs for myself (they’re not religious, just a decision I made). I haven’t had any form of sex at all, I kinda want to do at least something but at the same time I also want to keep my promise to me. I also don’t have a boyfriend and haven’t rlly found anyone I rlly want to be with romantically yet but again I kinda just want to try at least something. So is it worth it?

[SueShe]

What are your reasons for wanting to break your promise of chastity?

Is it that you are feeling that you have to follow what others do just to be like them? Is is because you just want to experiment something? Is it that your libido is taking the best of you? Is it that you are perhaps being "motivated", forced or coerced to doing it against your will?

Honestly, you are not gaining anything by being intimate. You managed to live so long without copulating that I see no reason why you should break your promise just for a few pathetic muscular contractions. Sex is overrated and besides breaking your promise, you subject yourself to potential health risk due to STD/STI. A condom is not a warrant to remaining free of STD/STI because you can infect you other ways.

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree with this except for the use of the word "intimate."

[Anonymous]

Yep. I waited. I was 29. My wife knew I had self control. She also had reason to never believe the lie I could not help myself.

I am proud of you making a goal.
Don't let desire and opportunity meet. That means look ahead and be aware of situations that could put you where it will be much harder.

Perhaps what will help is consider the consequences and the responsibility of sex. It is treated far to lightly. Of course you could get pregnant. There are also diseases. There is a horrible negative emotional toll. Disappointment. And good sex does not just happen. Most young boys are just too horny to consider the girl and her needs so they get a raw deal.
Time spent developing a trusting relationship built on respect, consideration, understanding that develops from good communication and listening will find your first sex a far deeper and meaningful as well as pleasurable experience.
So dam straight its well worth waiting.

[Jamie05rhs]

Why do you want to "try" something?
I think you need to do an honest self-assessment and examine the reasons.

"Trying something" isn't compatible with waiting. They are two different things that are directly opposed to each other.

You're at the age in your life where your body is at its peak sexually. You have natural biological urges. You have to recognize that and acknowledge it.

So if the reason is purely biological, then you need to continue waiting. Because that is the only option that is in line with your values.

Now, granted, you're not 15 or 16 anymore, so there's no reason to wait to get married. You can get married whenever you want, after you find the right person. It's not like you're being held back because you're a child anymore. (Assuming you're from a country that doesn't allow child marriages.)

And then after you get married, then of course you can start having sex! So, problem solved. :)

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO.

[Sour-rose]

Yes... because there's no way in hell I'm spending a whole half of a full bank for a wedding for ONE DAY. so I'm glad I've been waiting and now realise, no need for that shi

[Guy13]

Supposedly, we bond with each partner. The plus of Virginity is at that Time of Marriage the most intense bond is formed.

[Guy13]

Juxtapose Science and Culture on Sex: -CULTURE: says get as much sex as you can and as in many ways as possible…It’s my Right. SCIENCE: Hooked:New Science on How Casual Sex is Affecting Our Children (Mclhaney, Joe MD/Neurologist). —Thesis: sexual Activity releases numerous chemicals into the brain 🧠 that create emotional and neurological bonds between participants. Bonds are Value-Neutral even if Activity is not. —Findings: the individual who goes from sex partner to sex partner is causing his or her brain to mold in such a way as to accept that pattern as normal and damage ability to bond in a Committed Relationship. And, is more pernicious and damaging than pregnancy or STDs. The brain’s Chemical transaction goes unperceived by affected individual while causing ongoing difficulties in establishing life-long and satisfying Relationship. —deeply connected to another-one who has no legal, moral, or personal responsibility to the other, therefore, jealousy, obsession, and inability to end Not Good dynamics and relationship. This pattern is not Intelligently Designed and is a result of man knowing better than the Intelligent Designer-Creator, God.

[Guffrus]

What is the point in pretending that your view is in some way scientific when it is infact a 100% religious view? If you like science so much then substitute it for your faith If you want to keep your God, then just be honest about it.

[Guy13]

You are full of Assumptions…which make an ass out of folks. Firstly, review the Science method and it’s stringent controls and peer-reviews. —To me, it’s common sense, as I am not at enmity with God. And yes, it is a Proof that there is indeed a Creator, God who formed complexities in Neuroscience, Man’s Being (Soul, Mind, and Body). And obviously a profound example the fallen Nation of man/ woman unable to Improve with their own Efforts. —Yep, Science, such as above, is what is revealed when he/she behaves outside of the Intelligently Designed Spiritual and Moral Law found in His Precepts. You simply do not like the fact that you are created and that you worship the creaturely like some Dawg in heat…devoid of Absolute Truth and centered upon physical impulsivity. —You sir, should be honest that you are in opposition to it. And please, explain yourself and reason for your contradictory viewpoint. Thanks!!

[Guffrus]

There is no evidence to support the idea that there is a God, none. If you think that there is you are a moron.

[Guy13]

Prove your NOT Evidence…again with your assuming Opinion…your opinion means 💩. If there is NO PROOF of God then present it. YOU MADE THE CLAIM…back it up‼️ What is your Proof that there is no God? And please don’t be a child and answer my question with a question…even my 7th graders are above that. PROOF for YOUR CLAIM that there is NO GOD? Thanks

[Guffrus]

As I thought, you are a moron. The burden of proof lies with the claimant, that you, you are claiming that there is a God. There is no evidence for this so you cannot produce any. I dont have to prove anything to you.

