Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Now, I know we're all well aware that porn is fake. Even the ameture stuff isn't much like what happens in the average married couple's bedroom. Porn is a wonderful way to spice up a dry sex life. But there's no denying that one might compare their body or their sexual performance to that which they see in internet porn . It may even be that the easy access to porn sort of screws up young people's idea of sex.
Here are the differences that I have noticed in porn:
1 - Real bodies don't look like pornstars.
Not all of us can afford the luxury of penis enlargement, labiaplasties, vaginal rejuvination. Breast, hip and butt implants. The list goes on.
2 - Porn stars ALWAYS cum.
Did you know it's actually qute hard to get a woman to cum just from vaginal penetration? Most of us need some sort of clitoral attention.
3 - Everyone's always in the mood. Again and again and again and...
Guys get tired. Sometimes a guy has trouble getting or maintaining an errection. Girls require a warm up. Foreplay. Sometimes, she really does have a headache.
4 - Porno Guys last AGES!
Seriously, quickies are great. Don't underastimate them.
5 - Bald privates.
Unless a girl has a salon on standby 24/7, she's going to have to deal with prickly regrowth. Some women don't like having a totally hairless coochie either. And men, well, a totally bald crotch is kind of strange looking to me.
6 - Porn stars hardly ever make love.
Thanks to porn , ordinary missionary sex can look kind of boring. Sure, hardcore sex and new positions are great! But it has nothing on the slow, sensual sex that's called making love. It's next level.
7 - Have you HEARD the girls in porn?
Not all of us scream like we're being murdered. Some girls are loud, sure. But if a woman starts screaming the second you enter her, she's faking it.
Do you agree?
What Girls & Guys Said
19 33You know, missionary gets boring and exhausting after awhile. You need to do other positions too. I can't come in the same position more than once in row, that's how my dick works.
Ok... The massage sex looks interesting. It doesn't look fake.
You mean... p*rn isn't real?
I disagree. We have good p*rnstar like sex, and my girlfriend cums from vaginal intercourse, and she doesn't need much foreplay and usually just wants to get straight to the sex.
A lot of my exes thought I came every time, too.
The difference is that she has told me that she has better orgasms and more of them from vaginal sex.
People argue that p*rn is fake and that it ruins relationships. Girls think the guy likes the girl but it's not true at all. What if I said that my gf reading romance novels offended me? Would it be right to assume that she loves the guy more than she loves me and that I'm not satisfying her romantically? p*rn is simply entertainment.. just like the book. If girls stop holding guys to the standard of fictional ones then maybe guys wouldn't hold girls to the standard of pornstars
Guys in romance novels do not sexually arouse us. It does not make us wet, like p*rn gives you a hard on. We know fictional guys are fake, but you could be a little more romantic. Just like men know p*rn stars are fake, but we could all be a little more like a p*rnstar in bed. Both these things create standards. But I know far more men that wish their girl's looked or acted more like their own personal p*rn stars, than women who wish their guy was more like a fictional character.
Maybe it doesn't make you wet. It does make her wet though. It's even the reason she started masturbating. Once she was drunk and starting telling her sexual fantasies about guys in romance novels. Yeah... I see no difference
Well, that's not what the majority of women do. I don't even read romance novels. If someone made me watch a romantic comedy, I'd probably neck myself in the bathroom. Perhaps this is the reason for my personal views. I don't really have a p*rn equivalent.
The only difference between p*rn and any other film is that it focuses on sex. p*rn is to men what chick flicks are to women. But it's interesting that men are not all insecure about chick flicks and try to say their girlfriends and wives shouldn't watch chick flicks the way women do about p*rn . Why is that? What is it about women that they are SOOOO threatened by p*rn?
We aren't really that threatened once we understand why you watch it. Women watch p*rn , too. A lot of us do. Not many of us will ever be comfortable with you watching and getting aroused by another naked woman who looks nothing like us, and even though we know you know it's fake, there's still the possibility that you might compare us or wish we were better in bed. That's what makes us uncomfortable. But if we can understand that a guy in a relationship only uses p*rn as more of a masturbation aid, we can come to grips with it. For couples like this, they should watch p*rn together. BUT the man must make an effort to make sure he still pays more attention to his girl or else this could just make things worse.
I agree with everything you said, and I wish more women saw it that way. But I'm curious about your thoughts regarding the fact that p*rn really is no different for men than chick flicks are for women and yet men don't react the same way women do about them. What are your thoughts on that?
Thank you. :) Well, the way I see it is that women are not sexually aroused by fictional characters. Men could make an effort be be more romantic easily. And women could make an effort to be more kinky. But I really don't think women would be so upset if you were reading erotica. Women aren't too fazed when their guy's perv on actresses in normal movies, but we're uncomfortable with you watching them naked and being sexual. We are happy to explore the things you see in p*rn with you. We just need to be sure you are 100% satisfied with us and our bodies. Haven't you ever seen those huge schlongs in p*rn? I know my guy, who has a 6 inch penis which is average, suffered for years because he thought his penis was small. He'd never seen another guy's junk aside from what was in p*rn . I'm not very loud in bed, so my guy thought he wasn't pleasing me because I never screamed. He was giving me more than enough in bed. So p*rn can affect men's confidence, too.
