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I know everyone has their own beliefs and I am stating mine because I’m in a current battle with my S/O about pornography and viewing women.
Let’s face it, EVERYONE and literally I mean everyone has had some sort of struggle with pornography.
Pornography these days is so widely accessible whether it's videos on some porn site or magazines at the local convenience store and DVD’s. Women and men both can be insecure about their bodies, the person may not be perfect and they know it, it is quite bothersome enough having to deal with some imperfection. Especially like “I’m not beautiful enough for him/her.”
My husband once belonged to a webcam site, a well known one is all I will say, he used to go on it from time to time while he was truck driving, that’s fine because I don’t need to know about it, it wasn’t bothersome or harmful at that point.
One time while he was at home it was early in the morning, I used to sleep in never used to get up with him, I guess it may have bothered him a little (keep in mind I am no longer like that now). He was feeling in the mood, and instead of coming to me and waking me up at 3 AM in the morning he chose to go on the webcam site. I told him, I don’t care if it’s 3 in the morning if you’re in the mood you can come to me instead of looking at crap like that.
I get it if you’re single but if you have someone to be intimate with, there is no excuse unless you both agree to it and watch it together.
As I said...
With my husband it is an on-going battle I feel I may never win because he is stubborn as hell, I know he is still viewing naked women and it bothers me because he has me. If someone he wants to see has naked pictures leaked he will go and look and hide it from me.
Hiding it from your partner!? That is a no-no in a relationship; it’s like you’re lying to them and stabbing them in the back. This morning for instance he was talking to me on the phone just before work and something in his voice didn’t sound right, I must admit I snooped (I know big mistake)
So I checked his Google History with YouTube because he is using that as a way to look at naked women, lately it’s been “Naked Yoga” where you see everything on most videos, I asked him what he was up to. Because he just didn’t sound right so I knew something was wrong and he was doing something. He responded with “looking at all the crazy people outside” meanwhile I seen the search result and the video “Naked Yoga”.
He also asked me what I was accusing him of, I wasn't accusing I was asking and he got his defence up for no reason (Big Flag right there)
Pornography hurts relationships (marriages) mostly if you had already discussed it, and I don’t like this because it hurts me knowing you’re looking at it, or you're lying about it. Because he and I previously had a discussion about it hurting me especially since he is doing it behind my back. Also a long time ago I had asked him not to do it and he said he wouldn't, another lie. I also had asked him how would he feel if I put him in the same position, he said "probably the same"
Lying is really bad in a relationship, there should always be honesty and if you can’t be honest with your partner you shouldn’t do it.
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22 42While I sympathize with what you're going through, it's really not a case to blame on porn.. This is more about deceit and a marriage that has lost it's spark. I would advise you to look more at the cause than the effect.
Everything in moderation, I suppose
Struggle with pornography? Never compared myself.
I agree with the sentiment, 'if you have someone, why watch porn?', if they're emotionally available.
Porn is entertainment. Sex with a (committed) partner is about expressing love and desire, not just 'hey I am in mood to jerk off, get ready' . Treating your partner as people, not entertainment, is respectful and quite mature.
@Boss56789 : Making Love is the greatest endevour in the Cosmos.
Is Naked Yoga considered porn? It's not the worst thing out there. Sounds like you have a hangup over nudity.
If it’s main point of existence is for someone to fap to, then it’s porn
I was using as an example... No, it's not literally porn, but he is using it just to see female nudity, and I DO because he has me... Why TF would you if committed like we are? I don't look that stuff up so why TF should he? I'm happy with what I see and he his enough for me, but apparently I'm not.
I think your are taking this a little too personally. I assure you that if he he were ever offered to have sex with any of these women he would say no. Why? Because you’re his girl.
@ThePundertaker he doesn't believe in cheating either.. He's been cheated on so he knows how it feels
Don’t worry then. He loves you. 👍
xButterfly kisses87x Make a video of you doing naked yoga and show it to him. Then tell him you're going to put it on youtube. When he gets all freaked out, tell him if he doesn't want you doing it, then he shouldn't be looking at it either.
I DONT WANT PORN I LOVE MY GIRL AND WE SORT OUT OUR WANTS AND NEEDS WITH EACH OTHER WE LOVE EACH OTHER
It seems you have more of a problem with lying and deceit. Lying is never good in a relationship.