[Guy13]

Your dead.. unable to meet on the Field of Ideas…argue against my Points. You can’t and that the crux of the Problem. You are an excellent example of Form without Substance.

[Guffrus]

Actually your arguments have been addressed and defeated, you are just too dumb or crazy to understand that. The basis of all of your arguments is that there is a God and as there is no evidence for this your arguments are meaningless.

[Guy13]

Give them to me since you know them. Again with your opinion and NO Substance. Seriously, you keep throwing sand like a kid in sand box. What are those arguments? JUST ONE…surely you know Something of what you are pontificating?

[Guffrus]

This is not about opinion, its about evidence and you dont have any.

[Guy13]

You make the claims. Give me one of those arguments that are SO COMMON. Form without Substance. You won’t even address the points I stated earlier. TELL YOUR PROOFS that “defeated Existence of God”. It’s better not to speak when you can Neither address the points given OR PRODUCE the point that you claim

[Guffrus]

I haven't made any claims. Your world view and everything you have said here is all based on the idea that there is a God and there is no evidence. Everything built from this idea collapses and disappears along with your God. I don't need to do anything other than point this out, which I have several times. You don't have anything, you are holding no cards.

[Guy13]

Then you are a Village Idiot. YOU MUST HAVE CLAIMS IF YOU CLAIM ANYTHING IS NOT. Hello… —Please stop as the pit gets deeper and deeper. Give me just one Argument that you contend is so prevalent.. anyone that .”defeated God”

[Guffrus]

Informing you that there is no evidence supporting the existance of God is not a claim requiring evidence. You are the claimant in terms of proofs being required. This is not a double standard. The reason you are required to provide evidence is because you are saying that a thing exists. The default position is that it doesn't. I shouldn't be having to explain basic 101 shit like this to you.

[Guy13]

You are simply daft. To say anything is not is a claim. One argument is all you have to do. Form without substance. Just address my points in my first post…your macro opinion is useless since you have no Micro for your NOT Claim. My 7th graders in Logic are going to have a field day with your Thinking and Reasoning capabilities. Later…keep running around the Village screaming IDIOT. ..

[Guffrus]

You are just doing what many religious nuts do; you start with your bullshit premise that there is a God and then work backwards trying to find some reason to justify it. Why can't you just be honest about it? Aren't Christians supposed to be honest?

[doe9de]

Really it's up to you everyone has a different opinion. If you would rather wait good on you for your amazing self control. If your ok with doing something that's your choice. Sex is really what you consider it. Some people don't call it sex unless it's P in V while others may consider just basic touching to be sex. So ask yourself what do you consider to be the boundaries where playing around becomes full on intercorse.

[summiter]

It is an individual choice. I had tons of sex with a lot of girls before marriage and do not regret it at all. It was fun to get naked with someone and share orgasms. ( I always used condoms) Life is short and I wanted to explore and discover before marriage (which is wonderful by the way). However, I respect those that wish to wait also.

[Apple1996]

I didn't wait till marriage but me and my hubby lost out virginity to each other and I do like being able to share that bond only with him

[AssholeNumberOne]

Id say just masturbate. Get a vibrator, you're old enough to

[Guy_No1974]

I think that you should explore your sexuality, your virginity isn't some sacred thing that should be locked away. You're a young woman, and intimacy is something to enjoy and explore, how will you know that you like sexually if you don't explore it, you could end up marrying someone who doesn't satisfy you, or is incapable of fulfilling your needs.

[Guy_No1974]

So what's your opinion on my reply.

[exitseven]

I had a 4 year relationship with somebody who wanted to wait. It was so totally not worth it.

[billmunch]

I gave up waiting at 33

[jahaims]

I didn't wait until marriage but my wife and I both lost our virginity together while dating. I knew her for 6 months as a friend and then dated for 6 months before we decided to have sex. I knew at 6 months I wanted to marry her. I didn't do it for religious reasons. It is based on my values as a person. I would personally make sure you are sexually compatible before getting married. Your sex life is an important part of marriage.

[Jamie05rhs]

"I knew at 6 months I wanted to marry her." "I would personally make sure you are sexually compatible before getting married." These two statements are contradictory. If you had to "test" her, then you didn't "know."

[jahaims]

Nope

[motownplayer2000]

It can be if you are sexually compatible once you get married. If you haven’t even started the conversation about sex.. once you get married it won’t magically be amazing. Bad sex will ruin a marriage. Sucks but it’s true. So make sure that you know you are willing to do whatever it takes to be good.

[Shamalien]

You can fetch a higher quality man as a virgin so best to save that for marriage

[In_Trance]

How can anyone quantify results without having done both?

[OddBeMe]

No its not worth it.

[Rudon00]

Well I'm still waiting here !

[Anonymous]

Waiting for sex is worthwhile. Waiting to masturbate isn't.

[Anonymous]

I am a virgin but I'm also not married. I'm also single. I'm 33. I am an only child and a male. I need to have a kid soon even though I don't want them.

I feel like I shouldn't have waited but, to be fair, I wouldn't have been able to have a kid if I got a woman pregnant, because I wouldn't have been able to provide for it. I still can't. I can barely provide for myself. I still live with my parents. I don't want to move out for a couple reasons

[Anonymous]

I see no benefits in waiting.