Permission to cum?

I'm dating a new girl and she threw me off when I was fucking her and said that I needed to tell her that she has permission to cum. I never heard of this fetish before. If it feels good, just cum. Why does she need my permission to cum? Am I supposed to deny her for a little bit so it will build up? I like dirty talking to her but I am trying to figure out the mindset on this one. Girls, please help me out. Thanks.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Maybe she wants reassurance from you that you value her pleasure. Maybe when you aren’t in the throws, tell her that you enjoy seeing her cum anytime, as much as she can/wants to. If true, tell her it turns you on to hear and see the natural escalation. While it could signal an unhealthy sexual past or a fetish, it could also mean she wants to try to sync up orgasms with you. If that’s the case, lucky you because when that happens, everybody is in for a treat.

  • She likes being dominated and controlled in the bedroom. Yes, making her hold back a little will probably be a turn on for her. The idea of submission is key. She will likely be into you telling her what to do sexually in general. Try giving her some orders in bed and see how she reacts... and don’t ask me how I know these things. Lol

    • Yeah, she is very submissive in bed and likes the dirty talk but the permission to cum thing threw me off.

    • OK, now you've got my REALLY curious as to HOW you know!!! Feel like sharing? Send me an email at nothingtosee at yahoo dot com and tell me ALL about it! I would love to read about your experiences and/or fantasies.

Most Helpful Guys

  • are you in your late 40s? just asking because, it's interesting to hear of people sexually active in middle-ages, because i've been led to believe that 20s and 30s are when people are the most sexually active

  • She's a sexual submissive and wants to give you control. Make her wait a long time. It'll make her orgasms much more intense and easier to get her into MSOs. Multiple Screaming Orgasms.

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  • I think that's really hot! My suggestion, tell her that when she asks, she has to ask nicely and politely, in a nice soft, unrushed voice. Then, tell her, "NO, not yet" several times. Make her wait. As she's begging, ask her, "Just how bad do you want to cum?" Come up with some very naughty suggestions on what she has to do for her orgasm. For example, make her carry on a phone conversation with one of her girlfriends as you two fuck. As you two are fucking, make her confess to her girlfriend that you two are fucking. Make her brag to her girlfriend how really good you are in bed and that you love kinky sex.

    Or, tell her that if she wants permission to cum, she has to agree to invite one of her girlfriends over for a threesome AND she has to go down on her, while you watch.

  • Late reply, but yeah she is submissive, possibly in to the scene.

    Yes it’s normal.

    Sit down and chat about it, from sound of it she may introduce you to some new experiences

  • I have no idea lol. My guess is that it's probably a kink thing. If not maybe she gets messy when she cums so it's gives you a warning I don't know lol

    • She doesn't squirt or anything when she cums. Just gets real tight and moans real loud.

  • I would only warn someone if I'm going to squirt or cry.

  • I love that its do freaking Hot

  • Yes of course it's her rights

  • It's like a daddy kink thing cuz you're controlling her in all ways by not allowing her to cum until you're done with her lmao.