Romance is to women as visual sexual content is to men. Women do read romance novels and watch chick flicks and get wet over the male characters. I really don't buy that it's different and I disagree with the distinction you are trying to make. I think people are just conditioned to see it differently, but it's not really different if you break out of your conditioned mindset and see it for what it actually is. Sure, p*rn can affect men's confidence too, but it doesn't stop us from watching it and wanting our ladies to watch it too.
Guy in romance novel buys main character chocolates, then spends all night on the couch hugging her. Girl in p*rn screams house down and has the flexibility of a pretzel with the look of a playboy bunny. There's a difference there. But what helped me get over my own p*rn complex that I used to have when my guy watched p*rn , was lesbian p*rn . I watched a lot of p*rn to try and get into it so I could watch it with him. Nothing turned me on except lesbian p*rn . I suppose it was because the girls actually look like they're enjoying it in lesbian p*rn . I am not in any way attracted to females, but for some reason, lesbian p*rn turned me on harder than I do believe I've ever been turned on in my life. It woke me up to the idea that, if I wasn't actually attracted to the woman in p*rn but it still turned me on, then maybe it was the same for my boyfriend. I think it's the same with romance novels or movies. It's not the guy we are attracted to, it's what he does. Characters in novels
usually manly and a little mysterious. They have a lose temper, but are protective. They would do anything for the girl. That's what is so appealing about romance novel characters. Possibly, this is what is attractive about p*rn actresses. What they do is appealing.
Yes they are different because men and women are different, and p*rn meets a need for men that chick flicks meet the roughly equivalent need for in women. So I must respectfully disagree. But regardless, I think you have a great attitude about the subject and your man is lucky to have you. I wish more women were like you. Cheers.
>What is it about women that they are SOOOO threatened by p*rn? p*rn (and prostitution especially) free the male sexuality. That's why many nutty feminist types are against it. Sex is a bargaining chip for women. The more access men have to sex (either real or virtual), the less value that bargaining chip has.
The one similarity is that size matters, and guys like me are barred from having satisfying sex.
Size doesn't matter. How can size matter when the average g-spot location is three inches into the vagina, and orgasm from penetration is hard to reach whether your partner's penis is 2 or 9 inches? The clitoris is where the action is at. It's not how big you are, it's how you use it.
What woman is going to want to have sex with a 2" penis? Even if length isn't the be-all-end-all, girth is still very important. Women like being filled up. I have neither, so why bother?
To clarify my last statement, I'm not 2"... hell, if I was I would have killed myself long ago. I'm still below average in both measurements.
I agree 👍
I agree 100%..
I think p*rn can get in the way of many relationships, feelings we have towards our SO as we start to think that's how things should be & our self image.
It's fake.. I hate fake people, I hate fake bullshit.. I'd rather have real sex, real feelings. Real sex isn't like p*rn & guys & girls don't look like that naturally, for the most part. That's all money.
p*rn is quite disturbing with how rough it can be. I'm sorry, I don't want to be chocked & tied up like I'm being raped.
& first off, it's more for the guys perspective, what about the girls? I'm sure guys wouldn't like it so much if it was for the girls perspective & showed mostly guys.
& young women already have enough media telling them how they "should" look.
I totally agree. It's really hard to find p*rn that has focus on the guy, and even then its nothing like the usual p*rn that has a focus on the woman. I'll be honest, I used to have a very bad complex with p*rn because my partner watched it. So I started watching it to see what he was into and why he watched it. After a while, even I started looking at my boyfriend differently! I was shocked. I love my partner, find him so sexy and never thought I would think that way. It happened without me realizing it! So I stopped watching p*rn haha The positive however, was that I picked up some new moves that he enjoys.
I would like to inform you that there is a wide array of p*rn out there and not all of it is the stereotype, in fact some of it is far from it.
And some people are like people in p*rn , it's like these people are non-existent, for some reason people just like to believe that since the p*rn the watch have it most be abundant.
I agree if you're talking about mainstream p*rn but if you're talking about p*rn in general that it's too vast of a type of entertainment to make such general statements. I've seen plenty of p*rn that disproves your statements where some pornstars have terrible bodies, no one cums, one party isn't in the mood (but they become in the mood), guys who last seconds (and I know far more guys in real life who last ages, in real life I know very few guys who don't last at least 15 minutes), hairy privates, gay p*rn trust me they make love amazingly, in kinky p*rn girls tend to be quiet.
@Asker Yup, this is also very true
Yes this is all very true. But I am talking about hardcore mainstream p*rn , which is what the majority likes to watch based on PornHub's statistics, and the sex lives of average couples.