People who turn every conversation into a argument?

So not just my boyfriend but I've met others that do this as well and it's a weird personality. Most of these people tell me right away that they like to debate. Okay, everyone likes to have a debate now and then right?
But it seems every time you say a opinion or even anything at all they have to turn the conversation into a argument and get in their feelings these people get mad at literally anything that they don't agree with yet they love to "debate". I could say there's colors in a sunset and they get mad. Like for instance I told my boyfriend that I hate when crappy shows have random sex scenes. I get why it appeals to others because a show has to have romance, sex, action, suspense, etc. That's fine, its just that those shows don't appeal to me. He likes shows that show nudity and have those sex scenes. Fine.
I told him If I'm in the mood to want to see that I'll just watch porn or continue on with the show (if the show is worth it) but as a female personally I don't want to see that all the time. He got mad and said oh so you don't like porn. I tried to explain to him that's not what I said and he them says, you know what I'm getting pissed off so let's just stop talking. He does this all the time! Just shuts down and believes what he wants.
Everything I say to him and friends that are like him all do this. Like they just don't know how to hold a normal conversation. Is this like a mental illness or are these types of people just socially dull? And why do they get so pissed off over something so miniscule?
0 1

AI Bot Choice

Superb Opinion
  • Try this game with your partner!

    Both of you write 10 Fetishes you want to try and 10 you don't. Also write dow 10 things each of you would like the other to do and it doesn't have to be sexual.

    After compare your lists and find the things you have in common and start a conversation from there.

    I used to be similar with my partner because I didn't know how to express my wants and also learn what hers were.

    After we started the conversation we found it easier to talk to each other and try new things.

    Guys are easley offended if they find that the partner has a different view of porn for example, to guys porn is a way to see what the partner may like to try without having to ask.

    If you simply say what porn turn you on? He will open up like a book to you and communication is what you want.

    My wife and I started rough but as soon as we started communicating confortably everything changed. One day I put on a swinger show and she simply asked me if that's what I wanted to try once and I felt so relieved that she acknowledged my want instead of judging or shutting it down.

    Girls have the power to make or break a guys confidence and interest which leads to the guys looking to fill their fantasies without you.

Most Helpful Guy

  • I observe the same and it bothers me. It’s a hit the same as more and more ‘Karen’s’ show up in video and news feeds. There is a real difference between the willingness to have a healthy debate and intentionally stoking a fire. It’s not healthy IMHO.

Most Helpful Girl

  • I've been there. My ex for angry with me for it. Now thw man I'm with listens to me rant about my opinions in things and enjoys it. You should either tell him you wish he would just respect you and your opinion, or you should move on and find someone that doesn't act like a whining toddler.

    • I agree. Also when I say something he says with so much attitude, do you even hear yourself?

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

What Girls & Guys Said

0 1
  • Yeah some people live for drama