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Porn is so Bad and destructive, here is how I will help my son.

Porn is so Bad and destructive, here is how I will help my son.

I hear a lot of mothers say they will never let their kids have phones or access to the internet because of porn, I think this is a good thing however porn is inescapable. In our society it’s everywhere.

When children finally grow up and leave the house they might remain pure and never watch porn, but that is extremely rare so many young men who grew up in Christian homes have become addicted to porn. It is more addictive than hard drugs. Getting off it and staying off is one of the hardest things they will do

With my son I will eventually let him have access to the internet. I will promise that I will never look at his search history and I will tell him of the dangers of porn and to never look at porn but if he does and he can’t stop I am here to help you because I have gone through the same things. Coaching him in self discipline while he is still a child and living in your house is the only way you can be sure that your children won’t be burdened with this evil as adults.

I will not be angry at him or punish him for porn. The most important thing is my son wanting to stop of his own free will. Then I can help him. Punishing him gets in the way of this and puts the reason for stopping on my desires instead of his own.

I believe that instructing my son this way I can be confident that he is much less likely to suffer the way I see many young men suffer today.

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  • It would be ridiculous to deprive your child of a phone because of porn. There are apps and ways to limit or remove access if that is truly what you wanted to do. The fact is, they have friends. There are a million other ways they will get to it if they want to. I do feel very sad for women of the millennials and esp Gen Z. Men and women grew up thinking porn is real sex, and that is far far from the truth. When my oldest (who just turned 29 this past Sunday) was in that age, I found a program that ran in the background. He didn't know it was on his computer. It showed me every website, every message, everything he did. We tried to make sure he wasn't accessing that stuff. But we quickly realized there was no way to keep him or his brothers away from it. You just have to be open and honest with them. Make sure they know they can talk with mom or dad about anything. Then don't fonking judge them, or discipline them if they are caught on those sites or ask about those sites. It is natural and an ingrained drive in boys. I don't know about women as I am not one, and I have 3 boys, so dunno. But I assume women get horny also and even more so when they hit puberty. It makes us do odd stuff.

  • I believe the best way for ones kid to understand porn, sex, and everything else, is by allowing them to do whatever they want, whenever they want whilst being supportive and understanding as a parent. This way they will explore it all on their own and will hopefully learn how to treat it, how to self-care and where to draw the line as what is appropriate and not. The idea of telling that something is "bad, dangerous or forbidden" is something that never went well with me as I was determined to explore it, like I would assume most kids would these days.

    Neither myself or my wife do believe some type of porn is destructive as it can be a good tool when one wants to stimulate themselves or even enhance once sexual lifestyle. We believe though it can be destructive if as a parent you limit your kids options and set rules to live a life which are not inline with today's society norms. We believe when a child is faced with restrictions and are told not to do something, they will intend to do it and quickly vanilla porn is no longer interesting and you seek more destructive type of it.

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  • Good luck buddy! Get back to me in a decade, you delusional self righteous fool! You’ll probably do more harm than good, and will have a bizarre sick relationship similar to speaker Mike Johnson & his son — Yuck!
    Plus, you’re mistaken about the overwhelmingly bad & destructive nature of porn — gimme a break & calm down!
    Anything you stigmatize & make off limits, is gonna backfire, mark my words!!

  • porn is "lude" not destructive unless addicted.

    the more you forbid it the more he will want it. just say it is ludity.

  • How about you openly talk to your child about sex and about what is normal and what they are feeling. If you make porn restricted or taboo, they will wonder why and become more interested. If you are up front about sex, and how they can experience sex, then it is more normal and they usually have a “mehhh” attitude. Same with drinking.

  • Cancel your internet access except your personal phone and replace his smart phone with a flip.

  • I've been into it for almost 50 years, now, and it's never hurt or destroyed me.

    • If you look at those who disagree and those who liked my post there is a significant age gap. It’s because you never grew up with it. The Reason why gen Z hates porn is because of the destruction it causes in young people. You never experienced that.

    • How would you know, Dr. Freud? Dad worked across the road from our house and had Playboys, and some harder stuff, in his office and, sometimes, when I went over to visit him, he'd let me look through them. I was only about 8 or 9, if that. A few years later, his cousin, a local cop, brought over some pornos he confiscated from a raid and showed them on the wall in our living room and I sat there and watched them with them. I don't recall what all of them were about but I DO recall that one featured a girl fucking a horse! Around that same time, there was a young couple on the 2nd floor next to us who left their curtains wide open in their bedroom when they fucked and knew we could see them! They waved to me once or twice! We could just go up to the bathroom and watch them directly across the alley between our houses (about 8 feet away). After they moved out a few months later, some old woman moved in with her 30-something son and, twice, when I was about 14, he got me up into his room and molested me!! He also got my brother (13) and my oldest sister (11). Later that summer, I was sleeping on the porch swing when something bumped the chain above my head. When I woke up to see what it was, there was a guy, also in his 30's, I'd say, standing above my head beating off intent on blowing his load either on my face or in my mouth!! I also started collecting National Lampoon's when I was about 15. The "Pubescence" issue was my first one. Now, what were you saying about me not being exposed to it at a young age?

    • You were watching porn at 6 years old?

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  • At least someone on here can see the truth on porn's destructive effects. Porn addicts and the depraved will always defend degrading porn.

  • Actually watching porn is fine, nothing wrong with it.

    Religion is fucked up though, so maybe drop that addiction.

    • 100% ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️ Well said!! You took the words out my mouth 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

  • Your initial premise is wrong. There is nothing wrong with porn. Porn addiction is a fake thing invented by religious fundamentalists. If you jerk off too much then stop jerking off.

  • get him a girlfriend/ wife instead.
    he can satisfy all his desires on her

  • You can’t stop him but you can be there to guide him when he asks or when people shame him

  • You can't stop puberty, he will get his fix no matter what you say, or what you do. Let him learn his own way.

  • Thank you so much ❤️

  • Good luck with that lol

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