Polyamorous Questions?

[nirvowolf]

Poly friends, how many partners do you have? How big is your polycule? Have you ever drawn a diagram of your polycule?

Feel free to change people's names etc for privacy.

My inbox is open

[Anonymous]

I've never been involved in it, be me and a guy friend on here collaborated on a question about poly tribes. Much like any sexual question on a lame vanilla site like this, the question was a failure.

Since you seem open-minded, I'll tell you the premise of the question.

Imagine a poly tribe. You have to be voted into the tribe and be tested for STD's.

Once you're in the tribe, you have to promise to be monogamous to the tribe.

You could have sex with anyone in the tribe, but remain loyal to the tribe.

Of course, the mental midgets on this site said that everyone would cheat. But this was just a thought experiment. This was not meant to be something that actually occurred.

But people on this site can't cope with a hypothetical world, because they have no imagination. They have zero creativity, so they are just stuck here.

[nirvowolf]

Thanks, I am polyamorous and very open-minded and judgement free Your question is hard to answer truthfully. Unless I know the people and the relationships I had with them. I cannot answer if I would be fulfilled or not. Personally I've had relationships that featured no sex at all. Some we only cuddled up together, some we simply dated or hung out, maybe an occasional kiss. To me polyamory is not about sex (sexual interaction can be a great bonus) it's about forming friendships and relationships without the restrictions monogamy can place on people. So I'm willing to answer your question and truthfully but I can't be definitive. If the right people were part of this polycule. I absolutely could do that. If not the right people than I would not be a part of it. I would not cheat. Polyamory falls under the umbrella of ethical non monogamy. There's nothing ethical about cheating. My inbox is open to you if you're like.

[Opinion Owner]

Polyamory is all about love, and I don't subscribe to it. I've talked to tons a poly people on OK Cupid (before Match bought them and destroyed the site) but it's just not for me. I'm totally anti-monogamy because I know so many people who cheat. The thought of cheating makes my blood boil. But the church fucks people's brains up. Priest's molest children, but then they continue to tell you right from wrong. I am 100% for non-monogamy, but I'm clueless how the rules would work. Most of the dorks on this site are virgins, but they give the most sexual advice. I'm divorced, and it's not a great experience. I'm just celibate and trying to figure things out. I can see myself sharing my man with another women in a sexual setting, but his heart can ONLY belong to me. I love talking to poly people, and I've talked to a bunch. But it's just not my cup of tea.

[nirvowolf]

Feel free to message me, I'll answer anything I can fully and honestly to the best of my ability. I've been the person cheated on countless times, and I too have cheated twice. I in no way condone cheating and have a distaste for it as well. If you can't handle your man having feelings for another person, than polyamory is no for you. You could look at other options of ethical non monogamy. Swinging, open relationships, meeting someone for a threesome or moresome. Lots of avenues to look at.

[Opinion Owner]

Poly is is just not for me, but I respect those who can pull it off.

[Anonymous]

Just opened up to it. Have my nesting partner and open to others but not actively searching per se.

[nirvowolf]

I am the same way. I have my np for 8 years and my girlfriend for a bit over a year. Anyone else I've met just hasn't worked out. I'm not in it for the short term

[nirvowolf]

If I happen to meet someone I click with. That's great but I'm not actively seeking anything more

[Anonymous]

I’m the leader of one.

it’s mainly an agriculture type arrangement and one where those in it don’t need to worry about bills or money in general as everything is taken care off by me.

My personal polycule is 4 other women.
1 is the overall property manager. 1 is a teacher/homeschool coordinator. 1 is a doctor and the final one is my finance manager. They each get a wing of the house.

There are 3 other couples on the property, all 3 have kids and these 3 women also have a kid by me, I do have sexual access to these women. These 3 couples look after separate aspects of the property. 1 is in charge of the chicken and eggs production. 1 is in charge of milk. The final one is in charge of the various crops we grow organically.

It started out as a summer swing camp 14 years ago.

[Anonymous]

i've read about the concept of polyamorous relationships but never really experienced this , i'd be ok with having a couple different partners and wonder if it work better if they already knew each other or be better if they didn't?

[nirvowolf]

Your partners don't have to have any connection with each other. Or they can be romantically involved, or they can be best friends like my partners. Who did not know each other before me. I can't really imagine there's a correct answer to if they knew each other beforehand. It would really depend on individual people

[Anonymous]

I'm open to it but have never been in one