Porn and Romance Novels

Porn and Romance Novels

Men hate romance novels.

Women hate porn.

They're the exact same thing.

Men are all about the physical and the visual. They want to get right into sex. They want to fill their biological needs. Speaking as a man, I am dissatisfied with porn, I want real love.

Women require emotional connection and the feeling of love. That's the hard part. After that sexual satusfaction is all down hill. Or so I understand.

Porn is the closest thing for a man to sex. It fulfills what he desires. Which often affects real relationships. Porn causes unreal expectations for men and women. It can be very damaging to relationships.

Romance novels create the perfect romantic man. He will say and do anything for the woman he wants. He is always powerful, sexual and wealthy. And he is created in the mind so his appearance is always perfect. Women are set up for disappointment.

Both romance novels and porn are like junk food. We think they sustain us but they don't they are damaging. Porn destroys a mans ability for romance and emotional connection while fiction makes women desire men who cannot exist. Both are selfish and push us apart.

To have a better relationship we have to stop indulging ourselves with these quick fixes.

Men have to stop watching porn and women har to stop reading fanfics.

If that's to hard women you watch more porn. And you guys pick up twilight or 50 shades or (insert book title). Maybe we'll meet in the middle?

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  • Okay I agree that men typically like watching porn as opposed to women liking erotica.

    You're exactly right. These two things create a stereotypical model for us to subconsciously follow. No man is perfect and no woman is either.

    As far as men porn gets us to think that thrusting fast and hard the whole time is the best way to have sex without much emotions. Just raw aggression. Sure in porn they have foreplay and all, but who is that really for? Men or women? That part is probably more for women. I like foreplay, but when it comes to porn videos I skip that stuff. That's also why they created "soft porn" for women. To appeal to their emotions. The males in porn typically are model like in appearance and have above average dicks. This contributes to men being insecure about their size. Then you've got these female pornstars who have big balloon boobs and fat asses that look really huge on camera and they thus are influenced to where they want their women to look like that. Guys also think porn is about lasting a long time not realizing that they take a lot of breaks during a scene.

    Women on the other hand form this perception of what men should be. I think the sad part about sexual novels is that it's the perfect example of conflicting "nature" with nurture. Some women want to be protected and yet at the same time want a sensitive guy but he also has to be tough but also nice to her but also no a pushover. See it's conflicting to a degree and they become these "hopeless romantics" hoping they find a guy who's this imaginary guy they envisioned in their heads.

    I've also noticed how a lot of times people are deeming men for watching porn but not many people really attack women who are reading erotica. In fact society supports it. Though I'm sure a large part of that is because they are making so much damn money off it lol.

    I'll never read Twilight. That's about fairies. Only fairies I like is Peter Pan. 50 Shades of Grey is about BDSM and all that other crap. I'm not into that.

    I have read erotica plenty of times though so there.

    • Oooh lookie! Someone mentioned both Twilight and Fifty Shades of Grey as examples double points for me! Women get attack for reading erotica all time you. Fifty Shades is mommy porn remember? So any women who reads erotica must be mothers who are unsatisfied with their sex lives. Any girl who likes Twilight or Fifty You are doing it right now by saying that romance novels give women unrealistic expectations of relationships. I told my aunt I read Paranormal Romance she says, "You read that trash?". So it is totally unrealistic to want to feel safe with a guy and one who treats me with kindness and respect. Wow what a contradiction. That statement does not make any sense.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Yeahh..
    I think your thought is exactly what we, boys and girls, need..
    It's not so hard to understand both parties when you try to be in their position..
    The problems are :
    1. Not everyone know what they should do
    2. Even if they know, would they be bothered to understand and do what they must do?

    Girls and boys was created different and we'll always be..
    Therefore, we need to share our perspective and thoughts with each other, otherwise we'll never know what's going on in each other's head..

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  • If anyone can criticize that romance novels give women unrealistic expectations about love without having to mention anything published by harlequin, that's not Twillight or Fifty Shades of Grey, that is not a Nicholas Sparks novel (he refuses to call his "love stories romance novels anyway so he doesn't get to count), bodice-rippers (or even just use the word bodice ripper), or Regency romance as examples. I will eat my shoe.

    • Okay to prove how ridiculous it is to say that romance novels make women want "perfect' guys. I hate both Fifty Shades and Twilight they are awfully written, the characterization and development is a mess but I'll humor you by using those two novels as examples. Christian Grey is based off of Edward Cullen so they have the same flaw they hate themselves just for different reasons. Edward hates himself because he is a vampire so he thinks his soul is eternally damned because of his religious zealous father and is full of guilt for basically existing. Christian thinks he is "fifty shades of fuck up" because he is a sexual abusive survivor and his only sexually outlet as a result is BDSM. So Anastasia basically teaches Pinocchio how to have vanilla sex and how to be human. Now there is two main arguments about romance novels giving women unrealistic expectation about relationship and the other is it teaches woman to want asshole. You actually chose the weaker argument.

    • lol I see your hate of these two book series.

    • Yep they give romance such a bad name. It is super freaking annoying when I tell people I read Paranormal Romance and they say, "Like Twilight?". No not like Twilight what I read is nothing like Twilight! RAWR! I did a myTake on Romance novel stereotypes because of this myTake. You are welcome.

  • Guys have to release sexual tension some how. Abstinence is not healthy, and any other release besides porn requires the faculties to attract women. It is neccessary; romance novels may provide mental stimulation, but they don't proved release for an actual need. Also, women don't need love and emotional connection for sexual attraction, I'd argue the opposite actually as familiarity is anti-seductive in nature. This phenomenon can be observed in any bar or club in America. Women require emotional connection for men in a provisioning role (which is anti-seductive as well), and men in provisioning roles don't get the woman's sexual best anyway.

    • So you've given up on women and just watch porn now? Is what in getting.

    • No, women feel way better then porn. I'm just saying porn is not an accurate comparison to romance novels

    • You may not want to admit it but they are. Men watch porn, it stimulates the sexual part of their brain, they masturbate. Women read fanfic, it stimulates the sexual part of their brain, they masturbate. It's their preferred "fuel", "spank bank", whatever term you use. Why do you think the industry makes so much money?

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