Both honestly
Lol you married a perv. Sucks to be u
not funny...
That's what happens when you go for the looks over substance. It's ok marriage number 2 will work maybe.
You don’t know me at all. I went with personality
I agree 100% percent on tht with u
Just normal (just be honest and do what you love)
I see the issue, however if someone in a relationship has a higher sex drive or fetishes that the other partner isn’t in to then i believe it can be a release of sexual tension.
Both parties need to communicate however why they need porn or watch it and that it has nothing to do with not being attracted to your partner but rather a way of engaging in your fetishes in a safe way if your partner isn’t interested in them
It's OK for lonely introverted people, a nice outlet. I can't imagine why girls object to porn but don't object to dating jerks
It killed my relationship when she found out that I looked at it in highschool and wrote my own erotica at times. She constantly tried to reform me when after I had met her I stopped yet she never believed me and it soon broke us apart.
Wow, that's very extreme. I understand why (some) women don't like it when their guy watches porn, but to get this upset over something that happened in high school...
@GuyWannaHelp yeah I know # crazy
I have literally zero "struggles" with porn. Porn is simply entertainment.
Your insecurity with porn is like most females, it starts with the idea that it has something to do with you or a lack of something you do or have, but it doesn't.
Guys can have sex and immediately go watch porn because sex and porn are different things. Just like sex and a chick flick are separate things to women.
Him watching porn is NOT about him being stubborn, he shouldn't have to stop because of YOUR issues. Porn is natural male visual fantasy and is no different than female mental fantasy.
Your snooping is wrong and if he could see what you get off to in your head he might be just as bothered. (Since the most common female fantasy is forced sex by a stranger).
Your controlling and shaming of his natural fantasy is a form of abuse and if he tried to force you to stop your natural mental fantasy, it would be attacked for the abusive controlling nature of the act.
The reason he got defensive is that you were controlling and shaming him.
Porn only hurts relationships because women turn it into an issue.
If males got defensive and made female fantasy an issue it would "hurt" relationships as well. But men don't attack female fantasy, even though female fantasy is usually more demanding on men than male fantasy is on women.
Men don't generally watch porn and compare their partner to the women in porn, it's simply entertainment. But women watch chick flicks or read romance crap and want their partner to be more like the character (s). (*yes women fantasize about romance, love, feelings, emotions, and sex. So a chick flick or book is the same as male visual fantasy about sex)
A female trying to stop something natural regardless of her reasoning is wrong. If a male told you to stop having your period because he didn't like it, and made you feel bad every time you had it, you would eventually start lying about it and hiding it. Because you would be ashamed of it even though you couldn't help it.
You need to get over your own issues and stop trying to make them his issues to deal with.
I have no words to describe the genuine authenticity of this comment!
Slow clap.
Pornography hurts relationships and marriages only if one of the people involved is a jealous and insecure fucktard. Normal people know that watching porn is normal, and it has absolutely nothing to do with your relationship status
Good Take
"Let’s face it, EVERYONE and literally I mean everyone has had some sort of struggle with pornography."
False.
Let's face it: The author is a fool.
@Anon-ymous1 No, she just has a different experience. If you had a hard experience in life, it doesn't make you a fool. Choosing what to do about it matters. That's the only place I see her wasting her energy.
@Boss56789 thank you so much :)
@Boss56789 cept the only part is im not wasting my energy, since it has turned to an addiction for him
Porn seems to do more harm than good to a society in my opinion
I never had a reason to look at porn when I have someone and if they are always there to satisfy my needs then I don’t know why anyone would look at it except to admire beauty sometimes but since I’m single I do look at it sometimes for masturbation purposes only
Even still. You have a partner why? Some people do it out of boredom though
Not sure if you’re right there and already told him it’s ok to wake you for it, he wants something different to get off to I’m guessing
big turn off sorry
I think it won't hurt the relationship but its not good to watch porn for it fuck up your head.
Depends... if you lie and hide it. It can hurt someone
Porn is cheating accordance to me, I dont like it as a Christian i am not allowed to watch it anyways.
Agreed I share the same views
How does porn fuck your head up?
@Red_Dragon If you love your girl why should you watch porn plus porn fuck you up cause as a man we might see any girl nacked