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  • "how does it work for you" Kind of an open ended phrasing, that could mean a lot of things.

    How it works for me in terms of my desire and motivation? It's about power, control, ego, and lust. I want what I want and it feels powerful to just take it, above someone else's efforts to prevent me. You could compare it to competitive sport. You want to get the ball into the goal/basket/objective, and the opponent's goal is to stop you. When you achieve that goal despite their best efforts to stop you, it is an ego boost, a display of superiority. It feels good to say "I want to do this." and then do it. It's especially hot when the girl is being a brat, rude, or otherwise acting tough/superior, since that adds to the "achievement".

    How it works for me in terms of morality? It doesn't. I don't want to hurt or traumatize anyone. I could never commit an actual rape with an unwilling participant, it's against my morals. That kind of action would haunt me forever.

    How does it work for me in execution and playing out the fantasy? I have had partners who share the fantasy, so we talk about it beforehand, and set up a scenario or game. One example was I would chase my girlfriend around the house, grab her, wrestle her down, tear off some clothes, grope her and shove my hard on in her mouth or rub against her, or even penetrate her for a while while she struggled, then I would let her go and repeat the capture process. We would just improvise with whatever was around, I might grab something to bind her to a chair or table for a bit, or bend her over some furniture or otherwise constrict and corner her.
    Another example of a game I played with my sub, which actually put her in control, was "the more you struggle, the harder I will fuck you". So if she wanted me to stop completely, she would just go limp. The funny part about that game was the more she was enjoying it, the less she would struggle, then when I slowed down, she would remember she needed to fight me and start struggling again. XD

    I've always wanted to explore this more and do some more intense scenarios like a "kidnapping to a sex dungeon". Another aspect that I have no idea how to overcome is that it would be really hot to do with a stranger, since there's that excitement of really taking someone who is uncertain of you and feeling fear/uncertainty/excitement; but the issue with that is to get intimate enough with someone to discuss playing it out you end up not being strangers so it's a Catch 22.

  • My rape fantasy is just something that sounds hot to me sexually.

    Long story short, I like the idea of being seduced and made to have sex with a taller, dominant woman who'll do whatever it takes to make me hers, that's it, I don't fantasise about raping someone and even if I did, I'd never do such a horrible act - I'm a virgin and I believe sex is one of those things that sound way better in my head than in reality.

    In terms of what my fantasy consists, I've went into detail on it before here, if you want to check it out, but you'll have to read the replies too, because it's quite long and I ran out of character space:

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  • For me it was a reclamation of my sexuality from that night, in a way that’s safe and with someone I trust. Think of it like exposure therapy. If a dog bites you and you develop a fear, some of the best therapy can be coming around a dog that is patient and relaxed with you. It slowly erodes the initial trauma.

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  • I've had a couple women ask me to go along with that and I just couldn't do it. I tried, but when someone's alternating between crying and telling you to try harder, Jesus. I don't get it. After trying that the first time I just put a hard limit on that one.

    More confusing was the women who asked for it had been raped in the past, which mad me more confused and uncomfortable with the entire scenario.

    I can't say how it works on their end, just that it doesn't work on my end, I went limp as a noodle because it was far too disturbing. I only want to choke, smack, or tie someone up if they're enjoying it and expressing as much, otherwise, ugh, just doesn't sit right with me, not one single bit.

  • I think it is important to recognize a distinction when using the term "rape fantasy." There are women, and a few men, who have been raped. Their fantasies are a reliving of their trauma and a part of the PTSD which so many of them experience.

    That is very distinct from women who have never been sexually assaulted and who have a "rape fantasy." When most women describe their fantasy, they do not describe an actual forcible and violent rape but instead describe a scenario in which a strong and handsome stranger appears and they willingly submit to his aggressive sexual advances. They describe their reaction as being overpowered but their "assailant" never uses force to make them submit, so it is not really a rape about which they fantasize.

    The other important thing to remember about fantasies is that they serve a useful purpose in our lives. If I am attracted to a person who is - or should be - off limits for me, I can fantasize about having a sexual liaison with them but then I feel guilty about having entertained the fantasy, and that guilt deters from acting upon my attraction to the person. E. g., it is common for a married person to be sexually attracted to someone other than their spouse. They fantasize about having sex with the other person and immediately realize how horrible it would be if they actually did such a thing. They feel horribly guilty and realize how their life would be destroyed by engaging in an affair and so they never do anything to pursue that other person.

    In simple terms, having a sexual fantasy about something does not mean that it is something that you would actually want to make happen in your life.

  • Well that's all about the domiance thing again for me. It's feeling like she can do anything she wants to me is very much a turn on. And what's more dom than forced into it.

    Also the truma side it's messed up kinda comfort i won't try to describe.

  • As rough as I get is smacking her ass.
    I can't be physically aggressive at all. No slapping nor choking and if we're ever watching porn and a guy starts choking a girl, even if she's ok with it... I can't watch it. It pisses me off.
    No rape in any way shape or form.

  • They used to post them on Craigslist and meet up in specific places to do them and they always had someone to watch them just in case

  • No idea. I think those fantasies in anyone are rather gross.

  • Some people do fulfill it safely

  • What pleasure can be gotten from such a sick fetish.

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